Master The Art of Yoni Massage in 10 Steps (Exclusive Tantra Sex Guide)

Yoni massage is one of the most important of all tantric practices and occupies a sacred place within the tantric tradition.

Learning how to give an excellent sensual massage will not only enable you to become a fantastic lover but also bring new levels of sexual intimacy into your relationship.

Becoming skilled in yoni massage will give you profound mental, spiritual, emotional, and physical healing for your woman.

This is invaluable and will impact her for the rest of her life.

Like anything of value, the ability to give a good yoni massage does not come easily or naturally.

It's much more than just stimulating her intimately or helping her reach a quick release.

You must study the anatomy, learn the techniques, and then practice.

Around the world, yoni massage is taught to men by tantric masters for vast sums of money.

I have 1500 hours of certified tantra training in giving and teaching tantric yoni massage. However, I am uncomfortable with the fact that this practice is unavailable to people who cannot afford it. For this reason, I have decided to write this article.

Today, I’ll explain it all to you:

I’ll teach you how to give a yoni massage and carry out yoni mapping from start to finish.

The beauty I’ve witnessed while giving Yoni massages is too much and too important to keep the information to myself.

So, get your pen and paper out.

Be prepared to take screenshots.

It’s about to get serious in this classroom…

What Is Yoni Massage?

Contrary to a sensual massage or vulva massage, which is for pleasure only. Yoni massage is a conscious massage done in a tantric way for sexual healing.

It involves the entire body, including breast massage and yoni mapping.

Followed by massaging the outer and inner energy points and sacred female zones (G, A, and C-spots).

Watch: Yoni Mapping And Full-Body Technique

Before the written steps, it helps to see the hand positions and the pace. This walkthrough covers the sensual full-body approach, yoni mapping, and the finger techniques the written guide describes below.

How To Give A Yoni Massage? 10 Steps Full Instructions

Before you begin: four things that are not optional

This practice involves internal contact, so a few basics belong in place before step one. None are complicated, and skipping them is how a session meant to heal ends up doing the opposite.

• Explicit, ongoing consent. Agree beforehand what is and is not on the table, and agree a word that stops everything instantly. Honour it the moment it is said, with no discussion and no visible disappointment. If she cannot stop it easily, she cannot relax into it — and the relaxation is the whole mechanism.
• Hands. Nails short and filed smooth with no rough edges, hands washed. Internal tissue is delicate and a ragged nail is the most common way this practice causes injury.
• Lubricant, generously. Coconut oil is fine for external work but degrades latex — use a water-based lubricant if condoms or silicone are involved. Friction on dry tissue is not intensity, it is abrasion.
• Know the difference between release and injury. This is the part people most often get wrong, and it is covered in the mapping section below.

In this article, I will go into enough detail for you to perform a full yoni massage, even if you have never given as much as a foot massage before.

Quick Overview

1. Calm down and control your sexual energy by getting present.
2. Prepare a clean and beautiful physical space.
3. Consecration and Yoni Massage opening ritual.
4. Full-body massage.
5. Breast massage.
6. Outer yoni massage
7. Enter her yoni temple with the squeeze and release technique.
8. Yoni mapping process.
9. Hand pump and squirting.
10. Finishing relaxation and integration process.

1. Calm down and control your life-force energy by getting present.

When it comes to yoni massage, your energy is everything.

Within Tantra, massage is NOT a sexual practice.

It does not and should not lead to sexual intercourse – ever.

Yoni massage isn’t foreplay.

You are creating a sacred and safe space for the receiver to relax, let down her walls, and allow deep healing to take place.

Make sure you mentally prepare beforehand to get into the right frame of mind. 🧘‍♂️

Control your sexual energy.

You are a channel for divine healing – not a lusty man eager to get his hands on a naked female body for his self-centered pleasure.

Women are sensitive creatures. If you approach her with even a scrap of sexual desire, she’ll sense it.

Moreover, achieving the true purpose of yonic massage will be impossible.

2. Prepare a clean and beautiful physical space.

Once you have cultivated a suitable internal space, your next step is to prepare the external one.

Turn that bedroom into a temple.

Put her nerves at ease by preparing a space fit for a Goddess.

In advance of the Yoni massage...

...make sure that you have the following items:

• Coconut oil (Or some other massage oil like almond oil).
• Flower petals.
• Candles (as many as possible).
• Incense (sandalwood or frankincense are pleasing).
• Several towels. (There can be a lot of body fluids released.)
• White clothing for yourself. (This isn’t essential, but it is a nice touch in line with the tantric tradition of purity.)

Once you have all of the items, you’re ready to go.

Turn off the bright lights, light candles, scatter flower petals over the bed, and burn incense.

Spread several towels in the space where she will be lying.

If you want, you can play some soft music.

3. Consecration and Yoni Massage opening ritual.

It is expected to consecrate a tantric ritual before it begins. This is an offering of the act and its fruits to a higher power or deity.

To consecrate, sit opposite your woman. Take her hands in yours, close your eyes, and recite the following aloud:

“I offer this yoni massage and all of its outcomes to a higher power”.

You can replace “higher power” with God, Lord Shiva, Source, or Universal Consciousness – if you want to.

Sit for a few moments in silence, hand in hand.

Wait for as long as it takes for any feelings of nervousness to drop away.

Perform a synchronized deep breathing exercise and breathe as one.

This will create a unified container of unconditional love for the erotic massage.

Open your eyes.

Embrace each other.

OK, now you’re ready to start massaging.

4. Full-body massage.

Any tantric therapeutic massage begins with a full-body massage or a glide massage. This relieves tension and allows the woman to feel entirely comfortable with different types of touch.

As with any bodywork, apply a generous amount of oil to your hands and rub them together.

Start massaging at the neck and shoulders. Most people carry a lot of tension here so you can be quite firm. Encourage her feedback throughout the entire massage.

After the neck and shoulders, gradually work your way down either side of her spine. Then massage the butt, thighs, calves, and feet.

At this point, you can slide your hands underneath the front of her thighs and massage them from behind. This is a highly erogenous zone and her yoni will respond to this kind of touch.

After you have massaged her entire body, ask her to lie on her back.

Mentally prepare to start massaging her more intimate parts.

Sit in between her legs.

Remember: control your sexual energy. Make sure that you are physically comfortable. You are going to be in this for the long haul. If she senses that you are uncomfortable, she won’t be able to surrender.

5. Breast Massage.

After the full body massage, it is time to give her a breast massage. Many women have highly sensitive breasts and stimulating them can be felt directly in the clitoris.

Even if your woman doesn’t experience this, breast massage will turn up the intimacy dial and prepare her for the yoni massage.

Using a circular motion, cup her breasts in your hands. Starting from the center, use your thumbs to massage in opposite directions. The left thumb will be going counter-clockwise and the right thumb clockwise.

Use two fingers to massage from the belly button to the sternum. Hold both breasts gently in your hands and caress them in a firm but gentle manner.

Use your intuition to guide you. Pay particular attention to her nipples and delicate sternum.

Get out of your head and into your body. Chances are that whatever you are doing will feel highly enjoyable to her.

6. Outer yoni massage

Now that you have warmed up her entire body, you are ready to start massaging her yoni, starting with the outside – the labia majora and labia minora. (see image)

With plenty of oil, begin with the outer lips (labia major).

Using your thumb and index finger, rub the lips between your fingers.

You can also squeeze them gently.

After this, move onto the inner lips (labia minora).

Use two fingers. ✌️

After the inner lips, you can start stimulating her clitoris.

Check with her whether she likes the clit to be directly stimulated or not.

For some women, it is simply too sensitive.

Others enjoy direct stimulation.

Throughout the yoni massage – communicate!

By the time you’ve finished working on or around the clit, she should start becoming aroused.

You will probably notice she is getting wet and/or breathing heavily, which is a good sign.

Next up, massage the entrance to her yoni with your thumbs.

This area often gets ignored during sexual play.

But it is actually a highly sensitive area, with a LOT of nerve endings.

7. Enter her yoni temple with the squeeze and release technique.

At this point, you’re ready to go inside of her.

Her yoni should be excited, inviting you inside.

Regardless of this, ask her whether she is ready to be penetrated.

When you receive a yes, slide your middle finger SLOWLY inside.

As you do so, ask her to squeeze and release her pelvic floor muscles:

• You will feel her yoni contract as she squeezes.
• As she releases, you’ll feel it too.
• When you do, allow your finger to be sucked in – ‘drawn’ inside by her yoni.
• Pause.
• Tell her to squeeze and release again.
• Slide your finger a little more further.
• Repeat until your finger is fully inside of her.
• And rest here for a while.

8. Yoni mapping process.

At this point, you can start the healing practice of yoni mapping.

The purpose of yoni mapping is to find out where she has tension, numbness, or even pain.

Then, we will work these issues out with a trigger point internal massage, also known as a de-armoring process. 

Yoni mapping is mind-blowing to most women. 

Because it’s the first time in their life they link certain parts of their intimate parts in their brain.

So it’s LITERALLY mind-blowing.

So, how do you do it?

• Starting with the right wall, massage 1, 3, and 5 o’clock.
• Then change to the left wall and massage 7, 9, and 11 o’clock.
• Apply light pressure on the tip of the finger and increase it SLOWLY.
• Where the sensation is a dull ache that softens as she breathes into it, stay with it until it subsides. Where it is sharp, burning, stinging or tearing, come off it immediately. That is not held tension releasing — that is tissue telling you to stop, and pressing through it causes damage rather than healing.

Yoni mapping can take 30-40 minutes and can be a very emotional process for a woman.

After this, you can proceed to the deeper inner spot.

• Circle around the entire neck with one finger.
• START GENTLY.
• Many women carry tension, sensitivity or numbness here, and patient work can genuinely help. Persistent pain is a different matter and should not be massaged away: pain on entry or during contact can indicate infection, vaginismus, vulvodynia, endometriosis, or scar tissue from tearing or surgery. Those need medical assessment, not bodywork. If pain is the reason you are reading this page, start with a doctor.
• After the deep inner spot (cervix), move on to the G-spot (the sacred spot in tantra) and A-spot – both at 12 o’clock.
• The G-spot is closest to the entrance of her yoni.
• And the A-spot is as deep inside the yoni canal as possible.

Note: Constant feedback during Yoni mapping is imperative. She can then tell you if she feels pain or numbness, and you can work on this area a little longer. So make sure to encourage and respond to it.

9. Hand pump and squirting.

Remember those towels I told you to lay down on the bed?

This is when they are going to come in handy.

Once you have worked through yoni mapping, it is time to intensely stimulate the G-spot via the ‘Handpump’ (see image above).

Done correctly, this should make her water releases – possibly quite a lot.

The trick to this technique is to really use your whole arm to apply pressure – not just your fingers.

Insert your middle and index finger, just inside of her at 12 o’clock.

The spongy area is the G-spot.

Starting with a ‘come hither’ motion, stimulate it.

You should feel it engorging as you do so.

Gradually increase the strength and pressure of the stimulation until you are moving your whole hand and arm up and down.

When stimulated in this way for a long enough period, she can begin to squirt, producing either a small or a large amount of fluid.

Again, make sure to communicate throughout this part of the massage.

This kind of stimulation can produce a strong sensation likenable to needing to pee, or even burning for her.

Stop if she asks you to, but make sure to inform her that such sensations are normal and all part of the process.

The more she is able to surrender and give herself to you, the more pleasure she will feel from this intense experience. 

If she tells you that she really wants to have an orgasm but isn’t doing so from the G-spot alone, you can stimulate her clit at the same time.

Note: some women orgasm, or even have multiple orgasms, during squirting. Some don’t. Both are normal. So PLEASE don’t force it, nor have a goal-oriented agenda that she has to squirt or even orgasm.

10. Closing the Yoni massage and integration process.

When the squirting is over, she is likely to feel emotionally wide open and quite exhausted.

To demonstrate your remaining, loving presence, cup her yoni.

Place the palm of one hand on top of the outer lips, with your fingers pointing towards the navel.

The other hand should be place on her heart.

Stay in this position for several minutes. She may never have been held like this before and to be so can be deeply healing in and of itself.

Once you intuitively know it is time, remove your hands and sit by her side. Tell her that there is no need to move and that she can take all the time in the world.

Close the yoni massage by connecting eye-to-eye, and with a long embrace.

Conclusion: Beyond Yoni Massage

So, this concludes your comprehensive guide to offering a healing and heart-centered yoni massage.

This type of mindful practice can open the door to deeper intimacy, trust, and emotional connection within any relationship. By shifting focus from physical technique to presence, compassion, and energetic awareness, both partners can experience profound relaxation and renewal. It becomes not just a form of touch but a spiritual and emotional dialogue that supports balance and mutual growth.

Suppose you’d like to delve deeper into the world of tantra, sacred connection, mindfulness, ritual, and conscious touch, while also fostering your personal growth and relationship confidence.

In that case, you’re invited to join my free men’s training.

There, you’ll learn how to cultivate embodied intimacy skills, strengthen polarity, and deepen emotional intelligence within your partnerships

If you need more info on this topic after reading this, check out Sex instructor Laura Rose Halliday, who also teaches Yoni massage, in one of her articles.

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