The 11 Step ED Cure: Beat Erectile Dysfunction With Tantra

Steffo Shambo

Updated on Apr 10, 2024
ED cure

Are you looking for the ultimate treatment for erectile dysfunction? Have you tried everything, but nothing worked? Then it’s time for a new approach. Cure ED with tantra in just 11 steps. Read this comprehensive guide on how to overcome this sexual dysfunction once and for all.

Do you find yourself struggling to get hard or to maintain an erection whilst making love or engaging in foreplay?

If so, you may be experiencing erectile dysfunction – a common but debilitating problem. In this extended article, we will dive deep into the issues surrounding men’s penile problems.

The physical and mental causes, the cures, tips for communicating with your partner, and the problems associated with the use of viagra, which addresses symptoms rather than causes.

If you are dealing with ED and want to find a natural, long-term, lasting solution that can truly turn your sex life and your confidence around – you have come to the right place.

ED: a common problem

When a man with healthy penile function becomes aroused, the corpora cavernosa fills with blood and produces an erection. This is what makes sexual activity possible.

Erectile dysfunction is the cause of a great deal of suffering for many men around the world. Out of all men’s sexual health problems, it is the most commonly reported issue. My experiences as a tantra teacher and coach confirm this. I receive so many comments and messages from distressed men who are suffering from sexual dysfunction, erection anxiety and penile issues. They are desperately seeking treatment.

Some of these men have been dealing with erectile dysfunction for years. For others, it is a new thing and they are desperately wanting to know what causes sudden erectile dysfunction.

Men’s penile problems are estimated by this research to affect 10% of males at some point in their lives, with the USA having the highest rate, at 22% .

22% – that’s over 1 in 5 .

According to Yale Medicine , this figure could be even higher at 1 in 4. “A 2013 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine noted that 1 in 4 men under the age of 40 who sought treatment for ED actually suffered from the condition. Almost half had severe ED.”

In 2019, annual sales of viagra generated around 500 million US dollars for Pzifer alone. The erectile dysfunction drugs market is predicted to reach $3.2 Billion this year.

You don’t need penile implant surgery – do it the natural way!

Some men are even turning to penile implant surgery (penile prosthesis), penile injections (ouch!) or a urethral suppository to overcome problems associated with impotence. In addition to the multi-billion dollar viagra industry, the male sexual dysfunction market is HUGE.

Luckily, medical and pharmaceutical interventions like these are usually not necessary. Through simple interventions such as diet and lifestyle changes, the problem can be overcome naturally.

If you feel alone in your search for an ED treatment – hopefully you can see that you aren’t. Not at all.

The impacts of erectile dysfunction

Unfortunately, there is a lot of shame, embarrassment, and stigma attached to sexual performance. Men’s penile problems are often swept under the carpet and not talked about. This impacts feelings of masculinity. Many men never seek treatment. Thus they deal with the problem for years at a time, or for their entire lives.

Any degree of erectile dysfunction can make life very difficult, especially when it comes to love and sexual relationships. A study conducted by the Impotence Association into the problems associated with sexual dysfunction reported that:

  • 62% of men dealing with ED felt that the problem had lowered their self-esteem
  • 29% said that their relationships had been negatively impacted
  • 21% said that their relationship had ended as a direct consequence

I cured my own penile issue and now men from across the world to do the same. I therefore find all of these statistics very sad.

The answer is not viagra (more on viagra later). Treatments like viagra or penile prosthesis temporarily masks the symptoms. It disconnects you from your heart. This simply exacerbates the problem even further.

To cure ED symptoms and any men’s sexual health problem, you need to first understand the reasons behind it. Second, you need to know what the appropriate treatment is for each reason.

So let’s get down to it and look at the most common mental and physical causes of ED.

But first, we are going to rule out one reason that it definitely is NOT…

ED is not because of your age

Let’s bust one of the biggest myths out there when it comes to erectile dysfunction – that it is something that comes with age.

This is simply not true. There are many causes for ED and poor penile health. Age is NOT one of them. Peyronie’s disease is the only exception to this rule. A health condition affecting men over 40, it is when the penis becomes curved. In some but not all cases it can also lead to erection issues.

I have had many clients well into their 60’s and 70’s who have managed to overcome ED easily and naturally. They just needed the proper guidance, knowledge, and tools.

It breaks my heart to know that there are men out there with an erection problem who believe it is because they are too old.

Every man is physically able to achieve erectile function – regardless of his age.

Now that we have ruled out age, we will see what the reasons actually are. If problems with a weak erection aren’t caused by age, what ARE they caused by? (Hint: the function of your blood vessels is very important!)

The causes of erectile dysfunction

The causes of poor penile function can seem complex at first, but when simplified, they can really be broken down into two categories. Physical and mental.

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Physical causes of ED

The 9 main physical causes of weak erection and erectile dysfunction are:

1. Poor diet

Just in case you’ve been living underneath a rock recently, the things that you put inside your body have a really big impact on the things that you get out of it. The primary example is a strong, solid erection.

Having healthy blood vessels and a balanced endocrine (hormonal) system are two absolutely crucial factors when it comes to getting an erection.

To get a strong boner, you need plenty of blood to be able to flow to the penile arteries.

Both of these things are directly impacted by the food that we eat.

If you are dealing with ED, adjusting your diet in order to balance your hormones and boost the strength of your circulatory system is going to be your first port of call.

Vascular disease and endothelial dysfunction are big culprits for problems with sexual function. And guess what? Vascular disease and endothelial dysfunction are direct consequences of poor diet.

Sugar, red meat, alcohol, and processed (packaged) foods are the biggest boner-killers out there when it comes to foods. If you are looking to cure ED, removing them from your diet is an absolute must.

Instead of sugary foods, packaged foods, and alcohol, eat fresh foods and vegetables. Processed foods and fast foods contain high levels of inflammatory cooking oils, sugars, chemicals, and BPA’s. Fresh foods are as nature intended them to be.

Additionally, numerous scientific studies from the American Urological Association have shown that eating meat can contribute to ED. The Netflix documentary The Game Changer demonstrates how men who eat a healthy plant-based diet have better erections than those who eat meat. This is partly due to a meat-based diet being associated with high blood pressure.

2. Obesity, heart disease, coronary artery disease and diabetes

Billions of people across the world are overweight. A similar number are suffering from diabetes mellitus, heart disease and coronary artery disease. All of these conditions are interlinked. They all are also contributors towards an erection problem.

If you are overweight or diabetic, address that. Similarly, if you are suffering from heart disease or coronary artery disease, address that. Not only will it improve your quality of life and health. It will quite likely cure any penile problems for good.

Both diabetes and heart disease are linked to blood pressure and vascular disease. Heart disease is a direct outcome of having high blood pressure. High blood pressure is commonly experienced by people living with diabetes.

Although type 1 diabetes is not curable, it can be well-managed with diet and medication. This medication is mainly in the form of insulin injections. If you are a type 1 diabetic and have a weak penile erection, you might want to assess how well you are managing your condition.

Type 2 diabetes mellitus and heart disease are both totally curable through diet, physical activity and lifestyle. See my recommendations above.

Tackling diabetes and heart disease will not only help to improve sexual function and sexual health. It will also reduce your chance of having a heart attack or a stroke.

3. Low testosterone

Our endocrine system is a delicate balance. For women, estrogen tends to go out of balance. For men however, the problematic hormone is testosterone.

When testosterone is too high or too low, problems arise.

Issues with sexual function are actually a big symptom of low testosterone. Maintaining a healthy testosterone level can help far more than taking any oral medication for ED.

Testosterone levels can become low for a variety of reasons.

The most common are:

  • Stressful lifestyle and other psychological factors
  • Lack of exercise
  • Poor sleep (at least 8 hours a night is paramount for physical health and strong erections)
  • Bad diet
  • Exposure to toxins eg. through BPA plastics
  • Environmental pollutants

Testosterone is the hormone that fuels up our sex drive. It keeps us feeling lusty and full of desire. If Testosterone is low, you will have a decreased sex drive and a weaker erection.

When Testosterone levels are adequate, you will wake up in the morning hard. Whereas when this isn’t happening, or is happening less, you might well be suffering from low Testosterone.

In my mentorship program The Tantric Man Experience, I guide men through my testosterone boosting regimen. This regimen naturally increases their testosterone levels. The increased T-levels are confirmed with a blood test before and after my regimen.

You can also read my article on sunning your balls to learn more about this natural method for boosting testosterone.

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4. Problems with the prostate

Problems with the prostate such as inflammation or infection can cause ED. If your prostate is not healthy, you could encounter penile issues.

We will talk more about how to maintain a healthy prostate later in this guide.

5. Smoking

Smoking doesn’t just make you a worse lover by giving you bad breath, yellow teeth, cardiovascular disease and reduced physical fitness. It also affects your ability to get and stay hard.

Why? Because smoking leads to tissue damage and reduces the flow of blood to the penis. This causes impotence and ED.

By leading to cardiovascular disease, smoking further contributes to ED. Cardiovascular disease leads to hypertension. As we have already discussed, hypertension is a leading cause of ED.

Whatsmore, the chemicals in cigarettes can damage the blood vessels so much that the penis actually shrinks. This can leave you unable to get an erection or have sexual intercourse at all.

Need any more inspiration to quit smoking? 😉

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6. Weak pelvic floor muscles

Having a weak pelvic floor can limit your ability to get a strong and lasting erection. In contrast, having a strong pelvic floor can give you strong erectile function.

I have an article here on kegels for men .

Perform these daily. It will help you build the strength of this much-neglected muscle back up.

7. Too much masturbation

Excessive and compulsive masturbation, especially when porn is involved, will desensitize the penis and lead to ED.

I advise against porn for a number of reasons. Speaking of ED, alongside desensitization of the penis it creates another issue: size anxiety …

… The penises we see in porn are usually much larger than the average penis length and girth.

This can lead to (often mistaken) feelings of being too small or inadequately equipped to satisfy a woman.

The average penis size is about 5 inches in length. And the penises we see in porn are about 9 inches long. That is almost DOUBLE the average size, putting these men in a teeny-tiny top percentile.

When we are in between the sheets and about to start getting down and dirty, we can experience such intense anxiety at taking off our underpants and revealing our size that we are in a state of ‘fight or flight’. In this state, blood flow to the penis shuts down. We are rendered totally incapable of getting an erection.

If you can relate to feelings of inadequacy because you are smaller than the d*cks you are seeing in porn, STOP watching it.

Porn is not real life and only reflects a tiny proportion of the population. Regardless of who they are, quitting the addiction is the first recommendation I make to most of my clients.

8. Excessive ejaculation

In both Toaist and Tantrik traditions, excessive ejaculation has been linked to decreased testosterone, physical exhaustion, and the draining of the Ojas energy. Which is a man’s vital life-force energy. If a man ejaculates too frequently, he will experience a weak erection, difficulty getting an erection, and even erectile dysfunction. Therefore it is recommended to practice semen retention to stop draining your sexual energy and getting your erection back.

9. Radiation therapy

Unfortunately, exposure to radiation through cancer radiation therapy is a leading cause of ED.

This is a sad fact and I do hope that we can soon find a treatment for cancer that does not cause this devastating side effect.

Mental and emotional causes of ED

If you have eliminated physical causes such as vascular disease, diabetes and excessive masturbation, the problem is probably mental.

Here are the 6 mental and emotional causes of weak erection and erectile dysfunction.

1. Disconnect between heart and cock

Time and time again I get messages from men who don’t know what is going on. They are struggling to get hard and searching desperately for a treatment.

To me, the problem they have is very evident: a disconnection between their heart and their cock.

These men are trapped in their head. They are believing they want something that their body is saying no to. F*cking as some sort of status symbol instead out of genuine passion, love, and desire to connect deeply. They are unable to integrate or even access their emotions.

The disconnect between heart and cock is something I write and talk about regularly with my clients because I have experienced it myself.

What do I mean by disconnect between heart and cock?

I am talking about those instances in which your mind wants one thing (sex), but your body is not necessarily turned on. In such instances, it can be very difficult to get hard.

If you are wanting to have sex with a woman out of ego, because it proves a point or as some kind of status symbol, your cock will likely not be in it. The body has a deep wisdom and often knows things we do not. If your heart does not truly desire a woman in the same way that your ego/mind does, this wisdom can kick in and make penetration impossible.

head heart cock disconnection graphic

2. Stress

Your autonomic nervous system is composed of two parts: parasympathetic and sympathetic.

The parasympathetic nervous system is active when we are feeling relaxed and comfortable.

The sympathetic nervous system is active when we are feeling stressed and anxious.

In the 21st Century, we are sitting at our desks guzzling coffee (a stressor) and being bombarded with emails. Ever-increasing workloads alongside ever-dwindling pay cheques make us stressed out and anxious.

We thus spend a lot of our time with the sympathetic nervous system dominant. Our systems are being pumped with stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol.

This is a problem when it comes to ED.

In order to get an erection, we must be under the influence of the parasympathetic nervous system. If the sympathetic nervous system is active instead, blood flow to the penis will be blocked. When blood flow is blocked, we will not be able to get hard.

I cannot stress this enough (intentional pun). If you are feeling chronically stressed and anxious in your daily life, you will struggle to get an erection.

This is also where performance anxiety comes from and why it stops you from getting hard. This leads me to the next point…

3. Performance and erection anxiety

Erection anxiety. It’s a vicious cycle for many men.

You are getting hot and heavy between the sheets. As time goes on and you get closer and closer to the time of the main act, you start to feel anxiety related to your performance or your size.

You might be worried about premature ejaculation or your ability to get hard at all.

As the anxiety rises, your boner does the opposite. This makes you even more anxious (thinking “fuuuuuuck! No!! How am I going to explain this to her?!”) . Despite your repeated attempts to will it to come back, it does not. Even with endless sexual stimulation from your hand or your woman, your penis remains limp and flaccid.

Unfortunately, this happening once will usually lead to it happening again and again and again.

Until you manage to let go of the need to impress and allow yourself to relax, explore and play instead.

I could talk about performance anxiety all day. It’s one of my favorite topics. More on it later…

4. Depression and medications that cause ED

Unresolved or unacknowledged grief can cause ED and loss of libido.

So can chronically low mood (sexual depression) and antidepressant medication.

Medications that cause ed:

  • Antidepressants and other psychiatric medicines
  • Antihistamine medicines
  • High blood pressure medicines and diuretics
  • Parkinson disease medicine
  • Chemotherapy
  • Hormonal medicines
  • Some painkillers
  • And some recreational drugs like alcohol, nicotine, amphetamines, and marijuana.

5. Heartbreak

If you have recently split with a long-term partner and tried to sleep with someone else soon afterward, you may have struggled to get it up.

This is natural and normal. It isn’t something that can be remedied with any special techniques.

Time is the best treatment for heartbreak. You simply need space to allow your heart to heal. Be patient. Instead of diving straight into a rebound relationship or a one-night stand, give space to your emotions.

Give space to your sadness and allow yourself to allow it. The less you resist, the more quickly it will move through you.

6. Low self confidence

If you have low sexual confidence, you will be more likely to suffer from performance anxiety. This leads to ED due to the reasons explained above.


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The stamp test

One way to identify the reasons of poor erectile function is via the stamp test. Once you have identified the reason(s), you can then move onto the appropriate treatment.

Just before you go to bed, put on a pair of underpants and pull your penis through the flyer. Alternatively, sleep naked. Place overlapping stamps around your penis. Lie on your back and go to sleep.

If you wake up and the stamps are not broken, this means you did not get an erection during the night and you most likely have a physical problem.

On the other hand, if the stamps are broken, this means you got an erection and the problem is not physical, but either mental or emotional.

the stamp test graphic

The problem of viagra (don’t do it!)

Despite being one of the most commonly prescribed and used pills in the world, taking viagra is the biggest no-no when it comes to curing ED.

Viagra is a strong pharmaceutical drug. It is anything but natural and – like many pharmaceutical drugs – it will simply lead to dependency and line the pockets of the pharmaceutical companies. A highly ineffective treatment for ED, it is nothing more than a symptom-masker.

My teachings always focus on natural cures and techniques, since they are more gentle, holistic, and address the root cause rather than simply mask symptoms.

Viagra will never get anywhere even close to addressing the root cause of ED. It will just perpetuate the problem. Sustained viagra use actually increases your risk factor for developing chronic ED.

Alongside physical dangers, the use of viagra causes a big disconnect between heart and cock. This leads to emotional emptiness. You will feel a giant void whilst making love instead of deeply connected to your partner, who will definitely pick up on this and also feel disconnected.

Lovemaking carries so much potential when it comes to emotional vulnerability, presence, and sexual intimacy. Sex can bring us to states of deep connection and lead to other-worldly, transcendental experiences. Viagra blocks ALL of this.

As if all of the above were not enough, there is even MORE weight to the argument against Viagra. This article cites a clinical trial that has linked viagra to damaged eyesight. This is not looking at super-high doses either. The men in the study took viagra at the recommended dose.

Stay away from viagra or other oral medications for your dick – at all costs.

The prostate – look after your prostate

The prostate is an important part of the male reproductive system that often gets neglected in our everyday health regimes.

It’s incredibly important to keep the prostate healthy, as noted in the list of causes . As we age, it is more likely to become enlarged, inflamed, or infected. Any of these things can lead to erectile dysfunction.

Luckily, it is relatively simple to keep the prostate healthy. As mentioned above, daily kegels go a long way, but they don’t help nearly as much as prostate massage .

The male G-spot – prostate massage

One of the things I am often recommending to my clients – and often being met with hesitation around – is prostate massage.

There are several ways to massage the prostate. You can do so from the outside, by massaging the area around the perineum with your fingers. Pelvic floor contractions (kegels) also help to massage from the inside.

If you want to amp things up a notch and explore the so-called ‘male G-spot’, your partner can also massage your prostate internally.

Also known as ‘milking of the prostate’, prostate massage can be extremely pleasurable. Even if it is not pleasurable at first, remain patient. You might need to just get used to the feeling of a finger inside of your anus.

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The prostate massage technique

In order to massage your prostate, you will first need to get some lube, since it is accessed rectally.

Before ‘going in’, get your partner to massage the entire area around your anus in order to get you feeling relaxed and comfortable. Some shallow insertion first will get you warmed up and ready for deeper penetration.

The massage technique itself is pretty simple. Locating the prostate is the biggest challenge. The prostate has been likened to the shape of a walnut and feels hard, like the end of your nose. Similar to the female G-spot, the prostate is located on the front internal wall.

Once your partner has located the prostate, they can massage it gently with one or two fingers. This should feel extremely pleasurable for you. If it doesn’t, it may take time for you to get used to the feeling and relax into it. When relaxed, and if they keep building and building the sensation, you can experience strong internal orgasms this way.

If you don’t currently have a partner, or you do have one, but they aren’t up for engaging in ass play with you, no fear. You can use a prostate massager or a beginner’s anal dildo. I personally recommend the dildo brand Aneros.

Many men have reported feeling overwhelmed with emotions after these internal orgasms and even crying.

More information on prostate massage

If you want more information read this book on prostate massage by Charlie Glickman.

Despite any initial feelings of hesitation towards the idea, I strongly encourage you to explore this technique with your partner. Not only does it feel f*cking amazing – it’s also extremely important for your mental and physical health.

We men tend to hold onto fear and anxiety. As with all emotions, these are then stored in the body. Fear and anxiety tend to be stored in the anus. This is why prostate massage often promotes a feeling of calm, relaxation, and relief afterward.

Furthermore, prostate massage builds sexual vitality, keeps prostate cancer at bay, and contributes towards a healthier erection.

The problem of porn

Ask any of my clients and they will tell you that I have BIG bones to pick (pun intended!) with porn.

Not only does it have a diminishing impact on your ability to get and keep a strong erection, but porn can also have a disastrous impact upon your sex life in general.

I have had men come to me in the past with porn addictions so bad that they are no longer finding women in the real world attractive.

Even their girlfriends are becoming less beautiful to them. How sad is that?

They find themselves ‘settling’ for women they find just ‘OK’ because they are so used to the unrealistic standards they are seeing in porn. And finding ‘real life’ sex bland, boring and monotonous, struggling to ever ejaculate or really feel turned on.

On top of all of this, their dopamine (effort:reward) systems have become so thrown out of balance that even the smallest task feels like too big an effort. This results in them not wanting to do anything – not anything at all. This leads to overall depression and loss of libido.

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The truth about porn: fact vs. fiction

Porn – just like any other kind of media – is fictional. That means it is made up.

It is often shot over a number of days or even weeks. A large number of variables are introduced that are not present during your typical sex session with a partner.

This means it is not in the slightest bit reflective of real life. But it is being presented to us as if it were. Herein lies the problem.

Watching porn can lead to us having high, unattainable expectations of ourselves and our performance in the bedroom. This can and often does lead to intense performance anxiety and ED.

If I have not yet made my case strong enough, here is some more for you. A 2016 study using old and new data on erectile dysfunction concluded that there is a clear link between porn and failure to get and keep an erection in men under 40. There is even now a condition called PIED – Porn-Induced Erectile Dysfunction.

Struggling with getting it up with your partner? Still enjoy watching and masturbating to porn, even only occasionally? I cannot advise strongly enough that you quit right now.

I know the addiction can be strong. As with all low effort:high reward addictions, it can be very difficult. But being able to make passionate, sweet love to your woman for hours is so much more rewarding over the long run.

What’s the best way to cure ED?

As you can probably see, the problem is not straightforward. For this reason, neither is the answer.

Some of my clients who come to me in their search for an ED cure have purely physical problems. Others have purely mental problems. While others have a combination of both. Each individual requires a different set of tactics.

Without knowing you personally, it is hard to prescribe just one or even two techniques that will help to cure your ED.

Of course, it would be foolish for me to give away all of my secrets for free on the internet. Moreover, some of them are just not teachable through a simple blog post. They need guided coaching. Therefore they remain reserved for my paid clients only. But aside from my special techniques, here are some of the best, tried, and tested methods for banishing erectile dysfunction that I have come across during my life.

Depending on what you have identified to be the root(s) of the problem, pick and choose the methods most applicable to you.

Here are my top picks of the best 11 method to cure ED:

ED cure 1 – awakening the senses

Do you find yourself trapped in your mind when it comes to sexual encounters? Is your mind leaping ahead to worrying about going floppy in bed whilst you are still at the dinner table?

If so, the ‘awakening the senses’ technique could help a great deal to keep both you and your partner in the present moment.

The method is very simple. Perform it in a quiet place where you will not be disturbed.

  1. Close your eyes and take a few deep, relaxing breaths.
  2. Once you are feeling relaxed, all you have to do is focus on each one of your five senses. Starting with your sense of sound, hear what you are hearing. Next, feel what you are feeling (touch). Then move onto taste, smell and sight. Explore each sense with curiosity and interest.
  3. When you have honed in on each sense individually, combine them all. Explore what you can see, hear, feel, smell and taste around you.
  4. Focus on the pleasure that is entering your awareness through the gateway of the five senses. Now, draw that pleasure down to your groin and your genitals without touching yourself. In your mind’s eye, seize it and physically shift it. If you can generate even the slightest physical tingle of arousal, you are doing very well.
  5. Add to the arousal by conjuring a memory or a scene that turns you on sexually. Bring into your awareness the way that sex can feel, smell, taste, sound and look like.

This classic technique from tantra increases self-awareness. It also brings you into your body and awakens you to the delight of being in the ‘here and now’.

ED cure 2 – tantric breathing

A foundational element for men’s sexual health and a pillarstone of all tantra courses. I have a powerful YouTube video breaking tantric breathing down in a simple way.

Activating both your masculine power and your sexual power, this exercise is deeply grounding and nourishing. It is also a powerful treatment for ED.

By breathing up and down through the central channel we feel more centered, grounded, and aligned.

By inhaling in a specific way through the tongue, we activate our Swadhisthana Chakra. Swadhistana Chakra is located in the sacrum. It is the center of our sexual desire and urges.

This technique is particularly helpful if your weak erection has mental or emotional causes. Practice it every day to strengthen your sexual fire and overcome mental blockages.

ED cure 3 – learn to harness and move your sexual energy

One of the greatest gifts of consistent tantric practice is the ability to harness and channel sexual energy.

What does it mean to ‘channel’ sexual energy? It means to move it and direct it, with intention.

On the subject of sexual energy, I regularly say to my clients: ‘Master your sexual energy, master your life.’

Sexual energy is the most powerful force on the planet. There is just no getting away from that fact. Though most people are unaware of it, sexual energy carries a strong potency. An undeniable charge that can be used for different purposes.

When you awaken to the power of sexual energy and put the time and effort into learning to control it, you can move it around your body.

For someone who is dealing with ED, you can send this energy to your sacral center (Swadhistana Chakra) and use it to quite literally charge up your sexual organs. Like plugging your laptop cable into a wall when the battery is weak – this will provide you with more strength and vigor when it comes to maintaining a solid erection.

I am teaching my students my own method called the Life-Force Activation practice. This practice is strong. So strong that most men feel a charge of ‘electricity’ on their first, second, or third time performing it. It’s nothing you can find on youtube or the internet.

It’s like the Wim Hof method on steroids.

My student Jamie said:

“It’s such a life changer. Every day I can activate this superhuman power inside of me and feel invincible every day. It’s almost like a drug now. Every day I need to get that hit. Full of energy, confidence, and vitality.”

semen retention super man

ED cure 4 – create an NLP ‘trigger’

This method takes some time and effort to ‘install’ into your psyche. But like taking the time to learn to drive a car, once you have done it, it will become second nature to you and accessible at any moment.

An NLP trigger can quite literally make you hard at the snap of your fingers.

NLP stands for neurolinguistic programming. It allows us to change our thoughts and behaviors in order to achieve a desired outcome. In this case, the desired outcome is an erection.

Here is a brief run-down of how to do it:

  1. Masturbate until you are very hard, but still far from the point of ejaculation.
  2. Perform a specific action – something you would NOT normally do (because you don’t want to be accidentally triggering erections all day long!). For example, you could use your thumb and index finger to squeeze the bridge of your nose.
  3. Repeat every day for 3-4 weeks.

After the 4 week period, your brain will create a connection between the action (eg. the nose squeeze) and an erection.

You should now be able to get a strong erection every time you perform the action.

ED cure 5 – eat healthily and exercise

As indicated above in the list of physical reasons, you are what you eat. If you eat sh*t, you’re going to feel like it, and perform like it in bed!

If you have been eating junk food for a period of time and are now wondering what caused your sudden erectile dysfunction, look no further. Just look at your diet.

Eliminate processed foods, ALL forms of sugar (that includes ‘healthy’ sugars like coconut sugar, molasses, agave, etc), grains (particularly gluten) and reduce meat products from your diet.

Stick to plenty of organic whole foods, fresh fruits, vegetables and starchy tubers like potatoes, sweet potatoes and pumpkin. Try to limit consumption of meat. If you must eat meat, eat fish and make sure it isn’t processed. Processed meats are full of preservatives, unhealthy cooking oils, sugars and nitrates. All of these things are inflammatory.

Exercise is important for many reasons. Not only does it improve our physical health and stamina by building muscle and reducing inflammation. It also improves our mental health by giving us a nice boost of endorphins (feel good chemicals). Exercise is a mood booster. After a workout we feel more confident, happy and energized. Confidence and a positive state of mind are very important when it comes to overcoming ED.

Benefits of exercise on erection quality

Not convinced yet? Here is a concise list of all the benefits of exercise when it comes to enhancing your libido and strengthening your erection:

  • Alters cholesterol profile – allowing blood to flow more freely through your body (and to your cock)
  • Improves overall cardiovascular strength – leading to better erections
  • Boosts testosterone (Strength training and HIIT is one of the BEST testosterone boosters)
  • Enhances your self-confidence and makes you radiate sex appeal and desirability

If you don’t already exercise every day, try to work just half an hour of it into your daily routine. If you feel like you don’t have time for it? Bullsh*t. We make time for the things that are the most important to us. Maybe you need to assess your priorities and see what is really of the greatest importance to you.

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ED cure 6 – the sexual turn-on visualization

Visualization has become a bit of a buzzword in recent times. Although some consider it to be woo-woo, there is actually some solid evidence behind its effectiveness when it comes to curing ED.

Here is how to use visualization to get and stay hard on mental command:

NOTE: when first trying this technique, use it alone for the first few times. Once you’ve gotten the hang of it, then you can use it during sex.

  1. Masturbate until you have a strong erection.
  2. Focus on the actual, physical sensations present now that you are turned on. For example, you might feel the head of your penis swelling, and a warmth or a tingling sensation in your balls.
  3. Hone in on these sensations. Close your eyes and ask yourself where the epicenter is. Where is the strongest point? If the sensations had a color, what color would it be? What about texture? Include these textures and colors in your visualization.
  4. Create as detailed a picture in your mind’s eye of your arousal as you can. Focus on it for as long as you can and then visualize the colors, textures, and patterns spreading throughout your entire body.

Once mastered, this technique will turn up the dial on your arousal level – quite considerably. You can then call upon it whenever you are in a sexual situation and wanting to get hard.

You can even use this technique with your partner to help both of you become even more sexually charged and hungry for each other.

ED cure 7 – testicle sunbathing

In this article , I talk about the importance of getting the sun on your balls.

Low testosterone will result in decreased libido and a weak erection. Luckily, nature has a simple and free solution! Getting the sun on your testicles can increase testosterone production by 200%.

Not only that, but daily sunlight exposure keeps us topped up with the all-important vitamin D. Vitamin D plays a role in maintaining our immune system and also ensuring we get enough deep sleep.

There has never been a better reason to sunbathe naked!

ED cure 8 – work on your sexual confidence

Being comfortable in your own skin – whatever shape it might take – is incredibly important.

Unfortunately, it is becoming more and more difficult in modern society to feel good about yourself. We are constantly slammed and bombarded by advertisements and imagery coming from social media. This causes a great deal of comparison and leads so many of us to feel bad about ourselves.

Add porn consumption to the mix and an ever-growing proportion of men are suffering from low self-confidence and performance anxiety.

This becomes a self-perpetuating cycle whereby low confidence leads to ED, and ED leads to even lower confidence.

It’s a difficult cycle to break out of, but it isn’t impossible and life really doesn’t need to be this way. Sex is supposed to be enjoyed. The sacred act of sex is supposed to be one of life’s GREATEST pleasures so it is to my true and utter dismay that it is the cause of so much suffering for so many men.

I have written a full article on becoming more sexually confident here . In this article, I share my three secrets to breaking the shackles of low sexual confidence.

How to overcome low sexual confidence:

  • Dealing with shame . The lowest vibration and most toxic of all emotions is shame. When it comes to sex, our shame can be particularly sticky
  • Quitting porn. As I have already outlined, I advise against watching porn. It is difficult or even impossible to watch it and not be influenced by it.
  • Shedding limiting beliefs . A limiting belief is a story that our mind creates. A story that we then believe to be true and live our lives by. Eg. ‘I am never going to be able to get a good woman because I cannot make love to her properly due to my ED’. A limiting belief can easily become a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby we are the manifestors of our own downfall. Specifically when talking about ED, limiting beliefs can lead to persistent performance anxiety

Read my article to learn how to work through these blockages and become more sexually confident.

ED cure 9 – the body reset: energy configuration

The premise of the body reset is that there are three basic energy centers in the human body.

These are the head, the heart, and the sexual organs (genitals).

The head governs the mental. The heart governs the emotions. The sexual organs govern the sexual.

If you are someone who works in a ‘problem solving’ job (such as a 9-5 in a corporate office or a lawyer), you are going to be spending most of your day (and your life) in your head, performing tasks using your mental energy.

Truth is, we spend most of our waking hours at work. Even during COVID-19 when many of us are working at home, we are still ‘at work’ in our minds.

When you come home at the end of the day, it can be difficult to make the switch and move your energy to your sexual center. This is necessary in order to get an erection.

Equally, if you are upset or stressed and therefore in your emotional center, it will also be difficult to get an erection.

In order to get hard, you need to work on your body-energy configuration. Through doing so, you will be able to identify which center you are in and then move freely between them.

If what you want to do is to have sex, but you find yourself too in your head or in your emotions, you need to do a body reset.

A body reset is any action that takes you out of your mentally or emotionally charged state, and into your physical body. Some of my go-to body reset techniques are a cold shower, dunking my face/balls into a bowl of ice, exercising intensely for 5 minutes, or doing this releasing pranayama exercise.

ED cure 10 – herbs and supplements

Instead of going down the path of viagra or other types of ED medicine(more on that later), it is best to stick to natural herbs and supplements.

Adaptogens in particular are helpful. These help to regulate the body’s hormonal system and bring things into balance. Some adaptogens you can use are ashwagandha, cordyceps, ginseng and maca.

Herbs to help with blood flow and therefore with getting an erection are: horny goat weed, ginkgo biloba, tribulus, and L-arginine.

ED cure 11 – extracorporeal shock wave therapy

A newly emerging technology has had men across the world blasting tens of thousands of sound waves into their penises. They are doing this to turbo-charge their erections.

Sounds crazy, right? Wrong!

Its effectiveness has actually been proven by over 40 double-blind, placebo-controlled scientific studies. For men who were not even responding to viagra, multiple sessions of shockwave therapy helped them to finally get erections. Some of the men even reported stronger orgasms!

At $500 a session it is expensive, but as it gains popularity and the technology advances over time, it is likely to become cheaper in the future.

If you have exhausted all of the other options on this list and still can’t get an erection – you might want to give shockwave therapy a try.

PHEW. That was a LOT of information, huh?

I suggest that before you try any of these 11 techniques, you address the most important technique of all: communication with your partner.

Communicate: the first step for anyone wanting to cure ED

For any man who comes to me with a problem with a weak erection and erectile dysfunction, the first piece of advice I give is to talk to their partner about it.

If you don’t, things remain unsaid but it doesn’t mean that they are un-felt.

The thing with ED is that there is just no hiding from it. If you can’t get it up, you can’t get it up. It’s the very visible elephant in the room.

Both parties notice and are aware of what is going on.

Not speaking about it can create awkwardness and feelings of confusion. The woman doesn’t want to make the man feel bad or like he is being shamed. At the same time, she is disappointed, frustrated, and confused herself. If it happens over and over again, she may start to wonder if the problem is with her.

This is why you need to let her know that it isn’t, and also to just diffuse the tension around the situation. As with all things in relationships, the more we ignore things and sweep them under the carpet, the bigger the unspoken issue will become.

Don’t do it alone

Regardless of whether the relationship is a new one or an old one, I encourage you to be honest and up front about the problem. If she is truly a woman that loves, respects, cares for, and deserves you – she is going to be understanding. Whatsmore, she is going to want to help you. At the end of the day, we are all human and we all go through health problems from time to time. ED is just another one of those. It’s not a life sentence, although I know it can feel that way sometimes.

Forget ED medication, painful penile injections and other temporary, symptom-masking fixes.

Once you have communicated and been open with your woman about your erectile dysfunction, you will feel like a weight has been lifted. This will most likely relieve you of some of your performance anxiety. This might be all you need to get beat the problem! I have seen this happen before several times with clients.

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What if nothing has been working and you still need help?

I know how devastating ED can be for your confidence and self-worth since I have dealt with erection issues myself.

Whatever the reasons you have self-identified for your erectile dysfunction, I want to assure you that it CAN be cured easily and quickly. Simple measures like stopping porn, talking with your partner about the issue, and gaining some basic control over your sexual energy are often all it takes to completely heal the issue.

In some cases, it can take more time as you work with methods like the visualization technique and to install an NLP trigger. But it still works.

In my own case, I realized that I had a big disconnect between my heart and my cock. I was having sex with a number of different women at the same time during a period in my life when I was into open relationships. But I wasn’t doing it for the right reasons. My heart wasn’t into it, and eventually my cock just started saying no – before my mind had time to catch up and realize what the problem was.

Have you tried the methods listed in this article but still struggle with a weak or non-existent erection? Is your ED impacting your masculinity and diminishing your sexual confidence? It is blocking you from attracting a good woman into your life? Or maintaining a satisfied woman at home? If so, watch my free training for men to get help solving this problem once and for all.


What really works for ED?

Addressing a poor diet, managing your stress levels and psychological techniques can all be effective techniques for curing ED.

What, if anything, seems to improve your symptoms?

Open communication with your partner can reduce performance anxiety-related ED. Also cutting out alcohol, cigarettes and processed foods. Managing your stress levels and using techniques from within tantra to control your sexual energy.

Do topical creams work for erectile dysfunction?

In some cases, yes. In others, no. As each case is so different, it is impossible to generalize.

Can erectile dysfunction be reversed?

Absolutely. The first step is understanding the reasons behind YOUR erectile dysfunction. Next, find the appropriate techniques and use them!

Does ashwagandha help with erectile dysfunction?

Yes. Ashwagandha helps with erectile dysfunction through it’s adaptogenic properties. Adaptogenic herbs help our bodies to deal with stress. Since stress is a big cause of erectile dysfunction, ashwagandha can be very useful in fighting the problem.

What types of treatments are available?

Medical treatments such as penile prosthesis, implants, injections and pharmaceuticals are available but not recommended. More recommendable treatments are healthy diet, exercise, techniques for managing stress and channelling sexual energy.

Which vitamins help with erectile dysfunction?

The most helpful vitamins for erectile dysfunction are vitamin D, vitamin B9 and vitamin B3 (niacin).

How do you know your ED is physical and not mental?

You can be sure that your ED is physical and not mental by performing the stamp test. Wrap back to back stamps around your cock before you sleep at night. If you wake up and the stamps have not been broken, the problem is physical.

Can herbal remedies help or hurt erectile dysfunction?

Herbal remedies can definitely help. Anything that improves blood flow (such as gingko biloba) or reduces stress (adaptogenic herbs) can be useful to someone dealing with ED.

Can lifestyle changes and natural treatments help erectile dysfunction?

Yes, lifestyle changes are often the number one way to help erectile dysfunction. Proper diet, exercise and sleeping habits are often all that is needed to cure ED.

What is erectile dysfunction and what are the signs and symptoms?

Erectile dysfunction is the inability to achieve or maintain an erection. The main symptom is finding it impossible to get hard when sexually aroused.

What happens if the first treatment doesn't help?

If the first treatment for ED doesn’t help, you simply move onto the next. Don’t give up hope and stay positive! This alone will help you. Keeping your emotional state positive and your vibration high is so important in overcoming any health concern.

Can weight loss help treat erectile dysfunction?

Yes. Especially for people who are overweight or obese. Getting to a healthy weight is very likely to help or even cure the issue.

What tests do you suggest to find the cause of your ED, and why?

The stamp test (see above) is the best way to distinguish between a physical and mental cause of your ED. Once this has been done, you need to use your discernment. Look at your overall mental, physical and emotional health to determine why you are struggling with ED.

How do doctors treat erectile dysfunction?

Unfortunately most doctors will simply prescribe viagra and then move on. Good doctors will identify if you are overweight, diabetic or suffering from another disease contributing to ED. They may prescribe a PDE5 inhibitor such as sildenafil as a temporary measure. A good doctor will then work with you to treat that disease and in doing so, the ED should be cured.

What, if anything, seems to worsen your symptoms?

Cigarettes, alcohol, excessive masturbation, recreational drugs (including cannabis) and stress all worsen ED symptoms.

How will side effects of erectile dysfunction medicines effect me?

The primary side effect is dependency and disconnect between heart and cock. These medicines should be avoided at all cost. Just as with any other drug, they have side effects.

What medications do you take, including any herbal remedies or supplements?

Ashwagandha and niacin.

How can you fix your erectile dysfunction without pills?

Address any unhealthy diet and exercise habits. Reduce stress and learn to control your sexual energy.

What are the alternatives to the primary approach that you're suggesting?

The primary approach is keeping physically and mentally fit and healthy. There is no alternative or way around this. It is absolutely crucial for overcoming ED.

Can you buy erectile dysfunction medication over the counter?

In some countries you can. In others you need a prescription. These medications should be avoided at all costs.

Why do you keep losing your erection?

The main cause of a lost erection is stress. It can also be due to high blood pressure or rapidly diminished arousal.

How is nitric oxide related to ED?

Nitric oxide helps each blood vessel in the penis to open and become filled with blood. This is due to the vasodilatory effects of this compound.

What is the fastest way to cure erectile dysfunction?

There is no overnight cure for erectile dysfunction. The most effective methods including techniques from NLP, reducing body weight/hypertension and managing chronic stress.

Can stress and anxiety cause erectile dysfunction?

Yes. Stress and anxiety put you under the control of your sympathetic nervous system. When this is the case, blood flow to the penis shuts off and you are physically unable to get an erection.

What can cure erectile dysfunction in older adults?

Any erectile dysfunction treatment for young adults will also work for older adults. These include physical activity, diet, sex therapy, NLP techniques and more. Age is NOT a factor.

How long can the average man stay erect?

The average man can stay erect for 5-15 minutes before he ejaculates and loses his erection.

Why is your erection not as strong as it used to be?

Stress, anxiety, poor diet, high blood pressure, vascular disease, heart disease can all present themselves as we age. The older we get, the more of these issues we encounter. This is why many men tend to lose strength in their erections as they get older.

What's the most likely cause of your erection problems?

If you are overweight or obese, it is likely due to this. High blood pressure tends to come alongside being of excess body weight and having healthy blood vessels is vital for erection health. If you are not overweight, a likely cause is stress or performance anxiety.

What foods help you get hard?

Aphrodisiac foods such as dark chocolate and artichokes can help.

At what age do men have problems getting hard?

Men can have problems getting hard at any age, but commonly it happens into middle age. Younger men tend to have healthier testosterone levels, are less stressed and of healthy body weight. For older men it is the opposite and this can lead to problems getting hard.

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Steffo Shambo

Steffo Shambo

Men's Tantric Relationship Coach

I am the founder of The Tantric Man Experience™, a pioneering transformational coaching program for men. With over 1500 hours of certified tantra training in India and Thailand and 7 years of experience helping hundreds of men worldwide save their marriages and reignite passion in their love lives.

I have over 8 million views on YouTube and have been featured on VICE and Newstalk Radio for my life’s work - helping men unleash their full masculine potential.

My holistic FLT method seamlessly integrates ancient tantric philosophy with my modern expertise in relationships, sexuality, dating, and men’s health.

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