I’m Steffo Shambo, The Best Dating Coach In San Francisco For Men

I help guys improve their dating life and find their perfect match in 9 weeks, even if they’ve been out of the dating scene for years.

Dating Coach in San Francisco

Have you ever felt like the San Francisco dating scene is like stumbling blindly through the fog that sometimes swallows the city? 🌁

If you’re flying solo in SF and your dating journey is struggling, you deserve a dating coach who can help you dominate the dating world.

But not all dating coaches are created equal.

If you want a relationship that lasts, you need someone who can help you develop the confidence it takes to master the matchmaking process.

That’s where I step in. 👋

I’m your personal mentor in San Francisco who will help you:

  • Confidently attract a meaningful relationship by being exactly who you are in a matter of weeks.
  • Skyrocket your dating life, whether you’re speed dating, online dating, or into old-school, chivalry’s not dead dating.
  • Master your sexual energy for a passionate physical connection with your partner.

I’m here to help you break free from whatever is holding you back from finding your perfect match so you can focus on what matters most.

Enjoying a meaningful relationship with the woman of your dreams and living life to the fullest.

I’ll help you discover what it takes to find meaningful connections, whether you want a one-night stand or a long-term commitment. (most of my clients wants the latter)

I’ve helped countless guys go from shy and single to full of confidence and ready to mingle with my holistic coaching program.

Successful relationships are built from confidence and a deep understanding of who you are and what you desire.

When I’m your dating coach in San Francisco Bay Area and Northern California, you’ll be surprised how quickly you’ll get into your dream relationship. 🤯

Even when you’re been single for over 10 years like some of my clients….

Hear how Jake went from a lonely, hopeless romantic to dating multiple women

I believed I would never find a woman, so for the past 10 years, I did not go on any dates. What happened through the program was a transformation of my personal view of my life, sexuality, relationships, and intimacy. And I ended up going on three dates with three different women.

- Jake Frankel, USA


I’ve helped 100+ men transform their dating lives

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For me it meant a paradigm shift in life, both mentally and in practice. How to understand being a masculine man in a relationship and at the same time a loving and understanding partner, who can meet my woman on the same level where she is, to be relaxed and happy.

Patrik Wall, Sweden
Big Tom

“Doing the fundamental practice every day for 12 weeks manifested the exact same girl I was visualizing into reality. I have all the tools now to get wherever I want to!!! Thanks, TME and Steffo Shambo”

Thomas Schirnhofer, Austria
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Women look at me differently, I am more confident, more horny, more masculine, more yogic, more disciplined, more loving, and more clear on my mission, all as a result of this program.

Jacob Reid, USA
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I’ve noticed already, things are happening in my life, things are falling into place – It almost seems like magic! Every day I can activate this superhuman power inside of me. Full of energy, confidence, and vitality.

Jamie McConochie, UK
Freddy testimonial

“I only went on 1 date in my life 5 years ago, now I have dated a few women and even had sex. It changed my whole life, my view on women, self-worth, and self-confidence. I turned 30 last year, and I feel like my life has just started. That’s the difference it made for me.”

Freddy Herre, Austria
Zander testimonial

“Half way through (the program) she could notice a difference in how I looked, how I acted, there’s was this sort of magnetism and curiosity. I suddenly was getting in tuned with different energies and frequencies in the body.”

Zander Blunt, USA
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“My relationship with my wife has transformed into something completely unexpected. It’s not only that her feminine energy can sense the change in me. I think she sees that I see myself changing, and because of that, I’m taking control of my own energy and learning to cultivate it. I was coming into this thinking, “Oh, I am going to get more sex” (which did happen), but this experience has flipped my perspective of sex and love on its head.”

Jon Mizuno, Japan
Jake testimonial

“I believed I would never find a woman, so for the past 10 years I did not go on any dates. What happened though the program was a transformation about my personal view of my life, sexuality, relationships, and intimacy. And I ended up going on 3 dates with 3 different women.”

Jake Frankel, USA
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“I went on 6 dates with 4 women in 9 weeks without feeling afraid of rejection anymore. And becoming so comfortable to be able to sex-chat and receive nude pics. For me, this is invaluable.”

Victor Leme, Brazil
Moses testimonial

“Joining TME literally changed my life, and it’s one of the best decisions of my life. The program completely changed my view on relationships, and is the most comprehensive, deepest program. You’ll not regret it. It will be the most significant self-improvement task you have achieved. It only goes up from here”

Moses Michalovich, Israel
Zander testimonial

“Before joining the program I did a lot of therapy. I had 4 therapist, went to AA meetings, mediated and ran 5-10 miles per day. It would help me keep sane, but it wasn’t tackling the core problem.”

Zander Blunt, USA

Finding the right person in San Francisco doesn’t have to be difficult when you have the right dating coach

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The right dating coach in San Francisco will help you elevate your dating life to the next level.

But there’s more to it than that.

Which is why the hundreds of men I’ve worked with consider me more than a dating coach.

Sure, I’ve made a career of counseling men on seeking success on their journey of love.

But I’m also an evolved, confident man with over 950-hours of certified tantra yoga study and practice in Thailand and India.

I’ve studied intimacy with renowned spiritual teachers, including Sadhguru, Mooji, and Prem Baba.

For years, I’ve immersed myself in all kinds of spiritual practices and rituals so I could build an arsenal to use to battle against my inner demons.

On my journey, I discovered what I needed to slay my dragons… 🐉

  • Bring light to my darkness.
  • Feel my emotions.
  • Heal my trauma with women.
  • Embrace my inner boy.
  • Awaken to my divine self.

Strong, confident men attract strong, confident women, am I right?

I wasn’t always a dating coach. 

And I wasn’t always so confident with women.

Just the opposite, honestly.

I’ve hit the same blind spots in dating and I have experienced my fair share of trauma.

A new holistic attraction system method was born

Intent on finding meaning in my relationships with women, I knew I’d have to heal the relationship I had with myself.

While it took me through 21 countries where I spent years immersing myself in Eastern studies, healing, and several real-world, modern rites of passage experiences, I transformed my life.

  • I learned how to have extraordinary self-love for myself.
  • I discovered how to be more dedicated, mature, and attentive in my relationships with women.
  • I found my power, passion, and purpose.

And now I’m on a mission to empower other men to do the same.

It’s why I created the Tantric Man Experience, a pioneering transformational coaching program for men.

Proven track record

Over the past 7 years, I’ve coached hundreds of men to master the art of love who lead with strength, focus, love, and compassion.

Are you ready to unleash your full masculine confidence, have incredible communication skills, and become your most authentic self?

Then stick with me, brother. 👇

Don’t give up on your San Francisco dating life

Listen up, San Francisco men.

Do not let dating in this city get you down. 

Sure, dating in the city can be notoriously sh*tty. 💩

San Fransisco has a male-female ratio of 1.5 men seeking love for every one woman, according to SF Gate.

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Yes, your mental health and self-esteem might be shattered from being rejected on different online dating apps, like Tinder and Bumble.

But you don’t need to give up on dating and lose all confidence that you’ll one day find your perfect partner.

But it might be time to call in the dating experts (that’s me 😊) if:

  • You believe there’s a lack of good women to date in SF.
  • Dating apps don’t seem to find any matches to the type of person you’re looking for. And you’ve only found hipsters, hippies, and artsy folks when all you want is an authentic, down-to-earth woman.
  • It seems like the women you meet are super self-involved and more about that snobby San Francisco culture thing than dating a good man.
  • You feel like you’re “shopping” for a partner instead of engaging in real communication and getting to know someone.

Seriously, dating in San Francisco can leave you feeling hopeless.

And you might’ve reached a point where you’re struggling to figure out why you still explore the single’s scene.

Well, whether you’re in the heart of San Francisco, the Bay area, or San Jose, I want you to know something.

The right person is out there.

And I’m here to make the journey of finding your perfect match a lot easier than it’s been so far.

If you’re ready to create a love life that exceeds your wildest fantasies, a little relationship coaching can go a long way.

Interested in attracting a high-calibar partner and leveling up your dating game in a matter of weeks?

➡️ I highly recommend signing up for my free attraction training program.

Don’t chase! Learn to Attract instead – from a proven dating coaching system

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You attract what you are.

This is why I want to support you in becoming the best version of yourself you can be.

That way, you can attract whatever your idea of the perfect match might be.

Because let’s be real.

If you’re anything less than 100% who you truly are, you’re likely struggling to find a positive connection…if you’re finding any connection at all.

My dating coach program will give you all the tools you need to go from being lonely, single, and searching to sharing your life with a stunning woman by your side.

But to get from where you are now to where you want to be, there’s got to be a certain level of personal growth and self-transformation.

I’m here to show you how.

The 5-step attraction system from the best San Fransisco Bay Area dating coach (free training)

In this free, 5-step attraction training, you’ll learn to:

  1. 1Take charge of your love life and control what you create
  2. 2Overcome any emotional baggage holding you back
  3. 3Become the best version of yourself and boost your self-confidence
  4. 4Raise your self-esteem so you never settle for less than what you deserve
  5. 5Master the art of the perfect date, whether it’s a casual walk on the rocky shores of a windswept beach or a bougie night out at the newest restaurant in Nob Hill

You’ll learn all of this and more just by signing up for this free training.

And you don’t even have to leave your house.

Everything’s done online these days, and doing dating therapy is no different.

A dude who does dating counseling online is the same as the guy who goes to see a dating coach in person.

Same premise, different place.

Except in my online dating coaching program, we spend 9 weeks working together.

That always outperforms a short in-person weekend workshop.

The transformation is through the roof. 🚀

And do you know what the best part is?

…my clients can continue with their normal lives and do not have to put anything on pause. 🕺


Dating Coach San Francisco FAQ

What is a dating coach for men?

A dating coach for men (like me) is your wingman who goes beyond pick-up lines. 

I don’t set you up for success by approaching a woman and telling her; 

“Hey! My friend over there thinks you’re cute. You should go talk to him.” 

Hell no—that’s awful. 🙈 

She’ll turn around and look at you awkwardly wondering why you didn’t just approach her yourself. 

A dating coaching for men helps men like you navigate your love and dating life. 

They help you acquire the skills, qualities, and confidence it takes to attract amazing women who dig you for who you are. 

You don’t need to follow the lone wolf path and try to fix everything by yourself. 

Most men refuse to seek help because they don’t want to be seen as weak. 

And unfortunately, that’s why most men suffer in silence. 

I’m here to change that. 

I want you to feel like you can contact me anytime. 

It’s okay, and I won’t judge you. 

After all, I’ve been there myself. 

From facing countless rejections and not feeling good enough to spending hours creating an online dating profile, I know how it feels. 

And it can suck. 

But I know exactly how you feel and how to get out of it. 

That’s why I’m confident I can help you, just like I’ve helped the hundreds of other men who contacted me. 

What does a dating coach do?

Ever feel like the Bay Area dating scene is stuck on repeat? 

Are you struggling to connect with amazing women? 

Do you keep getting caught in the same discouraging cycle?

That’s where a dating and relationship coach comes in. 

Think of your dating coach as a love expert who helps you succeed in your dating life. 

Consider a dating coach if you struggle with:

Finding true love (and it feels impossible).

Overcoming certain dating challenges.

Not understanding nonverbal communication and body language.

Low confidence and self-esteem issues.

If you’ve had a dry, non-existent sex life, they can help with that too 😉

Not all dating coaches and sessions are the same, though. 

I do things a little differently by holistically helping my clients:

💪 Unleash inner confidence

You won’t feel shy or invisible anymore. 

We’ll tap into your masculine energy, unlock your innate leadership DNA, and build self-confidence. 

All of these will help you naturally attract women like magnets.

💪 Heal past hurts and trauma

Identify your love blind spots, limiting beliefs, and energetic blockages. 

These all hold you back from living your best relationship.

💪 Break toxic patterns

Say goodbye to the same frustrating situations you are in. 

Say hello to healthy, fulfilling relationships.

We ditch the dating app fatigue and focus on the real you. 

Imagine attracting high-quality women in the best possible dating scenario. 

They’re all drawn to you because the authentic you shines through. 

Guys, there’s nothing more attractive than a man fully embodied in exactly who he is. 

Are you ready to stop imagining and finally rewrite your dating story? 

📞 Then let’s chat!

Is hiring a dating coach worth it?

It depends on your dating and relationship goals.

If you get a professional dating coach who uses a holistic approach that can unleash your full potential as a man…

Then dating coaching is worth it. 👌

If you’re tired of running around in circles and want to see results sooner rather than later, and you want to see changes now, then dating coaching can be worth it. 

Instead of asking yourself whether dating coaching is worth it, ask yourself this: 

➡️ How much more time do you want to waste not living the life you want?

➡️ Are you sick and tired of not already living a fulfilling love and dating life?

➡️ Have you had enough of constantly redoing your online dating profile? 

If you’re not making any changes in your dating life now, then when will you? 

Are you convinced you can do it alone because you don’t want to invest in yourself? Then how much time are you willing to pay? 

A happy, long-term relationship doesn’t fall out of the sky.

For many, online dating doesn’t improve their dating life. 

Therefore, if you haven’t tried it before and want different results, you must do something different. 

If that resonates, I suggest giving dating coaching a shot.

Can a dating coach help me?

I can confidently say that a dating coach can help you accelerate your progress. 🚀

I wish I had met my mentors sooner so they could show me the ropes and guide me to success earlier. 

I wouldn’t have made as many mistakes and would’ve achieved a lot more. 

Well, sh*t happens. 

I don’t regret it. 

But if I could do it all over again, one of the first things I would do is search for the right coach. 

I’ve spent over 15 years deep-diving into this stuff. 

With over 1500 hours of certified training in India and Thailand (think yoga, Tantra, intimacy, trauma, the whole package), let me tell you this: 

Therapy can be great, but it can take forever. 

My clients (guys just like you!) often report feeling a shift within days. 

Aleksander said; 

“I started on Saturday, and on Sunday, I already reported that something had changed in my relationship.” 

And his girlfriend Ula even said; 

“Things started to change from day one.”

All great men agree that they achieved success because they rested on the shoulders of other great men already there.

I am the brotherly dating coach who can help you shortcut spending years in therapy and see success in a matter of weeks.

So, going back to the question—yes, as a seasoned dating coach, I can help you! ❤️

What questions should I ask a dating coach?

Here are some of the best questions to ask a dating coach:

  • What are my current subconscious beliefs about love and relationships?
  • Why have I not found true love yet?
  • What is the invisible force holding me from getting the love I desire and want?
  • Why does it seem like I thrive in all areas except my love life?
  • What are the neurotic holding patterns you can see in my personality?
  • What are the habitual love patterns that you can reflect on me?
  • Why do I always fall into the friend zone?
  • Why can’t I seem to have intense masculine energy around me that naturally attracts awesome women like bees to a flower?

Who is the best dating coach in San Francisco?

You’ve already found the best dating coach in San Francisco—you’re on his page! 😉

Look, if you’re a man ready to attract high-quality women who want the real you, I want you to know you won’t just be working with another dating coach. 

You’ll be getting personal support from a dating AND tantra expert. 🤝

I do things a little differently. 

And I get it. 

I’m not for everyone.

But I am for anyone serious about transforming their life to finding lasting love.

I’m not just your coach and you’re not just my client.

Think of me as your brother who will hold you accountable until you transform like my previous clients have.

You can’t fail when I’m by your side. 

I won’t let you.

I’ll walk you through every step until you become the type of man who naturally and effortlessly attracts women.

I want every date to be the best date you’ve ever had. 

And when you’re ready, I want to see you happy in a relationship with the woman of your dreams. 

How do I find the right dating coach?

Here’s how to find your dating wingman who gets results:

🚀 Know your current situation.

First, what’s holding you back?

Do you need help with confidence, building rapport, or understanding women?

Knowing your dating strengths and weaknesses will help you choose a coach with the proper techniques.

🚀 Look at the coach’s experience.

Skip the Bali bro with the “instant fix” promises. 🤙

Look for a coach who’s proven to have helped men like you.

Do they have tons of happy clients rocking vibrant love lives?

That’s a good sign.

🚀 Check for authenticity.

Beware of shady pick-up artist tactics.

A real dating coach focuses on building genuine connections, not cheesy lines.

My FLT method, for example, combines tantric practices with coaching.

It’s all about unlocking your inner confidence so that you can attract women naturally.

🚀 Check the success stories.

Read client reviews like how you’d browse Yelp for the best taco reviews.

Get a feel for the coach’s approach and success rate.

You don’t need to know everything, but having a direction helps you find the best possible answer. 

Finding the right coach is like finding the perfect wingman for a night out.

You want someone who understands the scene, knows the right moves, and helps you score big.

With the proper criteria, you’ll be well on your way to finding your perfect dating partner.

Do online dating coaches work?

Absolutely! 💯

An online dating coach can be a game-changer, especially when you find the right fit.  

If you’re jaded from online dating or discouraged by the SF Bay area dating scene, you might be skeptical about talking to a dating coach.

I wouldn’t be here and put the effort into creating this page if it didn’t work, though. 

And I wouldn’t share any of this unless I knew I could help you. 

You had to find this page so that you know where one of the best dating coaching programs is. 

The universe sometimes works in mysterious ways.

Explore my website and check out the success stories. 

These are real men who have seen transformations, and I’m confident you’ll resonate with at least one of their stories.

How much is a dating coach on average?

The cost of working with a dating coach can vary widely from $100 up to $10,000 or even more. 

Several factors must also be considered, such as the coach’s experience and location. 

Let’s use some of my rates, for example: 

💰 Free training.

At entry level, I offer a free dating masterclass that all men can take on their own time.

(No, this has nothing to do with creating an online dating profile. This teaches you the foundation to succeeding in love as a man.)

💰 Affordable training courses.

Next, I offer on-demand intro courses starting from as little as $27. 🤯

These are for those on a tight budget. 

💰 Private coaching.

Interested in working with me closely?

My private coaching sessions start from $1,000 per month. 💎

It may seem expensive compared to inexperienced coaches and traditional therapy sessions. 

But focus on value, not just cost. 

How long would it take to see transformations working with inexperienced coaches or traditional therapists? 

At best, it may take months or even years—and no results are guaranteed. 

The best of the best who can ensure you get results aren’t cheap.

If you could get a top-tier coach who can help you find love and transform for the rest of your life within weeks, how would it not be worth it? 

As Warren Buffet says;

“The best investment you can make is in yourself.” 

Investing in your happiness could be the most critical decision you ever make. 

Imagine positive mental health, sexual fulfillment, and a loving relationship with the woman of your dreams. 

You can’t put a price tag on that. 

Are all dating coaches the same?

There are all sorts of coaches you can find with different frameworks. 

My program is available for all men regardless of location. 

What many of my clients appreciate about working with me is that my love coaching sessions are custom-tailored based on your situation and location, whether that’s in: 

No matter where you are in this big, beautiful world, I’ll help you navigate your love life through natural, ancient practices that stand the test of time. 

Master the basic dating principles, and you won’t struggle with experiencing love again.