Quit Internet Pornography With Tantra: 7 Healing Steps For Porn Addiction

by Porn Addiction

Porn addiction is very real. 1 in 3 men are addicted. The average age for boys to start watching porn is 11 years old!

Like any addiction, porn causes problems in your self-esteem, your relationships, and your energy levels.

But is there an alternative?

If you had the power to choose between a life of happiness, creativity, and fulfillment and a life empty of anything but dependence and dissatisfaction, which path would you pick?

I’m guessing you’d prefer to go down the road that makes you happy and independent. You’d choose the road that allows your inner life, relationships, and sexuality to peak: Tantra.

There is both good and bad news here.

The good news is that you do have that power. If you truly want to, you can harness your potential. You can get your life on a straight track to self-realization. Tantra, an ancient Indian discipline, will take you there.

And the bad news? Well, achieving fulfillment in your spiritual and sexual life will definitely require willpower and work. The long-term destination, however, is infinitely better when you use the tantric approach:

  • connection instead of isolation
  • pleasure instead of compulsion
  • power instead of energy loss

This is the ultimate guide to beating pornography addiction through the proven methods of Tantra. Even the most hardcore porn addict can do it.

In this article, I’ll tell you exactly how.

Still interested in becoming the best version of you? Education and knowledge play a major role in quitting an internet pornography addiction. Let’s get started.

How Porn Works in our Society

First, let’s take a look at some stats. The NCoSE (National Center on Sexual Exploitation) shows just how mainstream porn is in our society. It also highlights how damaging it is.

Research shows that 62% of female teens and 93% of males are exposed to porn.

An important porn site stated, in 2016, the total sum of hours watched added up to 4.6 billion. The same website also claims that from 2017 to 2018, the number of visits increased by 5 billion.

So, if everyone is doing it, it can’t be that bad… Right? Wrong, I’m afraid. Despite the overall number of porn users going up, we’re becoming increasingly aware of the harmful effects of this behavioral addiction.

A pornography addict is more likely to experience problems in his or her relationship. They’ll commit a higher rate of sexual crimes, and experience more dissatisfaction from their real life sexual activity. This is the case in both males and females. I’ll give a more thorough list of the negative consequences of porn below.

So, if internet porn has been clearly shown to have such terrible effects on its users and society at large, why are people still watching it at all?

The answer is simple. Porn is tremendously addictive. It’s designed to hijack the neural pathways of your brain and rewire them to seek out the same stimulation over and over again.

Although in the moment you might be getting off and feeling turned on to the ‘n’th degree, over time porn will lessen your sensitivity to real-life sexual pleasure. This means lovemaking can become dull and boring. You either won’t be able to orgasm at all, or you will have to close your eyes and conjure sexual images you have seen in porn in order to be able to come.

This is the pinnacle of all of the downfalls of a porn addiction. It ruins real life lovemaking so that you are unable to enjoy or feel as much as you otherwise would be able to. Your partner will likely pick up on it too. And once the sex starts to go downhill, everything else usually follows.

Your Brain On Porn

What are the actual mechanisms that porn uses to enslave your brain?

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Essentially, it takes the systems that evolution built into the human body and makes them go haywire.

Take the scientifically demonstrated, natural phenomenon in many mammals (also humans) called the Coolidge effect .

Experiments show that when a male rat mates with a female, its interest goes down over time. If the female rat is replaced with a new one, however, interest in sex increases again. This makes sense. It’s a response that makes sure the species goes on by mating with as many partners as possible.

The same thing happens when you have a porn habit.

You start by watching one mild video. Before you know it, your searches are becoming more and more twisted and extreme. You’ve been watching for hours on end in search of that first high. You feel like sh*t. You know it’s wrong and that it’s hurting you. But you can’t stop.

Sound familiar?

The effect of porn on the brain also impacts the kind of porn you watch. Over time, brain chemistry determines that users tend to escalate onto more extreme porn in order to bring about sexual arousal. This can feature degradation, anxiety-inducing scenes, violence, and even illegal activities.

The Coolidge Effect explained in a short animated video:

The Coolidge effect (and the success of porn) depends on a chemical produced by your brain: dopamine . This is the substance responsible for desire, pleasure, wanting, and the enjoyment of rewards.

Dopamine is also the reason why drugs like heroin and cocaine are addictive. Our brains learn quickly. They find what brings on the cycle of anticipation-and-pleasure (aka, high levels of dopamine) and then make us chase it down again and again.

That’s why fast-speed internet porn has been compared to being as addictive as cocaine and heroin.

The Negative Effects of Porn

There are many reasons why porn is bad for your body, mind and your sexual satisfaction levels. Let’s take a closer look at the different impacts it has upon the human body and psyche.

The psychological effects of porn addiction:

  • Anxiety when faced with sexual situations, meaning you can’t perform or don’t enjoy yourself. Sexual gratification in real life lovemaking is elusive.
  • Uncontrolled thoughts or compulsive cravings that take over your mind and hurt your attention span.
  • Low sexual desire.
  • Self-loathing induced by porn you consider unethical .
  • Lost energy (‘energy leakage’) that could be devoted to your own self-improvement and fulfillment.
  • Giving away your willpower, leading to low-self confidence and failure to achieve your own life goals.
  • Depression and lack of motivation.
  • Emotional numbness.
  • Shame.
  • Mental health issues such as depression, anxiety and low self esteem – these often stem from any compulsive behavior and porn is no different.
  • Inability to embrace a healthy sexuality.

The social effects of unhealthy porn consumption:

  • Inability to connect with your sexual or romantic partner. A great deal of suffering can be inflicted because of one partner’s porn addiction.
  • Break up of relationships – romantic, sexual, or other.
  • Inability to get involved in social settings because of a compulsive need for pornography usage.
  • Developing negative, aggressive, and harmful patterns of sexual behavior.
  • Rape culture gets stronger and more normalized.
  • The demand for sexual exploitation.
  • Increased intent to commit rape or not intervene in cases of rape.

The physical effects of porn addiction:

  • Hijacking of your dopamine production. Porn takes control of your pleasure, against your will.
  • Rewiring of your brain’s reward center (the nucleus accumbens), which gets desensitized and numb. This numbing then forces you to keep binging on new and more extreme material.
  • Premature ejaculation.
  • Decreased sexual pleasure. The activation of addictive brain circuits means that, over time, your ability to find pleasure in sex plummets. Check out this brain scan study that proves it.
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The Dark Energy Of The Porn Industry

Let’s talk about the effects of porn on a spiritual level for a moment. You might have heard that where attention goes energy flows. If so, then watching porn will get you in resonance with the energy of the porn industry and their actors.

The porn industry is a dark place.

It is infused with corruption, female objectification, dehumanization, and male power dynamics. Sure, there is conscious and feminist porn out there if you search hard enough. But it’s rare and minimal.

If you watch the Netflix series After Porn Ends , or Hot Girls Wanted . You see those porn actors are prone to drug use. They have a desperate need for money and fame. The women often have a history of sexual abuse. “Most girls in porn have been sexually abused,” said former porn actress Shelley Lubben. The author of The Truth Behind the Fantasy of Porn .

Is this an industry you wish to support with your time, money and energy?

I would even question those porn stars who genuinely love sex and enjoy their work.

What does the decision “what I want to work with is the selling of my body” come from?

A psychologist would say it comes from daddy issues or a traumatic life event.

Do you want to get yourself tangled up with the energies of these people?

You Become What You Watch

On a spiritual path we want to keep our energy pure and our vibration high. We purify ourselves from negative outside influences.

A regular viewer of internet porn will gradually become attuned to the perverted energy that created it.

This happens through the law of resonance and correspondence. The body-mind of the viewer will absorb the energy of the pornography.

Everything you watch will leave an imprint on you.

The spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle talks about watching TV. He says it induces a false sense of relaxation and freedom. This takes over your mind-stream, depleting your energy and creativity.

This is like seeing a particularly violent scene in Game of Thrones and then having nightmares all night. Not only the images but the energy of what you saw crept into your being – and became a part of you.

I don’t want to portray porn as the devil. So I will finish this section by saying that there is definitely some good conscious porn out there. If not consumed compulsively, there can be some benefits of porn as well.

Porn Addiction Leads To Sex Addiction

Porn checks every box to become the ‘gateway drug’ to full-blown sex addiction. It can also open the door to compulsive sexual behavior.

If you’re not worried about that, think again! Sex addiction is debilitating and can be even more damaging than an addiction to porn. The risks now include exposure to STIs and risky situations involving criminal behavior.

If you’re suffering from sex addiction that is acutely impacting your life, consider reaching out for help.

Whether that’s with The Tantric Man Experience , or recovery programs such as Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA) . Getting help is one of the most important things you can ever do!

Take Neil Strauss’ word for it. He wrote the famous pick-up manual, The Game. This turned him into a sex addict. It took him 10 years to turn around and heal from his compulsive sexual behavior.

After his recovery he released a new book, The Truth, detailing his long recovery. In it he speaks of “lots of therapy and a three-month celibacy and abstinence contract follow, in which Strauss promises to refrain from: masturbating or fantasizing; looking at porn; dressing seductively or cross-dressing; and even flirting.”

“It takes three months for your brain to return to normal after all the imbalances caused by the constant high of sex,” his therapist tells him.

And then, of course, there’s the much dreaded erectile dysfunction that is linked to consuming pornography for masturbation.

Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction

If you watch porn and suffer from erectile dysfunction (can’t keep a firm erection for sex), you should know there’s a clear correlation between those two elements.

It’s common knowledge that built-up nerves and anxiety tend to hinder your sexual performance.

One reason for anxiety is the seeking and reward dopamine cycle. Another is the pressure to live up to the unrealistic expectations set up by porn.

It’s important to keep in mind that porn, like any other piece of media, is often fiction. Typically, porn videos are filmed over days (if not weeks) and they introduce many variables not present during partnered sex.

In case that’s not yet clear enough, a 2016 study that collected old and new data on erectile dysfunction concluded there’s a clear link between ‘artificial stimuli’ (porn) and failure to get and keep an erection in men under 40 years old.

Porn is not worth the brief pleasure it brings you. When you watch it compulsively, you’re trading a rapidly-fading moment of excitement for long-term sexual dysfunction and addictive behavior. You are forfeiting your sexual satisfaction and that of your partner.

The good news? The very same study discovered that your brain’s capacity to bounce back from porn addiction is remarkable.

As long as you can stop consuming porn to help you get an erection, you’re likely to recondition yourself to have a good sex life with a partner.

The Simple PIED Test

The PIED test is short for porn-induced erectile dysfunction test. Gary Wilson (from YourBrainOnPorn) developed this test to help guys to find out if their ED relates to porn or performance anxiety .

First, make sure your erectile dysfunction is not biological. Biological reasons for ED can be low testosterone or clogged arteries due to high red meat consumption.

Then, follow these steps:

  1. Masturbate to your favorite porn video. You can also recall it in your mind. If you are recovering from porn addiction, avoid watching it and only use porn fantasies.
  2. At another time, a few days later – masturbate again but this time without porn or porn fantasies. You are not allowed to recall any porn scenes, visuals, or mental aids. Only focus on the sensations in the body.

When done, compare two things:

  • How long it took to ejaculate or reach climax.
  • And the strength of erection and erection quality (EQ), in both situations.

How to analyze the data:

A healthy and vigorous male does not have a problem achieving erection and orgasm on both occasions. With and without fantasy.

If your erection is strong when recalling porn but weak without it, you have PIED.

Have a solid erection without the aid of fantasy, but trouble when having sex? Then your erectile dysfunction is coming from performance anxiety.

If you have no erection on both #1 and #2 you might have a severe PIED or a physical issue. When this is the case, you need to go cold turkey on porn and seek a good urologist. Also, test your testosterone levels. A good DIY at home-kit I use is Lets Get Checked. They ship to most countries.

What’s so great about the simple PIED test is that it helps you to separate between PIED and performance anxiety. Because you can’t be anxious with your good old right hand.

Do I Have A Porn Addiction?

The American Psychiatric Association talks about substance abuse or addiction as compulsive use despite harmful consequences . As you already know, your brain’s wiring and dopamine cycles mean that addiction to porn is just the same. You keep using it even if you know it is hurting you.

The physical, social, and physical effects of pornography stay the same – addicted or not. Addiction simply takes these effects one step further. The American Psychiatric Association gives four symptoms you can look for to pinpoint addiction:

  • Lack of control: You find that you can’t keep your craving for porn in check. Perhaps you’ve already tried to quit it and failed.
  • Social problems: You fail to complete the tasks you need to achieve. You stop engaging in social activities because of insecurity or the need to consume porn. This often shows up clearly in your sex life. You stop being interested in partnered sex or experience performance issues like ED or performance anxiety. You might also feel the need to perform more extreme and degrading sex acts to get aroused or reach orgasm.
  • Risky use: You consume porn compulsively even though you’re aware of its harmful effects. And, you use porn in risky settings – such as the office or public transport, where you could get caught and experience negative consequences.
  • Drug (or drug-like) effects: Here’s where the neurochemical cycles play out, making you reach for increasingly more extreme content.

What to do if this description fits you?

If you look at any of these four signs and symptoms of porn addiction and recognize yourself, you’re not alone. Many men and women all over the world struggle with this daily.

But having a porn addiction doesn’t mean it condemns you to unfulfilling sex life. Your addiction doesn’t define you. You are not limited to the compulsive behaviors you are playing out right now- you’re so much more than that!

Porn addiction therapy exists. Just as with any addiction treatment, it takes time and investment. But it’s totally worth it and very effective.

Choose to be the one who defines yourself and change the way your brain works to experience connection, sexual confidence, and pure pleasure.

Why Do People Become Addicts?

Porn is addictive and entirely bad for you- we’ve established that now. But what is the alternative?

First, let’s consider a series of experiments on rats. This study was designed to give us an insight into the mechanisms of addiction.

I won’t bore you with the details , but the conclusions are clear. The researchers concluded that addiction isn’t just about the substance you’re consuming…

… Instead, these studies proved that addiction has everything to do with how isolated or connected we are. This is no different from substance abuse.

A rat that had relationships with mates and an engaging, motivating environment to keep it interested was much less likely to develop an addiction to the drug. But is this still valid for humans?

What you can learn from Portugal’s revolutionary drug policy:

Well, when Portugal took the cue and decriminalized addicts in

In 2001, Portugal took the radical step of decriminalizing drug addicts. Instead of persecution and prosecution, it instead provided them with social support and therapy. Therapy and social support went to the root of their issues (isolation). As a result, Portugal’s national rates of drug addiction plummeted. The Portuguese death toll related to drug overdose is now the second lowest in all the European Union. It looks like we’re more similar to rats than expected!

In a psychiatry book published in 2000, A General Theory of Love , we find proof that addictive behaviors are directly linked to a lack of emotional connection during childhood.

If there is a void where there should have been love and support, a pervasive feeling of disconnection will most certainly follow.

This is a pattern that extends into adult life, ending in poor abilities to manage stress and emotions. It erodes relationship trust, causes isolation and dependence. Dependence on other people, substances, or porn.

Addiction is therefore not just about what you’re consuming. It’s about a general pattern. This pattern is one of isolation, disconnection, lack of emotional support and healing.

Knowing this, how do we defeat porn addiction?

Speaker and writer Johann Hari said the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.

The key to beating your porn habit or addiction is not ‘just stopping.’ What you need to do is improve your connection to yourself and to the people around you .

That’s exactly where Tantra comes into the picture.

Why Tantra Is The Best Way To Beat Porn Addiction

What is Tantra and what is Tantric Sex?

Perhaps you think that Tantric sex is one specific, monotonous style of sex that you have to comply with ‘or you won’t reach illumination’ or something akin to that. That couldn’t be any further from the truth of what Tantra is. In actual fact, Tantra isn’t about sex at all.

Just like addiction goes beyond porn and is rooted in isolation, Tantra goes way beyond sex. Tantra is rooted firmly in connection.

What truly matters is the intention behind what you do. This intention extends to whatever style, or position of sex you want to have with your partner.

Today in the West, Tantra is packaged and sold as just another way to spice up your sex life. In reality, that is only about 5%.

Sometimes it’s presented as something only hippies and ‘earth warriors’ at market stalls do. Perhaps you imagine gazing into your partner’s eyes in adoration for five minutes, drinking kombucha, hugging for what seems forever, and making sweet love in missionary position. Or maybe missionary with a pillow. Wrong!

Is Tantra more than sex?

Tantra is an ancient Indian path rooted in a deep philosophy of enjoyment and pleasure. But pleasure is a much wider category than mere sex.

Tantra can include walking, talking, sleeping, waking up, eating, drinking, and everything in between. It asks you to put consciousness into every action and moment. These ancient teachings show you how to be present with awareness.

Most spiritual paths tell you to avoid stuff. Food, relationships, activities, sex. By forbidding, they create an imbalance that is often filled with addictive behaviors. Restriction or lack and addiction are the two sides of the same coin.

Tantra Is Saying Yes To Life

Tantra is the complete opposite of that. It’s saying a loud YES to life and everything it has to offer. It teaches how you to take whatever your everyday life throws at you and transmute it into spiritual energy.

This is the energy that raises you up to a whole new level of consciousness and pleasure. That’s the secret. Taking energy from the good, bad and the ugly, and turning it into something sacred. Something that lifts you up and sends you into ecstasy.

It’s a process of inner alchemy. Tantra is driven by practice, intent, focus, and love. And yes, this applies to sex as well!

Tantric sex, also known as conscious sexuality, doesn’t look like anything specific. It accepts all sexual orientations and genders. It includes each and every position and style. From the most romantic lovemaking with music and candlelight to the roughest sex of your life. It’s all good. Tantra rejects nothing.

7 Tantric Practices To Quit Porn Addiction Today

We’ve explored how porn addiction works and how Tantra helps beat it.

Practicing Tantra will teach you to be independent and relate to people from a place of confidence and pleasure. You’ll have to put in the work for sure. But nothing worth having ever came easily.

If you’re ready to start taking control of your own sexual life and achieving your full potential, read on! This is where you can start quitting a porn addiction with Tantra today.

There are practical steps you can start taking today to get your life and sexuality to the best place. After all, Tantra isn’t just a philosophy. It’s a practice that gets into the mud with you and helps you rise above the water.

Choose one and practice it daily. Use one for each day of the week. Do what you will! These are 7 tantric exercises to help you overcome porn addiction. Follow them and you’ll soon be on your way to becoming a connected, happy, powerful human being.

1) Visualization

This visualization practice teaches you to move sexual energy up and down the spine. The goal? Learning to manage your energy flow. You’ll get a handle on your feelings of lust. You’ll be able to decide to turn them up or down at any moment.

  1. Start by imagining a channel starting at the base of your spine, the perineum or root chakra. Follow it to the top of the head or crown chakra.
  2. Visualize red, warm energy or light moving up from the base all the way up your spine. See it melting into cool, white energy at the crown of the head.
  3. Get your breath in the game. Inhale and visualize the cool air flowing down to the base of the spine. Exhale as you send the sexual, red energy up to the crown.
  4. Doing this for 15 mins per day will decrease sexual lust and desire to more manageable levels.

2) Pranayama

Life-force breathing is a key part of Tantra and yoga traditions. It means working with your breath to clear up blockages in your body and help energy flow better.

It shakes up the excess, stagnant sexual energy you’re storing in the genital area. Shaking it up causes it to travel elsewhere in the body. This liberates you to use that sexual fire to fuel your creativity, drive, and success.

Pranayama techniques are many and include the breathwork you used in the visualization practice above. The goal is to decrease sexual cravings and compulsions. In turn, this frees that energy for a conscious purpose.

 

3) The Microcosmic Orbit

This is a pranayama breathing technique to form an energy loop. This will start and finish at the navel. It’s based on 2 channels. The back channel or governing channel runs from the perineum up until the upper lip. The front channel (conception channel) travels down from the lower lip to the perineum.

When you connect them by using your breath consciously, you’re creating what the Taoists call a cosmic orbit. This is like a super highway of energy that flows right through the center of your body. It’s very important: it mirrors the flow of energy in the Universe at large.

Important to know before you start: Breathe only through the nostrils. And, close your mouth and press your tongue to the upper palate, behind your front teeth. This is the way you connect the governing back channel to the conception channel at the front.

How do you practice this Microcosmic Orbit?

  1. Place your hands outside of your body at the level of the pelvic floor. Imagine a pearl of white light at the tip of your tailbone.
  2. Using your inhale and the power of visualization, move the pearl up the spine. Move it up through the backchannel. Follow the movement with your hands over the front of your body.
  3. Exhale the pearl down the front. Again, follow the movement with your hands over your front body. Keep up your breathing visualization on the inside.
  4. Do 18 cycles of this.
  5. Finish the exercise by placing your hands (one on top of the other) on your navel. This is where you’ll let the energy settle. You’re storing your life force so it’s out of the way. It’s also readily available when you do need to use it.

4) Transfiguration

Tantra is all about transmuting the energy of mediocre life events. That energy goes from commonplace to a sacred experience of aliveness.

This is less of an exercise and more of an ongoing practice. It involves shifting the way you look at whatever and whoever is around you. Instead of an obstacle or object to judge, these things become fuel for your spiritual awakening.

Make a habit out of:

  • Seeing the beauty in everything. Everything you encounter is divine.
  • Seeing beyond the physical and into the energy of objects, people, and situations.
  • Seeing the soul of the person, not only the physical form.
  • Moving away from objectifying women. Instead, take an attitude of worship. Every woman you see and meet is the Goddess .

This is a practice of transfiguration. It alchemizes your ordinary reality into an extraordinary experience of pleasure. Use it to rewire your brain. You will see deeper, feel more empathy and experience more love.

 

5) Meditation

Meditation is not a New Age thing. It’s a crucial tool for building a disciplined and focused mind. That’s the sort of stable mind that doesn’t give in to the compulsion of porn. An unstable mind gets distracted by involuntary thoughts and addictive behaviors.

The mind-body connection is a real thing. One follows the other. When you learn to observe and control your mind, you learn to observe and control your body.

Do you want to be purposeful and strong or weak-willed and stuck in addictive cycles?

“You should sit in meditation for 20 minutes a day unless you’re too busy, then you should sit for an hour.” – Old Zen saying.

 

6) Sexual Energy Transmutation

This is an alchemical process to use sexual energy and sexual intimacy to achieve your goals and desires. These could be anything from ‘quitting porn for good’ to ‘getting motivated for that presentation’ . Or even the more general ‘becoming my higher self.’ This is how you do it:

  1. Set your intention. Visualize the result you want, focusing on the positive emotions (key) you’ll feel when you achieve it. Hold the whole thing in your mind.
  2. Do you feel the need to fulfill your sexual desires right now? Practice one of these tantric exercises instead. The key is to use breathing and visualization to direct that excess sexual energy to your goal.
  3. Channel your attention and creative energy towards your goal. Like Scott Jeffrey says, ‘Your desire for what you want must be greater than your drive for pleasure right now.’
  4. Maintain your focus and be patient.

7) Karezza

The most patience needed of all these tantric exercises is Karezza (Italian for ‘caress’). Why? It requires a change of pace in partnered sex. It’s important that you avoid falling into an objectifying, mediocre sexual mindset.

You’ve gotta keep your attention on staying conscious and appreciative. It’s a shift away from charging towards immediate release!

By doing this, you’ll increase your closeness to your sexual partner. You’ll learn to feel pleasure in the entire process of sex – not just in climaxing. You’ll be working to build connection and heal the void that keeps you vulnerable to porn addiction.

The basic how-to: (you can find a complete approach here )

  1. Lie down face-to-face with your partner.
  2. Touch each other, look into each other’s eyes, kiss, listen to each other breathe. Try to stay present without judgment. Massage each other or place your hand over their heart and feel the beat. If you need to say something to clear up the tension, do it gently.
  3. If you both choose to continue to penetration, do it slowly and with attention. Avoid thrusting – stay inside her without moving and just feel the sensation of the subtle energy. Because there is no finish line (you’re not trying to reach orgasm,) there’s no rush.
  4. Enjoy the closeness and let connection rise up instead of simple lust.

Got everything?

These methods might seem simple, but they work. If you do one or two, you’ll start building new foundations of self-confidence and power.

If you want to start blazing your own path but don’t know how, that’s exactly what we help with at the Tantric Academy. We’ll keep you motivated, connected, and accountable to fast-track your progress.

I’d wish you good luck quitting. But, if you put in the work on these 7 tantric practices to overcome porn addiction, you won’t need any. Stay strong and rise!

8 Porn Addiction Apps: Quit Porn With The Help Of These Apps

  1. Fortify – A strategic platform that gives you creative and informative videos on how porn works. You also have the ability to set goals and track progress visually. The remote support community is another tremendous feature.
  2. Cold Turkey – This app helps you completely block disturbing apps and unwanted websites. There is no turning back. There’s a free version. You don’t need to type in the URL’s yourself, since block lists are already included. You can set it to block adult websites without being able to revert it. Intense? That’s progress for you!
  3. Safe Surfer – A free Adult Site blocker for Android and iPhone. Works with setting up a private VPN. Sounds like a hassle? It does all of the work for you with a few clicks. Activate the prevent uninstall option and set a long password (50 characters+). This way you will not be bothered to unlock it. Optionally, give the password to a friend.
  4. Victory – Daily motivational quotes and an analytical tracker to keep you going through the hard times.
  5. Habit Tracker – This app tracks and presents your patterns very clearly. You won’t be able to say you don’t know what you’re doing.
  6. Covenant Eyes – Not for the half-hearted, this app allows you to select allies. These allies will be able to track your progress, offer support, and keep you accountable.
  7. NoFap Chrome – A panic button you can press to get the instant motivation to stay on track when you need it the most.
  8. NoFap for Android – The same but it goes with you on your phone.

4 Practices To Treat The Root Cause Of Porn Addiction

The video below explores how there’s usually an underlying unmet need that’s fueling the porn addiction. Removing access to porn might only be treating the symptom. To go to the root cause we need to find what triggered the addiction in the first place. My work with men has shown me that porn addiction is usually a distraction from feelings of loneliness and emotional rejection. This is also the case with substance abuse. It’s simply a different choice of poison.

To address the root cause, work to heal and see these feelings are needed. A few practices that can help with that are:

  • Meditation – take time to sit in contemplation and solitude every day. If you have never meditated before, try a meditation app.
  • Physical touch – Surround your life with people you can share platonic touch with. For example, practice hugging your friends and family more often. And go for a massage once a week, or for a contact improv dance .
  • Shadow work – go to the root of suppressed traumas by working with your shadow and inner child.
  • Emotional connection – make sure to have good friends in your life you can vulnerably share with. If you don’t have that yet, pick up a hobby. Go to weekly events to meet like-minded people. Organize or attend a meetup. This app is truly awesome. “Join a local group to meet people, try something new, or do more of what you love.”.

 

How to Quit Porn Addiction With Accountability

If you’re the only thing standing between yourself and relapse, falling back into porn addiction is all too easy. This is why accountability matters so much.

However, accountability isn’t the same as just texting your also-porn-addicted friend. That doesn’t cut it. You need the support of someone who has been there or at least understands the process well enough to walk you through it.

That said, something like a men’s group does work. The only condition is that the group needs to be focused on quitting the addiction.

If you’re going for this strategy, you’ll need to set up a mechanism to stay on track. For example, supporting each other by checking in every other day. Giving your friends access to your porn-blocking app is also a good idea. This way, you’ll have to reach out to them before watching porn.

It’s important to choose well. You need accountability partners that motivate and uplift you. Going down this road on your own can be grueling. Accountability partners who are on the same team, working towards the same goal, and navigating the same wild seas as you are a priceless asset.

This is exactly what we do in The Tantric Man Experience. We support you, keep you accountable, help you reach your own goals, and achieve your full potential.

If you want help to quit your porn addiction or simply feel like becoming part of a supportive team, watch our free training for men. In the end, you’ll find instructions on how to apply for the program. Don’t doubt it for a moment: your sex can be fulfilling. Your drive can be more potent. Your life can be everything you want it to be.

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FAQ

What is the best porn addiction treatment?

The best porn addiction treatment is a multi-faceted approach. Combine support from friends or other men, tantric practices with deep emotional work. The first two will help with the addiction itself and the latter will tackle the root cause.

How common is internet pornography addiction?

Pornography addiction affects 5-8% of adults. Porn addicts spend an average of 11-12 hours per week watching porn. Porn is just as addictive as substance addiction. The only difference is that it is seen as more socially acceptable.

What are the negative consequences of porn addiction?

Compulsive sexual behavior, mental health issues, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, loss of time and productivity and damage to romantic relationships. There are of course many more, but these are the most common.

Are there withdrawal symptoms from quitting porn?

As with any addiction, there are withdrawal symptoms from ‘coming off’ porn. The main are anxiety, restlessness and a general sense of irritation. If you can push through, the reward will be worth the effort.

What is the best sex addiction treatment?

Just like any other addiction, sex addiction is mental disorder that damages lives. If you are struggling with a sex addiction, cognitive behavioral therapy from a mental health professional is very helpful. Counseling is also commonly used in the treatment of sex addiction.

Can a young person be addicted to porn?

Yes. A young person can be addicted to porn. Being a minor does not make someone immune to a porn addiction.

 

Steffo Shambo

Steffo Shambo

Mentor at Tantric Academy

Steffo Shambo is the founder of the most reliable self-empowerment system on the planet, that has transformed hundreds of men’s marriages from all around the world. His specialty is helping men realize their full masculine confidence, intimate power, and depth of connection with their spouse.

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