If you are one of every three men who suffer from premature ejaculation, this article is for you. You have all the conventional methods you got from the mayo clinic. You’ve even moved on to the urology care foundation. Yet still, nothing is working. Fear not! This ultimate guide on healing premature ejaculation NATURALLY will help you.
Today I will explain some reasons for this common but unnecessary issue. I will explain how lifelong premature ejaculation occurs. Often this is due to unexplored psychological factors. I’ll also show how premature ejaculation (PE) doesn’t have to be a factor in your sexual encounters.
If you are one of three men who deal with cannot delay ejaculation – keep reading. You’re far better off here, learning about tantric treatments, than at the mayo clinic. Like the many clients with whom I have worked on this issue, you can leave your premature ejaculation days behind you. For good.
Start by watching this premature ejaculation video and then continue reading:
Table of Contents
What is premature ejaculation?
Firstly, let’s discuss what premature ejaculation (PE) is. There is some disparity between the official stance on it and my perspective. We’ll unpack that a little.
Premature ejaculation (PE), according to the mayo clinic, is ejaculation sooner than wanted after penetration. The urology care foundation uses a similar definition.
It can either be a lifelong issue or an acquired premature ejaculation at a later stage in life. Often after a big emotional life event. So, is any amount of PE natural? Yes. There is a small amount of natural, variable premature ejaculation. It will happen from time to time. But it should not be regular.
Most men have encountered this issue to some extent at some point in their lives. It can happen at any age or time in your life and bears no relation to ethnicity. This makes PE the most common male sexual dysfunction of them all.
What is the difference between premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction? Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are used interchangeably. But this is not the case. Premature ejaculation is rapid ejaculation. Erectile dysfunction is trouble maintaining or getting an erection. Kegel exercises (more on these later) can help with both.
What are the diagnostic criteria for premature ejaculation?
The diagnostic criteria for premature ejaculation are simple. Premature ejaculation is when ejaculation occurs sooner than desired during a sexual experience. Performance anxiety and erectile dysfunction also play a role.
The official vs unofficial definition
My personal opinion on premature ejaculation differs from the official definition. In MY opinion, premature ejaculation is when you finish before you AND your partner are ready for the lovemaking session to end. If you can satisfy your partner and delay ejaculation until you CHOOSE to ejaculate, then you don’t have premature ejaculation.
The flip side of this coin? Even if you can last longer than 2 minutes during sexual intercourse, if you aren’t always satisfying your partner and delaying ejaculation as a conscious choice, then you have premature ejaculation… To an extent.
The sexual medicine society adheres that premature ejaculation can cause confidence issues. But the sexual medicine society doesn’t prescribe anything tantric. It is the same with the urology care foundation. This is an oversight. Since it takes going deep to treat this kind of sexual function issue.
What are the symptoms of premature ejaculation?
The main symptom of premature ejaculation is rapid ejaculation during a sexual experience. Other symptoms include erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety. Erectile dysfunction and performance anxiety go hand in hand with premature ejaculation.
With PE, a man’s partner stimulates him and he ejaculates very quickly. And with ED, the partner stimulates yet he can’t get hard.
The main causes of Premature Ejaculation
In almost all cases, premature ejaculation can be reduced to either one or a combination of three issues. You should have a physical exam in the first instance. This is to rule out any physical cause that might impact your sexual encounters. If you’re all good physically, move on to the psychological factors.
1. Physical and medical factors
- Diabetes (type 1 or type 2. Type 2 is a treatable condition, whereas type 1 is manageable). Diabetes of both types can play a role in a PE problem.
- Heart problems
- Low testosterone levels
2. Psychological and mental factors
Psychological factors are often at the heart of premature ejaculation. Such psychological problems can put you in the sympathetic nervous system. When in this state, ejaculation occurs sooner than it would normally. Behavioral therapy can go so far with psychological problems. Tantra will go to the root of the issue.
Although the mayo clinic might have us believe otherwise, these factors are:
Selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors
The use of selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors such as antidepressants CAN help with premature ejaculation. But it isn’t a long-term solution. More a temporary band-aid. Although you may be able to slow ejaculation and delay orgasm, there are consequences.
SSRIs come with a price
These medicines come with a bunch of other side effects. Many of which are not pleasant at all. Tantric and behavioral therapy goes deeper than any conventional method ever could. Medical ‘management’ skims the surface. Even fancily-worded pills such as the tricyclic antidepressant clomipramine…
3. Relationship problems
- Power struggles
- Poor communication
- Harboring unexpressed anger or frustration
- Fear of Commitment
- Fear of intimacy with a sexual partner
- Performance anxiety from feeling pressure to perform
- Being in a toxic relationship
Premature ejaculation can lead to erectile dysfunction
Worrying about your sexual performance and keeping an erection speeds up the ejaculation process. It can also lead to erectile dysfunction. Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are both classified as male sexual dysfunction. But they are not the same. They do however often appear side by side.
If you struggle with premature ejaculation, you will likely feel stressed about your sexual performance shortly before you make love. This puts you in the sympathetic nervous system again. Bloodflow to the penis is shut down. And it can be impossible to get an erection. See the synergistic relationship here?
Premature ejaculation and your sex life
Today, sexual encounters between the average couple last around 5 minutes. 5.4 to be precise. After this, the man ejaculates. He is no longer able to continue penetrating her and the session is over. Herein lies the problem.
For a woman to be able to experience deep, vaginal orgasms – she needs TIME. Much more than 5.4 minutes!
PE and decreased libido
If you experience premature ejaculation, it can cause a decreased libido. Premature ejaculation can cause huge relationship problems. And most of these relationship problems come about due to pressure (real or perceived) to last longer from your partner.
If you have acquired premature ejaculation, you must regain control of when ejaculation occurs. Once you do, sexual activity can become sacred. See here for more about sacred sex and sex therapy for improving sexual function. Trust me, sexual activity doesn’t have to be purely mechanical. It can be a portal to God.
The different kinds of female orgasm
Speaking of portals to God… The average woman needs 40 minutes to reach the point where she is physically able to achieve a deep, cervical orgasm. It takes her even longer – around 60 minutes – to enter the realm of possibility for achieving the infamous valley orgasm. If you haven’t heard of the valley orgasm, this is when a woman experiences wave upon wave of orgasmic energy moving through her body.
Beyond 60 minutes is when she can experience a cosmic orgasm. This is a deep, spiritual union. It is an ecstatic, expansive experience that can bring one into an altered state of consciousness. The cosmic orgasm is another thing you won’t find at the mayo clinic, FYI.
The cosmic orgasm
The cosmic orgasm is a timeless, boundless state. It is transcendental. Orgasmic waves move through all of the energy centers. This kind of orgasm is nothing other than spiritual and has huge healing potential.
Women crave this deeper kind of vaginal orgasm, yet most do not get to experience it. This is often due to women’s sexual issues such as vaginal numbness. Which is a whole other story, entirely. For a man to provide his woman with the experience of a cosmic orgasm, he needs to be in full control of his ejaculation.
The bottom line: you need to delay your climax
So the bottom line is this: to satisfy your woman and have spiritual sex, you need to delay climax and last at least 60 minutes in bed. Compare 60 with the average of 5.4. There is a big disparity between the two.
I have spent many years working as a tantra and sexuality coach for men from all over the world. Tantra is like a sexual medicine.
During this time coaching, I have witnessed this problem (premature ejaculation, diagnosed or not) causing rifts in relationships and eventually leading to breakups, separation, and even divorce.
Hence why I want to spread this sexual medicine as far as possible. It can pull your relationship back from the brink of disaster. Such is its power.
The sexual medicine of premature ejaculation
Controlling ejaculation is a skill that every man needs to learn how to master. Once you treat PE with this sexual medicine, you will live in full masculine confidence. You will be able to attract and maintain deep, fulfilling relationships. You’ll always be able to satisfy your partner and have an amazing sex life.
Delay ejaculation to achieve your relationships goals
Alongside the one in three men who are struggling to control ejaculation, a small handful of smart men are delaying their climax. They last for as long as they want to in sexual activity. Their tolerance to sexual stimulation is high.
They are also doing this WITHOUT anesthetic creams, wellness professionals, or drug therapy. Rather than pills and healthcare providers, they are using techniques from the world of tantric hatha yoga. These include things like breathing, nauli kriya, and energy manipulation. They are choosing precisely at which point during lovemaking they want to ejaculate. Whether they last 2 minutes, 20 minutes, 2 hours, or 2 weeks, it is a choice that is completely down to them.
Achieve your relationship goals by delaying the climax
Once you have started to control your sexual energy, you can begin to achieve your relationship goals. Whether that means improving your current relationship (or sometimes ending it) or attracting a new partner. I have witnessed my clients doing it all.
The ripple effect of controlling your ejaculation
Mastering your ejaculation doesn’t only affect your love life. It also has a ripple effect on other areas. Some of my clients have doubled their income in a matter of weeks or been healed from a lifetime of depression. Almost all of the men with whom I have worked on PE feel like their life has forever been changed.
Instead of living in a state of anxiety, fear, and lack, they are instead fully embodying their masculine nature and living in a state of joy and abundance.
How do we overcome and treat premature ejaculation?
As stated above… First, any physical causes have to be ruled out.
After that, if the problem persists, you need to deal with the psychological issues and the issues connected to your relationship.
You can ignore the suggestions of mainstream media, such as wearing a condom, masturbating, and numbing creams. These won’t work and are only temporary band-aids that mask the real problem.
Before I begin, I must point out the following… there is a certain natural variable in premature ejaculation. Sometimes we last for ages and can delay ejaculation for hours. Other times, we don’t last quite as long.
10 tantric treatments for premature ejaculation to help you last longer in bed
Here are my top 10 tantric treatments you WON’T find in Mayo Clinic or the urology care foundation:
1. Relax, slow down, and breathe
If you take away just one thing from this article – let it be this one. You need to relax and slow down. This alone will help delay ejaculation substantially. Take control of your excitement and calm down. Take deep, yogic breaths from your belly instead of your chest. Think of it as a kind of behavioral therapy.
There are parasympathetic nervous system receptors located deep in your diaphragm, and breathing deeply will activate them. When you breathe from your chest the opposite happens. Your sympathetic nervous system is activated instead. And this is when early ejaculation occurs. Slowing down will relax the pelvic floor. We want this. This is because contraction of the pelvic floor leads to faster ejaculation.
Hence by relaxing the pelvic floor, we can last longer.
Hence to prevent premature ejaculation, your breath is the first place to start. When you first start, wearing a condom can help you last longer. Eventually, you will be able to lose the condom.
2. Stop watching porn
Across all of my work, I always encourage people to assess and address their relationship with porn. For premature ejaculation, porn is problematic. It programs the brain to reach climax too soon. This is not to mention the dampening impact it has on our real-life sexual encounters and sexual relationships.
This kind of ejaculation (fast and furious) is usually accompanied by ‘the death grip’ – a forceful way of masturbating that only intensifies the urge to ejaculate rapidly. Normal ejaculation is hindered.
The tantric approach to masturbation
Tantra teaches that this is the wrong approach to masturbation. The right approach? Just stop watching porn. This will help delay ejaculation. I challenge you to go cold turkey for at least 6 months. You will observe your relationship with women and sex transform. And your premature ejaculation issues fall away. Your enjoyment of sexual intimacy will skyrocket. Normal ejaculation will come back to you.
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3. Practice edging, the start and stop method
‘Edging’ is also known as the ‘start-stop’ technique. It is an ancient technique from within the system of tantra. Edging has long been used to treat PE. Edging can help a man to be very sexually stimulated yet not reach orgasm.
Edging is related to the start-stop method. Put simply, you need to stimulate yourself until the point just below orgasm. Then either hold it there or stop. Before you reach the point of no return, stop what you are doing.
Edging is a tricky technique to practice at first, as it can be very hard to resist the urge to ejaculate. Sexual pleasure without orgasm can feel unsatisfying at first. But it comes with time. Practice edging alone first before you move on to vaginal sex. Having a female partner stimulates the penis too much. It can be very difficult to control yourself.
Once mastered, you will have reprogrammed your brain and become more sensitive to your sexual energy. And then you can move on to sexual intercourse. As I have already said, it’s a hard technique to master – but very worth it.
4. Know your arousal level
Haven’t you heard of ‘personal arousal level’ before? Perhaps this is why you’re having sexual problems. 😉 It’s time to get acquainted with the term and what it means. Your arousal level is vitally important for maintaining an erection.
The level ranges from 0% to 100%. 0% is completely turned off. 100% is ejaculation (game over). Once you become more in tune with your level, the more control you will have over your ejaculation. To learn about your arousal level, you need to start playing with it.
At this point, ride the waves between 40% and 80% for an extended period. Pair this technique with edging and practice regularly. If you do, you will have a very strong chance of overcoming a premature ejaculation problem.
Once you have mastered your arousal level, you can graduate and move on to learn about your partner. After you do this, your lovemaking will take off in directions you never thought possible. This technique and the one above take time and patience. They are not easy things to master, but no one ever said that the things most worth having came easily.
5. Move sexual energy
In case you didn’t know, your sexual energy has a fluid-like quality. Just like a fluid, it runs through your body and can be manipulated and directed. When it comes to treating premature ejaculation, knowing how to move your sexual energy is essential. Unless you know how stagnation and illness can happen.
How do you move sexual energy? Undoubtedly the most important element is visualization. Sit quietly. Visualize waves of energy moving from your testicles up your spine to the top of your head. Use the power of your mind to concentrate solely on this. If any distracting thoughts or sensations creep in simply notice them and watch them fall away.
Yogic breathing techniques can also help. As already outlined, breathing in for 4 and out for 8 through the nose will activate the parasympathetic nervous system and relax you. Once you are deeply relaxed, you are more able to postpone your ejaculation. To further the effects of moving sexual energy you can involve the use of Bandhas and Mudras. Don’t know what exercise to start with? Read my article on Testicle Breathing to find the perfect practice to move your sexual energy.
6. Strengthen your penis with Kegel exercises
The vast majority of men neglect their pelvic floor. This leads to the weakness of these intricate muscles and a lack of control over ejaculation.
To strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, you must practice Kegels. Unless you have been living under a rock, you have probably heard of Kegels for women. They are just as effective and important as men. For men, Kegels act as a penis strengthening exercise. Kegels involve contracting the pelvic floor muscles as you would when you are mid-pee and want to stop mid-stream.
Practice kegels daily
Practicing Kegels for men a few times a day will not only strengthen the much-neglected muscles of the penis but will also boost your body-mind connection. By doing so, your brain becomes more closely attuned to physical sensations. This promotes more mindfulness and awareness when it comes to sex, pleasure, and controlling orgasms. Note: don’t overdo it with kegels. Overtraining this muscle can cause chronic pelvic floor issues.
Porn and the media have taught us that the female partner should be the one moaning and making noise during sex. This is negative, unhelpful social programming. Due to this programming, many men find it uncomfortable, awkward, or strange to make noise. This is a deep shame. These men do not realize that they are doing themselves a disservice here and are likely to ejaculate faster due to their inability to make noise.
Sound – or ‘sounding’ as I refer to it – is a powerful tool for sublimating sexual energy up the spine and therefore lasting longer in bed. If you can, cast your inhibitions aside and make as much noise as possible during lovemaking. Feeling like you are about to come? Open your mouth and exercise your vocal cords!
If you are worried that your partner will find it strange or judge you for it, I can assure you that the reality is the opposite. Just like men, women worry about their performance in bed too and like to know that their partner is enjoying themselves. There is no better way that you can let your woman know that you are enjoying f*cking her than by making a lot of noise. Trust me 😉
8. Conscious communication with your partner
Modern society has pinned so many expectations and assumptions upon the masculine. The need to complete and perform is at the top of the list.
The role of fear in premature ejaculation
For many men, this results in feelings of fear. Fear that you will not be able to perform in sexual relationships, or attract a good partner.
ALL of this fear is valid. It is also further perpetuated by not voicing it.
When we suppress things, whatever they may be, they tend to snowball. In terms of premature ejaculation, the snowballing effect leads to performance anxiety and other kinds of sexual dysfunction. You get stuck in your head when it comes to your performance in the bedroom, and you stay stuck there. This leads to acquired premature ejaculation due to anxiety.
The way to eradicate this fear (and premature ejaculation) is to move through it by communicating.
Don’t be demanding or place blame. Simply practice being vulnerable and honest in communication. A preface to this is to get vulnerable with yourself first about your premature ejaculation. This will enable you to be direct about the things you do and do not like and want. The beautiful thing about this kind of vulnerable communication? Usually, your partner will follow suit.
Communicate, cast aside the shadows, and watch your relationship and self-confidence take off!
From this kind of space, you can explore all of your assumptions, ideas, desires, fantasies, wants, needs, and blockages. You can discuss the things you want from your partner. The things you want them to do and the things you want to do.
The things you don’t want so much but are willing to do for them – as well as the things you don’t want and are also not willing to do. This will result in more understanding of one another as a couple, more empathy, and increased sexual confidence. Sometimes, a confidence boost is all that’s needed to heal a lifelong ejaculation problem.
9. Delay ejaculation with the squeeze technique
One way to cure premature ejaculation is with the squeeze technique. Taken from this article on muti orgasmic men, it is as simple as it sounds.
Simply position your first two fingers underneath your penis, and put your thumb over the top.
Then make a gentle but firm pinch. Hold the pinch until you can feel yourself become LESS turned on. You can also have a partner help you. When you’re approaching ejaculation, your sexual partner firmly squeezes instead.
10. Seek treatment from a relationship expert
If you have had some of these conversations and tried working with your sexual energy, and yet premature ejaculation persists, it may be time to seek help from a professional coach or tantra teacher.
Many men shy away from asking for treatment or help in any circumstance. This is a self-limiting idea that doing so means that you are weak. Asking for help, more often than not, makes us stronger.
Please understand that you don’t need family physicians or couples therapy, or even a sex therapist. The deepest healing usually comes off label. Working on yourself will radically shift the course of not only your sex life. But your whole spirit as a confident man.
There is no powerful and confident man in the world today who was not coached and supported to get to the place where he is now standing. If you feel it is unmanly to reach for help, ask yourself where that belief is coming from – and question it.
Conclusion: master your ejaculation, master your life
If you have a premature ejaculation issue, I hope that you have now realized that you are not alone. Premature ejaculation is a common problem affecting billions of men across the world. And this sexual dysfunction can be completely healed.
You just need to go to the root of the issue. And this is where tantra comes in. Through slowing down, quitting porn, getting to know your own body, and working with energy, you can achieve a hundred times that which a pill could. It takes time, effort, and consistency. Much more than a pill, which is a quick fix. But quick fixes are a fallacy. They don’t exist. And with tantra, the output is equal to the input. You WILL reap the benefits, and say goodbye to premature ejaculation forever.
If you need some help along the way, I’m here to provide it. As a dating coach for men, I have years of experience in healing sexual dysfunction through tantra.
I’ve also reached thousands of men and couples from all over the world. I can help you gain control over your ejaculation for good. Once you do, you can save your relationship from the brink. You can also attract your soulmate partner. If you have a premature ejaculation problem that is harming your relationship, I’m the best relationship coach to help you.
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How can I fix premature ejaculation?
If you want to fix premature ejaculation permanently, you need to address the root cause. Numbing creams and prescription drugs only serve to play a role in making premature ejaculation worse.
What is premature ejaculation time?
There is no precise time limit for ejaculation to be labeled as premature. According to a sex therapist, premature ejaculation is when it happens within 2 minutes of sexual intercourse.
How can I prevent quick ejaculation naturally?
Tantra offers natural methods to prevent rapid ejaculation.
How long does premature ejaculation usually last?
Some men can experience lifelong premature ejaculation problems. This is if the root cause is not addressed. Premature ejaculation is considered as having an ejaculatory orgasm within 1-2 minutes of penetration.
What causes early ejaculation in men?
Including medical conditions, anxiety, low self-esteem, and low sexual confidence.
How soon after I begin treatment can I expect an improvement?
Follow the 10 steps above with precision and consistency. You should see an improvement in your rapid ejaculation within a few days to a few weeks. Tantra gives results much faster than any sex therapist could!
What is erectile dysfunction and can the squeeze method help?
Erectile dysfunction is the difficulty maintaining an erection. When there is the difficulty maintaining an erection, techniques like the squeeze method will not help.
How often should a man release sperm?
In tantric traditions, once a month is enough. More than this is too often as it does deplete Ojas energy. Loss of Ojas can play a role in feelings of fatigue and apathy. The squeeze method can help here.