How to Make a Woman Squirt (8 Detailed Steps & Best Positions)

After first diving into tantric intimacy, I have to admit that I’ve been somewhat envious when it comes to the deep, full-body orgasms women get to experience.

Seriously, they get all the fun flavors and durations! 

Sure, men can achieve an extended blissful release. However, my 10+ years of knowledge as a tantra and embodiment coach have made it clear that it’ll never come close to what most women can experience. 

This article will guide you through how to make a woman squirt and help your partner experience squirting, also called female ejaculation.

It's not rocket science, but it does involve a mix of trust and technique.

Gently explore the area sometimes called the G-spot using slow, mindful movements. Begin softly and allow natural feedback to guide the rhythm and pressure while keeping open communication to ensure comfort and relaxation.

Before all that, though, she must be comfortable and relaxed. Building trust and taking your time is key.

To deepen your understanding, you can watch the video I made to complement this article:

What It Means To Make Women Squirt 

Making a woman squirt involves stimulating the Skene’s glands, also known as the female prostate. These release fluid during arousal and connection.

Like the male prostate, these glands share embryonic origins with male anatomy. When the G-spot is stimulated, it can trigger squirting.

In tantric sex, the fluid women release is called Kalas or Amrita. It is seen as a symbol of divine feminine energy and vitality.  

It’s believed to be sacred and even considered an elixir of youth, as it can offer healing benefits. 

Tantric traditions even suggest that Amrita's properties vary with the moon's phases, resulting in 16 types of energetic expressions.

Now, this liquid is invaluable. It should be saved for ritualistic purposes and shared with lovers, strengthening emotional connection and intimacy.

Squirting is a uniquely soothing and warm release. 

A common misconception is that squirting comes at the peak of bliss, but most times, that’s not true. Squirting tends to happen at the start of arousal, sometimes after a gentle, blissful release. 

An article on WebMD even states that: 

“Not all people with vaginas squirt during orgasm, and those who do may only do it some of the time”

In other words, squirting and orgasm are not the same thing. They’re both different from one another. 

The Orgasm Gap

* Data adapted from this German study.

The "orgasm gap" is the difference in how often men and women reach blissful release during intimacy. 

Most men experience masculine release fairly quickly, but most women do not experience their own orgasm as often. There are many reasons for this — from a lack of understanding of female anatomy to emotional and social factors.

To bridge this gap, you must understand female pleasure and energy flow, especially the vagina.

Next, communicate openly. Partners should discuss what feels good. Emotional connection and body confidence are critical for a woman’s intimate satisfaction.

You should also note that a woman being naturally moist doesn’t indicate arousal. Instead of looking for wetness as a cue for her being turned on, look for shallow breath and flushed cheeks. Pay attention to what she’s saying.

Here’s a few tips to turn her on

• Use oil to enhance pleasure and reduce discomfort
• Focus on gentle outer and inner touch before and during connection.
• Foreplay is your best friend, so don’t be afraid to tease her 
• Build anticipation by sending flirty texts throughout the day, whispering to her ear what you’re going to do, and kissing her passionately.
• During lovemaking, continuously ask what feels good to her
• Appreciate your own body to build confidence.
• Celebrate your partner’s body, as it helps build emotional intimacy, which can help close the orgasm gap

Remember, ladies first. Make your woman happy and satisfied before you.

Squirting vs. Urination

Squirt comes out of the urethra, which is the same passage as pee. 

When a woman squirts, the fluid may contain tiny amounts of urine. However, if she empties her bladder beforehand, the Amrita will be mostly water.

That said, squirting isn’t the same as peeing. 

As a woman is on the verge of squirting, she might feel like she needs to pee. The sensation of needing to pee happens because stimulating the G-spot can press the bladder. Still, it’s not equal to squirting since squirting involves fluid from the Skene's glands, not waste.

Encouraging her to relax and let go of this sensation can lead to Amrita flow, which is an entirely different experience from simply urinating.

How To Make A Woman Squirt In 8 Steps

I’ll go through each of the steps below. A bit further down this guide, I’ll share how you can use your mindful touch to help her squirt, and which sex positions are best for energetic harmony. 

1. Introduce polarity to hold space for her surrender

Squirting isn’t possible without sexual polarity. 

A man must step into his masculine frame and allow his woman to let her natural feminine energy flourish. You need to take the dominant role as a man. 

In other words, you must fix who you are outside the bedroom first before expecting anything significant to happen in the intimate connection. This includes developing confidence, overcoming blockages, and nurturing your emotional depth. 

Without confronting your blockages, you can prevent your woman from allowing her natural femininity to flourish. 

Sure, an intimacy educator can teach you all the techniques. But what they don’t emphasize enough is the concept of sexual polarity. If this doesn’t exist between you and your woman, she won’t be able to squirt. 

If you’re unsure whether the masculine or feminine is your leading energy, take this energy quiz!

2. Help her relax her mind and build trust in you

To make her squirt, she’ll go through the same feeling as though she needs to pee. If she’s not relaxed, she won’t release. 

So, you must be confident in the bedroom for her to feel comfortable. Give her reassurance and let her know it’s okay. Having goals and expectations will hinder the release. 

Another way to help her relax is by making the environment as comfortable and calming. Here are a few suggestions:

• Choose a familiar location. Comfort and a relaxed mind are essential. A new or different location might not always work. 
• If a hotel is out of your budget, try new bedding or a comfortable intimacy cushion.
• Ensure your surroundings are quiet. Put the phones on silent and have a trusted friend or family member babysit the kids for the evening.
• Check the temperature. Women tend to release far more effortlessly when they feel warm and cozy.  
• Play soft music in the background or whatever works best for you both. 
• Tidy the room and house. A chaotic environment is distracting. This can even cut your woman off from her intimacy pleasure. 
• Have a towel prepared if it makes her feel more comfortable. You can also add plastic protection under the sheet so she can relax and not worry about making a mess. 
• Lay a towel down if it makes her more comfortable.
• Remove blue light. Stick to a few soft, warm bulbs or candles only!

Overcome the sensation of urination

Let me clarify that she must be relaxed and comfortable enough to overcome the sensation of needing to urinate. 

This feeling happens because the Skene's glands, which release the fluid, are located near the bladder. So, the pressure can mimic the urge to pee during G-spot stimulation. 

Reassure her that this is normal and encourage her to relax and let go. Letting go of this sensation is key to experiencing amrita, the tantric name for this fluid. 

3. Start with a sexual massage

Even better, give her a tantric massage or a nuru massage. It’s a good way to get things started and helps her focus on her comfort and sensations. Let her know, “This is just for you, babe. Relax.”

Another type of massage that works is a de-armoring massage. This helps remove tension or pain that might prevent her from squirting.

Here are a few more tips:

• Have your partner lie face down and lightly massage her. Skip intimate areas.
• Move your hands down her lower back. Skip over her butt and then down the backs of her thighs and calves using firm pressure.
• Once her relaxation builds, spread her legs wide apart and massage her inner thighs using firm pressure.
• Move with patience and awareness, softly circling the outer area to awaken sensitivity and relaxation. As the connection deepens, use gentle, rhythmic touch to explore further.
• Now, flip your woman over and start massaging her front. Spend time around her outer labia, but avoid touching her clitoris directly. 

4. Awaken her clitoris

Arouse her by gently stimulating the clitoris. 

Start with slow, light touches around the vagina and outer and inner labia. Slowly increase pressure and rhythm as she becomes more aroused. 

Pay attention to her responses, adjusting your movements accordingly. You can also explore the entrance to her yoni using soft, circular motions. 

5. Insert your fingers using proper finger techniques

Don’t just go rushing with your hands right away. 

No forceful movements right now—remember, you need to build things up. 

Go slow. 

Overstimulating her won’t do the trick. 

Here are the exact finger techniques to apply: 

Gateway Dipping 

The area around the yoni opening is often quite sensitive. Lightly rest your lubricated fingertip near the entrance, and use gentle, rhythmic movements that encourage warmth and ease rather than stimulation. This subtle movement can help stimulate the area's sensitive nerve endings. 

Two-Finger Probing

If she's comfortable and warmed up, suggest exploring with an additional finger, using the index and middle fingers together. Ensure your hand is relaxed and well-lubricated. Gently shape your hand like a pistol with the two fingers extended, and if she's ready, slowly and carefully guide them in and out with long, smooth movements. Always respect her pace and boundaries.

Pro tip: Use your thumb to the outer labia to stimulate her clitoris while simultaneously massaging internally.

A-Spot Circular Caress

Begin by ensuring relaxation and openness, then explore inward with gentle awareness toward the inner sacred area located along the upper wall. Use soft, circular motions and stay attuned to subtle responses. Consistent communication and attentiveness help maintain safety, relaxation, and mutual trust throughout the experience. The emphasis is always on energetic connection and emotional harmony rather than technique itself.

Come here motion 

Gently guide your fingers upward with soft, curved motions toward the front inner area while keeping communication open and movements light. This region, called the G-spot, has a subtly textured surface; explore slowly and stay attentive to your partner’s signals. Adjust rhythm and pressure only if comfort and relaxation are maintained, focusing on connection and internal sensation rather than intensity or mechanics.

6. Warm up the G-spot

At this point, you should have found the exact technique that’s making your woman feel like she’s in heaven. 

Except, she’s not quite there yet. It’s time to focus on the G-spot to warm it up for squirting. 

Here’s how to do this:

• Push both your index and middle fingers into find the G-spot. 
• Looking for feedback — with enough awareness and communication, you’ll find it.
• Start doing circular movement here and try different pressures.
• Add more pressure and speed to her G-spot until it feels more soothing and pleasurable. 

7. Use the hand pump technique

For this step, ensure to use plenty of oil.

We have finally arrived at the step that makes it all work: 

The famous and magical G-Spot pump technique! 

Also known as the yang position.

Here’s how to do the technique:

• Create the ‘I Love You’’ sign symbol with your dominant hand.
• Curl your middle and ring fingers slightly and place them on the G-spot.
• Move your hand up and down, ensuring the movement comes from your arms and shoulders.
• See the image above to copy the technique.
• Find a groove by rhythmically pulsing her inner wall.
• To get her experience deeper sensations, you must use your whole arm to apply pressure, not just your fingers and hand. You will get exhausted quickly and likely not be able to continue as long as she needs it.
• Next, pull your index and ring finger back towards you in a gentle rhythmic motion.
• Gradually increase the pace, letting her ride the waves of energy.

You don’t even need complete intimacy mastery to do this. Get the hand position right for the G-spot pump, and you’ll reach energetic flow. 

8. Ramp it up by putting her in this top-tier squirting position

Although this move is advanced and intensive, it’s one of the best orgasm positions. And if your woman is already experienced, this can make her squirt more intensely!

Continue ramping it up, except make a slight change. Put her knees to her belly, and then place your hand on her upper inner area. 

Your free hand should be placed just above the pubic bone on the soft muscles. You’re doing right when you feel the tip of your fingers inside her upper yoni wall against your flat hand, pressing down on the A-spot area.

Remember, it needs to be steady and consistent. Be consistent and repeat the same movements that she’s finding pleasurable.

If she loves how you do it, don’t suddenly change things up. Keep at it, but up the tempo! 

Here are a few ways:

• Have her release muscular tension.
• Give her a sudden burst of increased speed and pressure, and keep this stimulation the same until she releases herself. 
• Withdraw your fingers in slow pulsing motions.. 
• Have her push outwards (also known as bearing).
• Give a few seconds to rest, and then ramp it up again.

Once she reaches her edge and releases, she will squirt, orgasm, or both!

The Best Sex Positions for Squirting

With all of these sex positions, what’s crucial is that YOU can maintain the posture. For energetic flow, she’ll need a lot of continuous pumping, so make that a priority.

Now, it’s also worth noting that energetic dynamics exist in every connection. These help partners build trust and deepen polarity. If you introduce too much intensity too soon, it can create discomfort.

The last level is where she squirts. This is the ultimate act of sexual polarity. 

Position 1: The Launch Pad

The "Launch Pad" position is a favorite among many women, offering a pleasurable sense of dominance for the man. To get into this position, have the woman lie on her back with her knees bent towards her chest. The man then lifts her legs, allowing her to rest her feet on his chest. Leaning forward, the man can achieve deep union, making this position ideal for squirting.

For added comfort, place a pillow under the woman's pelvis.

Position 2: The Crab

The "Crab" position is a variation of the rider pose, where the receiving partner is on top, facing either away or towards the penetrating partner. The receiving partner leans back, supporting themselves with their hands behind them and their feet flat on the surface, resembling a "crab" shape. This position allows the receiving partner to control the depth and pace of penetration using their legs and arms.

The Crab position offers unique angles for union and can provide internal sensations for both partners, but it requires some physical strength, flexibility, and coordination.

Communication and patience are essential for ensuring both partners are comfortable and enjoying the experience. Variations can include using walls or furniture for support.

Position 3: Squatting Groundhog

The "Squatting Groundhog" position is easy to assume and offers unique sensations for the giving partner, although it may be challenging for the receiving partner's knees and legs. With a lower center of gravity, the giving partner can thrust vigorously with minimal risk of slipping or losing balance.

The downward angle of union can stimulate the vaginas, making it enjoyable for the receiving partner and ideal for squirting.

However, maintaining this low position can be strenuous for the receiving partner's legs, so placing pillows under their pelvis can help increase their comfort and the giving partner's endurance.

Position 4: From Behind

A face-down position from behind is the best for G-spot stimulation. This increases her sensations like crazy!

Doggy is a popular position, so you and your partner may already be familiar with it.

And there is also a lot of variations you can try here, like the reclined heart-to-back flow.

Can All Women Really Squirt?

Yes, in theory all women can. 

However, many women have physical and emotional blockages that prevent them from experiencing this sensation. This could be the reason why only 40% of US women have ever experienced what it’s like to squirt.

Psychological issues prevent a woman from opening herself up fully. If this is the case, a Yoni massage can help. 

For some women, release may come easier after they’ve had a baby. This can happen because the pelvic floor muscles aren’t the same as before.

And for most women, they’ve trained their bodies to experience pleasure under specific conditions, which can also be why some partners find orgasm challenging to support.

Conclusion: Understanding the Squirting Response

Follow all the steps discussed, and you’ve got the essential tools you need to know how to help a woman squirt.

Gifting your partner that pleasure is something she’ll never forget. Not every man knows how to make her squirt, but anyone can learn how. 

But there’s another part to add to the equation. 

Mastering the art of making women squirt isn't just about techniques. It's also about connection, communication, trust, and awareness. If you can create safety and presence, you’ll nurture genuine intimacy.

And if you can make a woman flourish in her femininity, she’ll be all over you. 

Understanding a woman’s energetic pathways is about connection, not performance. Practicing awareness, patience, and trust can lead to shared blissful release and emotional harmony. 

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