What It Means To Be A Sigma: Top 11 Sigma Male Traits

Steffo Shambo

Updated on Apr 11, 2024
sigma male

You’re at a party, and one guy is chilling in his own world, drink in hand.

No, he’s not the mysterious character from a teen novel.

He’s not even trying to be the life of the party, but somehow, he unintentionally steals the show with everyone’s attention and curiosity locked on him.

That guy isn’t deliberately acting that way. He’s what you call a Sigma male.

Sigma males aren’t always easy to spot. But once you do, you can’t unsee him.

Even though Sigma males aren’t playing the social ladder game and trying to get on top of the hierarchy, he’s still the most interesting person in the room.

In a world where everyone’s trying to be heard, a true Sigma speaks volumes just by being himself.

What Is A Sigma Male?

A Sigma male is a lone wolf who prefers their own company the most. After a long and hard day, a social gathering would be one of the last things that comes to mind. They’re confident, independent, and don’t adhere to societal norms.

The easiest way to put it is that a Sigma male is the introverted version of an alpha male. That’s why they’re often referred to as an introverted alpha male.

Now, being a Sigma isn’t a walk in the park. True, they sound like one of society’s “cool” guys because of the shroud of mystery surrounding them.

Yet, the Sigma male lifestyle is primarily solo. They embrace their uniqueness and don’t seek external validation. There are benefits to this, but there are also drawbacks.

Why sigma males don’t give a sh*t about the socio-sexual hierarchy

One of the most prominent Sigma male characteristics is that they just go out and do their own thing.

They don’t give a sh*t about what others think. What matters more to them than the opinions of others is their own goals.

Here’s a quote by Tywin Lannister from Game of Thrones that’s especially relevant to this topic:

“A lion doesn’t concern himself with the opinions of sheep.”

A true Sigma doesn’t let things like the social hierarchy hold them back. Although Sigma men couldn’t care less about climbing the social ladder, they’re ironically sitting at the top and are just as dominant as the alpha male.

External things rarely ever bother them. Unless we’re talking about something they care about, they can have a bland look of disinterest.

Sigma men choose to work alone not because they despise teamwork but because they believe it’s the wiser decision. They’re usually the best in their field and prioritize efficiency, unbound by social conventions.

To better understand the Sigma male meaning, we’ll explain the differences between them and the alphas.

sigma males dont conform to anyone expectations but their own

The Difference Between A Sigma Male And An Alpha Male

Both alpha and Sigma male mentality exhibit power and influence. The most noticeable differences between the two are the following:

  • Sigma males strive for personal satisfaction and independence, whereas alphas are usually more concerned about their public image and status.
  • Alpha men compete with others to sit at the top of the hierarchy. In contrast, sigmas don’t care about reaching the top of the hierarchy more than their own goals, so they’re not afraid to challenge societal values.
  • Alphas prefer to take leadership, whereas sigmas would rather avoid the spotlight but can still take on the leadership role if necessary.

A sigma man doesn’t prioritize his public image. How other people perceive them doesn’t make them flinch. The sigma male personality prefers solitude rather than being put in the spotlight.

On the other hand, an alpha man loves being placed at the center of attention. He thrives in group settings and loves to take the lead where everyone else follows. This is where there can be a conflict between an alpha and sigma male.

Still, the sigma and alpha male are at the same level when we’re looking at where they are in the socio-sexual hierarchy.

But make no mistake. The traits of a sigma don’t allow them to fit inside the traditional hierarchy. They’re outside the social ranks by choice, yet they’re still at the top.

Sigma male examples

Here are some of the most famous Sigma males:

  • Cillian Murphy
  • Christian Bale
  • Elon Musk
  • Keanu Reeves
  • Khabib Nurmagomedov
  • Steve Jobs

The Top 10 Sigma Male Traits And How To Become A Sigma Male

a true sigma male understands the value of silence

Sigma males win quietly and don’t brag about their success. They move and plot silently, always one step ahead of everyone else.

Here’s how you can summarize the personality traits of a sigma:

  • Unmotivated by external validation or praise
  • Finds intrinsic motivation in personal satisfaction and accomplishment
  • Knows how to make the most out of social interactions without having to try too hard
  • Highly intellectual and smart, full of charisma
  • Ambitious and in touch with their own emotions, though they prefer not to show too much

Many people have created memes on the sigma male mindset using the face of Patrick Bateman from American Psycho.

Remember that the attributes listed are not mutually exclusive, as they can vary among individuals. Below, we’ll go through each trait closely to understand their contribution to the persona of a sigma male.


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1. Self-sufficient and independent

Sigmas don’t rely on others to do their bidding. They can get things done independently and often would rather operate alone.

Like alpha males, sigmas are far from being people-pleasers.

Everything that a sigma decides to do is purely because of their own will. They’re under no influence of external factors. This makes them masters of their destinies since they can carve their paths in life.

2. Doesn’t give a f*ck about what others think

A sigma male simply doesn’t conform to social norms or the hierarchy. They do things their way without feeling sorry for themselves.

men with sigma traits walk the talk like a boss

In short, a sigma male doesn’t give two sh*ts about things like hierarchy or looking like the most superior being. They just live on their own terms and do what they want, regardless of whether others agree or disagree.

With such a non-conformist attitude, sigmas break free from the constraints of expectations.

When looking at a Sigma male’s sex life, they’re the furthest thing from being emotionally needy.

3. Smart and highly intellectual

Sigma males are usually among the smartest people in the room. They can easily read people’s character and tell the type of person you are by analyzing how you move, act, or think.

How? Well, sigmas are deep thinkers themselves who are highly analytical. This makes them smart across most areas of life: socially, academically, and professionally. You can expect a Sigma man to be in touch with his feminine side.

A Sigma male is one step ahead. While others are playing checkers, he’s playing chess.

The ability to read the room and immediately grasp the dynamics of social interactions is a key trait of Sigma males. This high intellect empowers them to live according to their values and beliefs.

4. Introverts who prefer to be alone

sigma males are the lone wolves of society

Nothing represents a sigma male more than the lone wolf.

After all, a sigma male prefers solitude. They’re comfortable with just having their own company and can make do with the quiet contemplation of their thoughts over social gatherings. The same concept applies to their professional life.

At heart, sigmas are usually introverts who tend to operate better in an independent environment than a team environment.

5. Full conviction

Sigmas possess unwavering self-confidence. It’s challenging to make a sigma male doubt himself. He’s decisive and has absolute confidence in his abilities.

A sigma also understands the value of his own skill set. He knows what he brings to the table, including where his values lie. He doesn’t let others sway his beliefs so quickly since he profoundly understands his core values.

With such strong self-confidence, he’s unafraid to take risks and push the boundaries to achieve great things.

6. Mysterious

Sigmas hold a shroud of mystery. Their enigmatic aura and charisma grab the attention of those around them. Others are curious to know what he’s up to.

But the thing is, a Sigma male is hard to read. It’s difficult to tell what he’s thinking or feeling.

In other words, they stay lowkey.

Because a sigma male is so hard to understand at first glance, it creates a sense of mystery. This can be intriguing enough to captivate others, making the Sigma stand out from the crowd despite seemingly doing nothing.

As a result, the aura of a Sigma can feel masculine in the presence of others.

sigma males are one step ahead of everyone else

7. Concise verbal speakers

Sigma males tend not to talk too much, which is why each word that comes out of his mouth is even more impactful.

What makes Sigma males captivating speakers is that they embody the saying:

“Less is more.”

Another super relevant quote here is by none other than Leonardo da Vinci:

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

A sigma male communicates with full intention. They express themselves concisely and deliberately, cutting straight to the heart of the matter.


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8. Master in nonverbal communication

Do you want to know why each word from a Sigma male is memorable? It’s because of their ability to communicate nonverbally.

When I talk about nonverbal communication, I’m referring to the following:

  • Body language
  • Eye contact
  • Facial expression
  • Tone of voice

A Sigma male can say twice as much without having to voice themselves out. This ability to communicate effectively and efficiently without words makes them a compelling speaker. They can convey their thoughts and feelings in a powerful way without going on a tangent.

9. Strong leadership ability

In an old research report, it was revealed that introverts are effective leaders.

introverts are great leaders across most settings

True, Sigmas are introverted people who tend to prefer to operate alone. However, Sigma males have strong leadership abilities. Except, they rarely actively seek leadership roles.

They have the innate ability to take the lead and inspire others. But their leadership style isn’t what you might expect. They’re more subtle and prefer to lead by example rather than directly supervising or managing their team.

If given the choice, a Sigma male would choose not to take the lead, despite being an exceptional leader.

10. Stays composed regardless of the situation

Sigma males rarely ever fall apart under pressure. They have the ability to stay calm in the most stressful situations and not let their emotions get the better of them.

In most circumstances, sigmas can make rational decisions. This ability to stay composed regardless of the situation is a testament to the sigma male’s emotional resilience and mental fortitude.

you will rarely ever find a sigma male losing his cool

And like alpha males, Sigma males have full sexual self-control. They’re also capable of redirecting their sexual energy.

The Top Pros And Cons Of A Sigma Male

The Sigma male lifestyle comes with a lot of freedom and authenticity. There’s less room for filtered and disingenuous conversations. After all, sigmas get straight to the point and shape their own environment that way.

I’ve mentioned that Sigma males couldn’t care less about being at the top of the social hierarchy. The irony is that they’re at the top of the socio-sexual hierarchy because of their laid-back attitude and not caring about things that don’t concern them.

While the life of a sigma male seems ideal, the reality is that flaws must be addressed.

Pro 1: a highly independent person who can read people easily

One of the main advantages of a sigma male is their independence and ability to read others.

A sigma man can get through life and navigate situations independently with minimal support. Whenever he’s unsure, he’ll go out of his way to figure things out without relying on someone else.

Moreover, their ability to read people allows them to get what they want in different social situations. Forming meaningful relationships isn’t too tricky, mainly because he’s observant and analytical of the other person, making them great listeners.

a sigma male can figure things out without resorting to outside help

Pro 2: freedom and autonomy

Sigmas live freely. The world is their oyster. They don’t take sh*t from anyone and live their own lives authentically without pretending.

a sigma man enjoys his own company

Above all else comes a sigma male’s goals, personal satisfaction, and freedom. Having the power and influence to make things happen your way is something they’ll never want to let go of.

This characteristic also makes Sigma males desirable. Sigmas are perfect for leading by example, and their attitude in itself inspires others.

Pro 3: full transparency

Sigma males aren’t afraid to have unfiltered, honest conversations. Expressing themselves in such a way allows them to form deep relationships with other people.

Granted, some people might get offended.

However, a sigma male doesn’t always let other people’s feelings get in the way to an extent. It makes sense, considering how sigmas are introverts who aren’t big fans of small talk and would rather have meaningful conversations.

sigmas say it how it is genuinely and transparently

Con 1: social isolation

It’s lonely at the top. For many Sigma males, their lives may sometimes feel socially empty since they mostly operate alone.

Some people might think this is a good thing. Others might see it as being cool.

The reality? Wolves in packs have a higher success and survival rate than lone wolves. 

Social isolation can harbor feelings of loneliness, affecting a man’s mental health and overall life satisfaction.

life can feel lonely for sigma men

Con 2: perceived aloofness can cause misunderstandings

Another drawback of a sigma male is their perceived aloofness.

Sigmas are reserved and introverted. Therefore, they can sometimes be perceived as aloof or distant.

sigmas may often have a dull look on their face in most conversations

When you’re talking to a sigma, they might have a bland face that makes them look disinterested. This can sometimes be mistakenly interpreted as a beta male who lacks social skills and looks awkward.

Besides that, the aloofness can quite often lead to misunderstandings. Worse, it leads to troubled relationships.

Con 3: resistance to structure and authority

Lastly, sigma males may struggle with structure and authority. This goes both ways: good and bad.

sigmas can sometimes be as difficult as trying to tame a wild horse

Since sigmas value independence, they’ll do whatever it takes to live a life of true freedom where they have the authority to make their own decisions. The moment someone else holds that power over a sigma, they can become quite difficult to manage.

Following traditional structures isn’t in the best interest of a Sigma male. They would rather resort to their own methods. This can potentially cause conflict and misalignment.

Do Women Prefer Sigma Males Over Alpha Males?

women are attracted to both alpha males and sigma males

It depends on the woman because everyone has individual preferences. There are advantages to being with a sigma male than an alpha male and vice versa.

What tends to draw women more toward sigma males is their mysterious appeal. Women love a man who’s difficult to figure out and isn’t afraid to do his own thing.

Equally, women love a smart man who willingly leads the cavalry and is like a king who sits on the throne.

With that in mind, women love alphas and sigmas because they are both assertive, confident, and have high social status. Although their attitudes and perspectives differ, both hold similar qualities that women find attractive.

One thing for sure, however, is that women gravitate more toward sigma and alpha males than beta and omega males.

Why Do Men Want To Be Like A Sigma Male?

Men often aspire to mimic the sigma male persona because of the aspect of having influence and authority effortlessly.

Some people find sigmas more appealing than alphas since they care about their self-interests the most, leading them to act and make decisions a certain way. This aspect of not caring about what others think and doing things your way is why men typically want to be like a sigma.

Ultimately, the allure of the sigma male archetype lies in their independence, freedom, and non-conformity. They’re simply different from everyone else.

the idea of being able to do whatever you want is appealing to most men ego

The Common Zodiac Signs Of Sigma Males

What has astrology got to do with the sigma male archetype?

Good question. Well, some zodiac signs like Aquarius are more introverted than others. Hence, for these men, the alpha male archetype isn’t as interesting as the sigma male archetype.

That said, here are some of the zodiac signs that are more likely to exhibit the Sigma male personality type than others:

  • Aquarius
  • Cancer
  • Leo
  • Scorpio
  • Sagittarius

Remember that astrology isn’t an exact science.

Just because you’re not one of these zodiac signs doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t become a Sigma. Most times, it depends on one’s circumstances and life experiences.


Sigma males have turned non-conformity into an art form, introversion into a power move, and independence? Well, they wear it like a badge of honor.

So, what have we learned about our friend, the sigma male? In short, they walk a path that looks like they’re playing a solo game in a multiplayer world. They find a way to run their own rules and win.

The biggest takeaway every man can learn from Sigma males is to embrace their own individuality unapologetically.

However, trying too hard can come across the wrong way. Even cringe.

Women might even read you as one of the beta males. You may end up looking like the awkward guy sitting at the table in silence, just looking around nervously.

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What is a sigma male personality?

The sigma male personality is defined by a man who’s not afraid to go against the grain. He does whatever it takes to fulfill his own needs and interests but in his own way. They are honorable, charismatic, and magnetic individuals who can take risks and make decisions purely under their own influence.

Is sigma higher than alpha?

Neither is higher than the other. At the top of the social hierarchy sits the alpha male. However, a Sigma male isn’t in the social hierarchy to begin with, but they’re still at the top. Instead, a sigma male creates his own ladder, not concerning himself with where others are in the traditional hierarchy.

How do I know if I am a Sigma male?

The biggest sign is that you prefer to do things on your own independently. You’re strongly independent, self-sufficient, and pretty laid back in terms of fitting the expectations of others because you value your own opinions the most.

Does Sigma male fall in love?

Everyone is capable of falling in love, including Sigma males. And because sigmas are masters at communication, they can be pretty upfront when seeking honesty and loyalty. Mind games and small talk aren’t much for them. They prefer transparency.

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