45 Dirty Things To Say To Your Girlfriend To Get Her Soaked

Steffo Shambo

Updated on Jun 5, 2024
dirty things to say to your girlfriend

It only takes a few words to make your girlfriend horny AF. The right words can work wonders, especially in the bedroom.

Some of you might never have experienced the feeling of her telling you how badly she wants you to f*ck her just from dirty talk… but I’ll help you change that.

In this article, I’ll share all the dirty things to say to your girlfriend that’ll drive her wild. 

If you’re not prepared to make your girlfriend soaking wet and begging for more, click away. 

Using any of the dirty lines discussed will immediately turn up the heat and make her eyes light up with sexual desire. Now that that’s been said don’t say I didn’t warn you 😉 

Anyway, let’s not waste any more time and dive right in! 

21 Best Dirty Things To Say To Your Girlfriend To Get Her Wet AF

Out of the dirty things to say to your girlfriend, here are my top five: 

  • “When you come home, I will put you in paradise”
  • “If уоu were able to rеаd mу mіnd right now, you’d turn red and blush all over”
  • “I’m going to make you forget your name tonight. What I have planned will have you moan for hours, but only if you do exactly as I say.”
  • “I can’t believe I want someone this badly. Get in the car. I’ll follow you in after I’ve finished my first dessert. You’ll be my seconds.”
  • “Take off all your clothes. One by one. You’re going to have to striptease before I let you sit on my dick.”

Remember, your woman wants to feel desired. 

Women desire to receive, surrender, and let go of mundane obligations. They want to be told when they can give pleasure and when they are to receive. Keep this in mind when you talk dirty to her.

Your partner will feel reassured and sexy when she knows she’s driving you wild with her body, heart, and soul. 

Bottom line: take the lead when having sex in the bedroom. Openly express your pleasure. Make her trust your masculine confidence. This holds space for all her emotions while you’re instructing her.


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1. When you come home, I will put you in paradise.

Remind your girlfriend that she’s the sexiest woman you can’t stop thinking of. That you lose control waiting for the fun to start. Ring and demand this of her in a sexual Facetime to show your girl your desire to create sexy sex.

2. If уоu were able to rеаd mу mіnd right now, you’d turn red and blush all over.

Breathing fantasy into the daytime creates sexual tension and will have her eager to see you carry out all the dirty things you’ve been planning. 

3. I’m going to make you forget your name tonight. What I have planned will have you moan for hours, but only if you do exactly as I say.

This question builds anticipation. Starting the day with these words builds the foreplay, as she’ll spend the day anticipating the pleasure tonight.

build anticipation to make sex better

4. I can’t believe I want someone this badly. Get in the car. I’ll follow you in after I’ve finished my first dessert. You’ll be my seconds.

If you’re feeling wild, this is a dirty thing to say to your girlfriend at a restaurant. Whisper this during dinner and enjoy the passionate car sex to follow. 

5. Take off all your clothes. One by one. You’re going to have to striptease before I let you sit on my d*ck.

Sit back and enjoy as she lets her naughty side out to play.

6. You’re making me so horny. I’m going to turn you around and f*ck you now.

This is a sexy way of changing position if you feel you’re too close to cuming. 

7. I’ll pull my hard cock out and start rubbing it over your hot and quivering p*ssy. I’ll trace it down your p*ssy lips and then rub my head all over your clit. I’ll grab your hair, making you watch as I finally shove my cock in and thrust deep into you without mercy.

If rough and ready is what turns her on— then this is going to drive your girlfriend wild.


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8. You were made for my pleasure. Open your legs. Let me see and taste what’s mine.

Feel free also to add: “I can’t stop thinking about burying myself deep inside of you tonight. I’m going to thrust into you right on the bedroom floor.”

9. Don’t you dare look away from me. I want to see you explode as you cum on my cock. 

Maintaining eye contact during sex builds a deep connection. In tantra, eye contact enhances both spiritual and sexual enlightenment. We analyze, read, and feel other people through the eyes. So, gazing into one another creates a heated and intense connection during sex.

10. You like it rough. I know you do. Lay back and take every last inch of my cock. Your p*ssy is mine.

make it clear that you desire your girlfriend

Ownership is something that turns on many women to no end. You want her to feel that you are driven to possession by her hot, naked body during dirty talk. Women love watching that obsession come out during sex.

11. I want you to look at me while you deep-throat my cock. I want to hear you gag as I pump into your hot lips.

Telling her exactly what you want is not what most men will say to a girl. However, being a confident man in bed will make you very hard to forget.

12. Remember that time we vacationed in ________? We joked about having sex right there on the beach in public. Next time, I’m going to ride you in the waves.

Bringing up memories you’ve shared and adding spice is perfect for getting your girl in the mood. Essentially, you’re combining fond memories, her sense of adventure, and lusty fantasies in her mind.

13. That ass of yours is driving me crazy. Bend over the kitchen table and take every inch of me like a good girl.

Keep the spice in the relationship by taking lovemaking outside of the bedroom. Be creative and horny, and have fun!

some women fantasize about getting it from behind

14. F*ck. You’re so sexy. Touch yourself and look at me. Let me see your soaked p*ssy. Don’t move your gaze an inch. I need your eyes on me.

From here, you can add a few descriptions: “That’s what you like, isn’t it… Touching your breasts.. Pinching your nipples… circling your clit”.

Be sure to take all of her in and allow your own arousal to build. Hers will feed off of that intense masculine gaze.

15. Take my cock inside of you. Now. Feel how hard it is. Feel each rib against your walls. That’s it. Moan for me, just like that. 

In this situation, you are very much in control. Your girlfriend will be eager to obey as you heat things with your demanding, masculine energy.

16. I love the way you feel beneath me. I am gonna keep f*cking you until I cum deep inside your p*ssy. Let’s make babies tonight. 

A lot of women get turned on by the fantasy of getting pregnant— so let her enjoy this fantasy.

Side Note: talking dirty isn’t all about your bedroom lines. Being a masterful lover is all about your energy, as discussed in my short YouTube clip:

17. I’ll eat you out as you sit in your office chair—skirt pushed up around your waist. You try to keep quiet in case someone hears but can’t help panting as I tongue-f*ck your delicious p*ssy.

Take her into the depths of her imagination and just hear how her breath hitches.

18. I’ll push your body down on the desk and f*ck you sideways, resting your leg on my shoulder while I enter you…

Avoid saying anything too technical when you’re describing a sex position. In the heat of the moment, you don’t want to be getting tongue-tied about all the sexy things you want to do together. Instead, focus on her body and how you’re dominating her pleasure.

19. Tonight, I’m going to yank your hair back while I f*ck your tight, wet cunt from behind.

If she’s into rough sex, these freaky things to say to your girlfriend will have her dripping for you.

20. I’m going to c*m in your mouth, and you’re going to swallow every last drop.

Afterward, gently clean her up and seal your bond with a romantic kiss. Show her you can be both— dominant and caring.

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21. You’re on the verge of c*mming. I’m going to make you scream. 

Sometimes, the dirty thing to say to your girlfriend is to tell her exactly what’s happening. 

Passionate Dirty Talk 

Talking dirty passionately means expressing intense desire and affection. At the same time, you get her wet with words. How? By showering her with compliments, declarations, and vivid descriptions of your fantasies and desires. 

This might also help her reach an orgasm that goes beyond the physical realm. To be specific, I’m talking about energy orgasms

  • “You’re so beautiful, and it turns me on like nothing else. I want to kiss every part of your body and make you lose yourself.”
  • “I can’t stop thinking about how badly I want to f*ck you right now.” 
  • “I just can’t stop getting enough of you. You’re the only woman who can make me lose control like this.”
  • “You feel incredible. I want to keep doing this all night and make you moan my name.”
  • “Just the thought of you makes me lose all self-control. I want you so bad and make you mine over and over again.”

Romantic Dirty Talk 

Romantic dirty talking is all about emotional connection. It’s not the same type of pound-town comments, telling her how hard you’re going to f*ck the sh*t out of her. Instead, this is about expressing your love, devotion, and commitment. It involves tender words, romantic gestures, and affirmations of affection. 

  • “Doing this just feels so right with you. I can’t stop thinking about how perfect your body feels against mine.” 
  • “I just can’t wait to kiss every curve and explore every part of your beautiful body.” 
  • “You make me feel things I’ve never felt before. I will show you just how bad you make me want it.” 
  • “The way you moan my name drives me crazy. I never want to stop hearing it.”
  • “I’ll take my time pleasuring you tonight. I want to make love to you slowly, savoring every moment, every sensation.”

Playful And Flirty Dirty Talk

Playful dirty talking includes sexy humor, teasing, and some light-hearted banter. It can include witty remarks and inside jokes, typically related to sex. This makes the vibe sexy and fun, especially when you take her by surprise.

  • “You’ve been distracting me all day. I’m trying to focus but can only think about you and your beautiful body.” 
  • “Every time I see you, I can’t help but imagine what it would be like to have you all to myself for a night.”
  • “I keep replaying what happened the last time we f*cked. This time, I can’t stop thinking about all the other things I want to do to you tonight.”
  • “You know, I’ve been thinking about that one thing you did the other night… and I can’t wait to do it again.”
  • “You’re such a tease, but be careful. I might not be able to hold myself back from ripping your clothes apart.”
Playful dirty talk can be fun and cute for couples

Sensual Dirty Talk

Sensual dirty talk doubles down on sensations and experiences. It’s all about the sensory pleasures. This involves descriptive, sexual language. You’ll turn your woman on and heighten the arousal and intimacy. 

  • “Arch your back. Bend over for me so I can put c*ck inside of you slowly and f*ck you until you can’t take it anymore.” 
  • “Your natural scent is so beautiful. I want you close to me again.” 
  • “I love the way your skin feels against mine.”
  • “I can’t ever forget the taste of your lips. I want them pressed against mine.” 
  • “I want to taste every inch of your body, from your lips to your toes. You’re mine.”

Kinky And BDSM-Type Dirty Talk

This involves power dynamics. You or your partner will take a dominant or submissive role. It may include commands, praise, punishment, and obedience. It may also include role-play dirty talking, which makes it ideal for fulfilling each other’s wildest fantasies. 

  • “You belong to me tonight. Your pleasure is my command.”
  • “I want to feel you completely surrender to me. You’re mine to control. You’re nothing more than my sex slave.”
  • “Do you feel that rush of excitement knowing you’re at my mercy?”
  • “I love the way you squirm when I tease you, begging for more. I won’t continue unless you keep begging me.”

How To Make Dirty Talking Sexier

Here’s how to spice things up when it comes to dirty talk:

  • Don’t be afraid to make your descriptions explicit
  • Try dirty talking through the phone via text messages and voice notes
  • Talk dirty naturally; don’t force it
  • Be the captain of the ship

Do these when you talk dirty, and you’ll be stuck in her mind. Each of these steps will bring the sexual tension up a notch. 

And btw, stick to what feels natural to you. If you’re unsure, go ahead and complete this quick sex personality quiz to get a better understanding of your strengths. 

Be explicit

Don’t back down. You’re the alpha. Leave nothing to a wishy-washy scenario. Instead, describe exactly what you want to do to your girlfriend or what you want her to do. Don’t beat around the bush. 

Be direct and detailed. The confidence and vivid descriptions will make for a much more intense, pleasurable experience. 

Text her or send voice notes

Talking dirty verbally isn’t the only way to do it. You can text and send her voice notes. This lets you talk dirty in and outside the bedroom, and even in public, which makes for a spicer experience. 

And if you’re the type to overthink things, this is perfect. Why? Because you’ll have some extra time to give a sexy reply. 

Don’t force it

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Dirty talk should flow naturally. It might not turn your woman on when you immediately start telling her freaky things while you’re in the middle of eating food. But it might work when you’re about to tell your girlfriend a bedtime story

Trying too hard to talk dirty or forcing it might kill the vibe. 

When she’s nowhere near horny or just isn’t in the mood, talking dirty can get awkward. Instead, let it happen naturally. Start slow. Build up the tension first before going ham. 

Be the captain

As the initiator of dirty talk, take charge like the captain of a ship. 

Guide the conversation. Set the tone and lead the way. Show her who’s in control. Women love it when they’re with a confident man who can surrender themselves in his presence. 

It’s also incredibly arousing when you’re a man full of masculine energy. If that’s you, her divine femininity will flourish. 

Timing, Pacing, And Understanding Is Everything When Talking Dirty

Do you want to master the art of seduction and dirty talk? Then, know this: timing, pacing, and understanding is everything. 

It’s not just about what you say. Talking dirty is also about when and how you say the words.

Understanding your partner’s preferences is critical. What one woman finds arousing, another may find offensive. 

Take the time to ask her what she enjoys and what she doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to ask her how she would prefer you to talk dirty to her—this is an excellent question for your girlfriend.

Some women love being called specific names during sex. Others may genuinely find it degrading. How do you find out? Simple. Communicate openly about preferences and boundaries. This helps you ensure that your dirty talk hits all the right notes. 

Here are a few questions to guide your conversation:

  • What sexual foreplay do you enjoy?
  • What settings turn you on?
  • What dirty words do you like?
  • What dirty words don’t you like?
  • What taboos do you find sexy? (e.g., doctor-patient or teacher-student scenarios)
  • What people do you want us to include in our sexual fantasies?

Remember, women have their dirty thoughts and desires. It’s not just you 

Women think dirty, too—here’s what was even mentioned on Psychology Today:

“Dirty talk fantasies were common across gender—but women were actually the most likely to fantasize about it—and fantasize about it often.”

Asking your partner the right questions and paying attention to subtle cues will allow you to unlock her wildest fantasies. 

That said, don’t neglect timing. Dirty talk should enhance the moment, not detract from it. 

Read the room and know when to talk dirty. Otherwise, it’ll backfire. 

And here’s a golden rule: the more pleasure and arousal, the dirtier you can talk. 

As your partner approaches a climax, don’t be afraid to ramp up the intensity of your words. It could be the final push towards one of the best orgasms ever. 

Conclusion: Talk Dirty To Make Sex Spicier 

Now, you have many dirty things to say to your girlfriend. 

But I have to tell you that words are just the beginning of something truly magical. 

The secret lies in combining the art of dirty talk with a deeper, spiritual understanding. This is how you go from physical orgasms to intense, full-body orgasms. 

Don’t miss out on giving her pleasure tonight like never before. Watch my free sexual relationship training video and learn how to build a stronger spiritual bond with your partner to satisfy her on a whole new level. 


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What are some dirty things to whisper?

“I love the way you feel. I’m gonna keep f*cking you until I come deep inside your p*ssy.” Another one is, “Don’t you dare look away from me. I want to see you explode as you come on my cock.” If you want something a bit more romantic and sensual, say something like, “I’ll take my time pleasuring you tonight. I want to make love to you slowly, savoring every moment, every sensation.”

How do I start with dirty talk?

Start by slowing down and speaking sensually. For beginners, the best way to approach dirty talk is to tell her what you’re experiencing. Notice what’s turning you on about her and tell her. Be tactful and read her body language.

What dirty text messages can I send?

With naughty text messages, first, create hot anticipation for when you’ll see each other next. An example would be, “If you could read my mind, you’d turn red and blush all over.” Another example could be, “You’ve been distracting me all day. I’m trying to focus but can only think about you and your beautiful body.” You can make sexy text messages even better with a sexual Facetime. 

What are flirty questions to ask my girlfriend?

Flirty questions are more gentle than dirty questions and are more suggestive. A great example is, “You drive me a little crazy, you know that?” 

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Steffo Shambo

Men's Tantric Relationship Coach

I am the founder of The Tantric Man Experience™, a pioneering transformational coaching program for men. With over 1500 hours of certified tantra training in India and Thailand and 7 years of experience helping hundreds of men worldwide save their marriages and reignite passion in their love lives.

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My holistic FLT method seamlessly integrates ancient tantric philosophy with my modern expertise in relationships, sexuality, dating, and men’s health.

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