I am the founder of the Tantric Academy of Sacred Sexuality. Here at the academy, I host a mentorship program called the Tantric Man Experience. Through this program, I strive to empower men to realize and tap into their full masculine confidence, intimate power, and their ability to connect with themselves and their partner on a deeper level than ever before. Throughout my years of experience in hosting this mentorship, I have helped hundreds of men from all around the world to master their sexual energy and save their relationship or attract their dream partner.
My Hero’s Journey
For far too long, I wanted to have true purpose in life. Luckily for me, that purpose began at a young age, and I’ve had the ability to nurture that purpose throughout my journey. In fact, my life fits perfectly in line with the famous story of the Hero’s Journey.
The first stage in that epic mythology is the separation from the known, normal world.
Stage 1:
My Search Out Of The Dark
Night of The Soul
My story began when I was a boy. At a young age, I experienced the instability of my mother’s bipolar sickness and alcoholism. She couldn’t take care of herself, let alone her children, so I grew up without much of my mother’s presence and care.
Having a bipolar mother that could shift at any moment created an insecure and hostile environment that resulted in a complex PTSD trauma.
Not having the love and nourishment that a mother gives to a child during their upbringing created an abonnement wound and a skewed relationship with the Feminine in general.
I didn’t know how to interact with girls, and I was detached from my sexuality. This deep-seated blockage caused me to fall into an intense and extensive period of loneliness, where I struggled to hold intimate relationships for several years.
Breaking My Naiveté About Love
During my first relationship, I felt like I was walking on clouds. It was the best feeling in the world, but as the saying goes, love is blind. I believed it was real love; it was merely an attachment. In hindsight, I wanted to fill my lack of feminine nourishment through sex and female attention. Essentially, feeling good about myself became an addiction.
It was an extremely rocky relationship, since I couldn’t make myself available to her emotionally. And looking back, it’s no wonder that I wasn’t able to do it; I never learned how to feel emotions, or how to use my emotions skillfully to get close to myself and another human being. As a child, I had learned to suppress them in order to survive.
Hitting Rock Bottom
I hit rock bottom when I found out she had been cheating on me with multiple guys for a whole year. Finding out what happened shocked my world to the core and it catapulted me into a dark night of the soul. In those moments, all my trauma and wounds came to the surface, and I didn’t have the tools or maturity to deal with it.
Because I was not able to process it, I started to feel estranged to the world. I made poor decisions and got involved with the wrong crowd. But I knew this wasn’t the life I wanted to live.
There was a strong resilience in me that drove me forward into seeking healing and overcoming my seemingly insurmountable obstacles.
Many of my mentors said that it was a wonder that I did not go down the normal trajectory of drugs, destructive life choices, and negative coping mechanisms that most people with my trauma do.
I needed to get out,
I had to find answers to heal and transform myself.
Around the same time, my best friend suddenly died in his early twenties from an accident. He was my neighbour, and we were the same age. We’d connected through sharing the same mission of self-development, so it’s obvious to say that this incident had a deep impact on me. But at the same time, it served as a catalyst to a personal spiritual awakening. For the first time in my life, I felt like I could witness my own thoughts and mind. It was as though I was separated from them, and time became slower, colors became more crisp, and my vision became clearer.
That awakening helped me become more aligned with my intuition. My heart’s yearning said “there has to be more to life,” and I knew I had to follow the call to set out on an adventure to seek the truth.
Stage 2:
The Adventure
In The Shadows Begins
My desire to get more out of life led me to one of the biggest risks that I had ever taken up until that point in my life. I got rid of my apartment, stored my belongings in boxes, sold my car, and set out on a solo pilgrimage trip around the world.
In the Hero’s Journey, this stage is often represented by an ordeal or a challenge, or what ancient cultures called a “walkabout,” or vision quest.
My own version of the second stage started with a single one-way flight ticket in my hand. With my backpack on my shoulders, and a broken heart inside of me, I began my search for answers. This was, in effect, my quest to heal and transform my life.
After years of traveling, I visited more than 21 countries, and spent over $75k, but I had finally found what I was looking for.
When I first encountered the far eastern countries of India and Thailand, I was exposed to the mysticism of Yoga and Tantra for the first time. Instantly, I was hooked. It immediately resonated with me, and it was almost as if I knew in my heart that this is what I was supposed to do with my life.
I started to study esoteric tantric science and practiced in the foothills of the Himalayas. Each year, I return to Mother India to continue my study of the traditional texts of Yoga and Tantra. So far, I’ve completed a 4-year spiritual curriculum spanning 950-hours of accredited Tantra Yoga study and practice.
I’ve learned from the best experts in Tantra, and I’ve studied with famous teachers, and enlightened gurus – among them are the likes of, Sadhguru, Mooji, and Prem Baba.
I completely immersed myself in all kinds of weird methods and tools, so that I could build an arsenal to use in the battle against my inner demons. I need weapons and strategies to help me slay my dragons, bring light to my darkness and suppressed emotions, heal my trauma with women, embrace my inner boy, and ultimately, awaken myself.
I did everything under the sun: ten days of fasting, seven days of dark solitude retreat, two weeks straight of silent meditation, countless yogic austerities, detox and purifications, sexual initiations by senior female tantra teachers, deep shadow work to shed layers of the ego and lower self, and so much more.
Stage 3:
Becoming An Integrated Man
Upon the culmination of years of healing and transformation, I had the privilege to be part of several real-world Rite of Passages, which were essentially modern versions of an age-old tradition. This ancient practice involved leading males from boyhood to manhood. In olden days, avoiding this ritual would leave a man crippled and without the innate ability to live his life to the fullest potential.
My Transformation
For me, this ritual was truly transformative. It was a life-changing experience that allowed me to get closer to myself and to others, and it’s something that I’d recommend for each and every man out there. My own personal journey was long and tiresome, but in the end, it was worth it.
- I learned how to become an integrated man in my power, passion, and purpose!
- I learned how to be more mature and more dedicated in my relationships.
- I learned how to have extraordinary self-love for myself.
- I learned how to control my ejaculation for months on end and have earth shattering energy orgasms.
The Initiation Process
The third stage of the Hero’s Journey is about initiation; being seen and celebrated as a person who has successfully gone through an ordeal and come back as a new person, and ultimately, a real man. This is the beginning of a new life, full of new responsibilities.
When this stage is missing in a man’s life, he will not experience the joy in his peers welcoming him back. If there is no one around to tell the victim that he survived a particular trauma, or that he had overcome a particular challenge, stages one and two will continue to repeat until stage three is concluded.
The psyche will revisit the trauma again and again, forcing it into a repetitive trance where it desperately repeats the first two stages in the hope that the last stage will soon come. If you know any veterans, you know what I mean.
For that very reason, the third stage is absolutely necessary and essential for all men. To go through a rite of passage, a hero’s journey, is a must in order to achieve a mature and healthy masculine identity.
However, do you see a problem here?
Most men have never experienced this, because our fathers did not teach us or show us how to follow this path. So, of course, we do not pass it down to our sons either.
The link to that ancient wisdom has been broken.
The time has come to bring that link of empowerment back to men around the world who are willing to hear the call.
Have you heard your call from deep within?
Today, I am more passionate than ever before to guide other men through their own rites of passage in my online mentorship program, The Tantric Man Experience.
It has become my mission in life to pass my experience on to others, so that I can help men who struggle, just like I did. My mission is to help bridge the gap between the collective feminine and masculine by creating integrated heart warriors, who lead with strength and focus, yet with love and compassion.
It’s available to conscious men from all around the world, no matter where you are, or what stage you’re in. As long as you are committed to take that leap of faith and plunge into the underworld, to once and for all, be renewed as an integrated man, you can regain your sovereignty to your inner kingdom, and be crowned as a king.
