I’m Steffo Shambo, The #1 Dating Coach in NYC For Men

I help men improve their dating life and find their perfect match in 9 weeks, without having to be tall, rich, and a good-looking alpha male.

Dating Coach In NYC

NYC is famous for its “cutthroat dating environment” but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to find love.

If you’re looking for love in the city that never sleeps, you deserve a dating coach who can help you overcome the New York dating nightmare 😱

But only the right dating coach is going to help you land the woman of your dreams.

If you’re looking for a real connection, you need the best dating coach NYC has to offer. 

Someone who can help you develop the confidence it takes to ditch the disappointment and master your dating life.

Here’s where I come in. 👋

I’m the dating coach that will help you:

  • Meet gorgeous women attracted to the real you.
  • Develop the self-confidence it takes to dominate the New York City social scene, elevate your dating skills, and overcome whatever’s holding you back from the relationship you desire. 
  • Master your masculine energy and sexual power for mind-blowing passion and unforgettable intimacy.  

To go on more dates, you need someone who knows what it takes to succeed as a single man.

That’s why you found this page.

I know that what works for the shy, introverted guy is different from what works for the extroverted male dripping in self-confidence.

Which is why I created my holistic dating program. 

It’s designed so we go beyond the basics together, identifying any limiting beliefs keeping you from love. 

We’ll also dive deep into your spiritual side so you can meet people with the energy that vibes with your authentic self. 

I’m here to give you what you need based on where you’re currently at so you can land more dates, release any fear around dating, and start to have fun on your journey to finding the ideal relationship.

Watch how Tom went from not dating for over a year to manifesting his dream woman in weeks

Doing the fundamental practice every day for 12 weeks manifested the exact same girl I was visualizing into reality. I have all the tools now to get wherever I want to!!! Thanks, TME and Steffo Shambo”.

- Big Tom, Austria


I’ve helped 100+ men with total dating transformations

Moses testimonial

“Joining TME literally changed my life, and it’s one of the best decisions of my life. The program completely changed my view on relationships, and is the most comprehensive, deepest program. You’ll not regret it. It will be the most significant self-improvement task you have achieved. It only goes up from here”

Moses Michalovich, Israel
Zander testimonial

“Before joining the program I did a lot of therapy. I had 4 therapist, went to AA meetings, mediated and ran 5-10 miles per day. It would help me keep sane, but it wasn’t tackling the core problem.”

Zander Blunt, USA
Freddy testimonial

“I only went on 1 date in my life 5 years ago, now I have dated a few women and even had sex. It changed my whole life, my view on women, self-worth, and self-confidence. I turned 30 last year, and I feel like my life has just started. That’s the difference it made for me.”

Freddy Herre, Austria
Zander testimonial

“Half way through (the program) she could notice a difference in how I looked, how I acted, there’s was this sort of magnetism and curiosity. I suddenly was getting in tuned with different energies and frequencies in the body.”

Zander Blunt, USA
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For me it meant a paradigm shift in life, both mentally and in practice. How to understand being a masculine man in a relationship and at the same time a loving and understanding partner, who can meet my woman on the same level where she is, to be relaxed and happy.

Patrik Wall, Sweden
victor testimonial

“I went on 6 dates with 4 women in 9 weeks without feeling afraid of rejection anymore. And becoming so comfortable to be able to sex-chat and receive nude pics. For me, this is invaluable.”

Victor Leme, Brazil
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Women look at me differently, I am more confident, more horny, more masculine, more yogic, more disciplined, more loving, and more clear on my mission, all as a result of this program.

Jacob Reid, USA
Jake testimonial

“I believed I would never find a woman, so for the past 10 years I did not go on any dates. What happened though the program was a transformation about my personal view of my life, sexuality, relationships, and intimacy. And I ended up going on 3 dates with 3 different women.”

Jake Frankel, USA
Big Tom

“Doing the fundamental practice every day for 12 weeks manifested the exact same girl I was visualizing into reality. I have all the tools now to get wherever I want to!!! Thanks, TME and Steffo Shambo”

Thomas Schirnhofer, Austria
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I’ve noticed already, things are happening in my life, things are falling into place – It almost seems like magic! Every day I can activate this superhuman power inside of me. Full of energy, confidence, and vitality.

Jamie McConochie, UK

Your New York City dating life doesn’t have to suck when you have the right dating coach

Your New York City dating life doesn't have to suck when you have the right dating coach

If you’re like a lot of New York City singles, it might seem like:

  • It’s hard to find meaningful connections.
  • That online dating feels fake and like you don’t measure up.
  • That the city’s “hustle culture” and competitive environment make people less interested in commitment and more out for themselves.

The percentage of singles in New York who didn’t date in the past year at all has risen from 40% to 55%.

The New York Post quoted Ricky Schlott, a Post columnist and reporter from Greenwich Village, as saying:

There are few opportunities to connect here meaningfully.”

The consensus is the dating scene in NYC is notoriously tough. 

If it seems that all NYC has to offer is disappointment after disappointment when it comes to dating, I need to let you know it doesn’t have to be this way. 

The city is full of beautiful women who would be an awesome girlfriend.

It’s just that you might not currently be the man attracting their attention.

Working with a dating coach, however, significantly improves your chances of standing out in a city of over 8 million people.

The right dating coach in New York City is going to help you skyrocket your dating skills. 🚀 

Ready to confidently meet up with beautiful women in a matter of weeks? 

Check out my free attraction training

The dating world doesn’t have to damage your self-esteem

Listen up, guys. 📢

We all know dating apps can ruin your self-esteem and destroy any self-confidence you have.

Someone swiping right on your dating profile shouldn’t determine your sense of self-worth.

Sure, there are thousands of handsome single men that call the Big Apple home. 

But you don’t have to have the looks of Brad Pitt to attract pretty girls.

Any “regular” guy will attract beautiful women that want an authentic man

A lot of men are insecure, but that doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck there and remain single.

I’ll give you the tools it takes to attract genuine women in New York City who dig you for who you are. 

But transformation must happen from within to become the type of man who gets the attention of women he wants.

I’m going to show you how to do it.

I’ve made my life’s work helping men find the right connection and realize true love.

I haven’t always been a dating coach, though. 

I used to be filled with the same worry you are about finding a girlfriend.

I’ve experienced the same downfalls in dating and I have gone through a lot of trauma to make me who I am today.

These days, I’m confident with the man I am and have spent over 1500-hours of certified relationship study and practice in India and Thailand.

I’ve studied with some of the most evolved spiritual gurus, including Sadhguru, Mooji, and Prem Baba.

For years, I’ve taken part in several spiritual practices and rituals to battle against my inner demons that held me back from love. 

Along the way, I learned that to attract the women I wanted, I had to:

  • Face my shadow side.
  • Learn to feel emotion. 
  • Overcome unresolved personal trauma. 
  • Love the little boy within. 
  • Realize my own divinity.

Well, I did all that and more.

Which led me to create the holistic attraction system I use today that’s helped hundreds of men let go of whatever it was keeping them from love.

The 5-step attraction system from the #1 NYC Dating Coach (free training)

In my 5-step attraction system, you’ll learn to:

  1. 1Become the master of your love life and take it in whatever direction you desire.
  2. 2Instantly bring out the real you.
  3. 3Drop the emotional baggage that’s weighing you down.
  4. 4Talk to gorgeous women with spellbinding self-confidence.
  5. 5Date like you know what you’re doing to experience rapid progress in your love life.

You will get real advice from one of the best relationship coaches online for men— from the comfort of your own home. 

No need to step out into the busy New York streets and deal with traffic or try hailing a cab, only to be late to your appointment.

An online dating coach works with your schedule. 

We’ll spend 9 weeks together in my online program, which my clients tell me is far more successful than an in-person weekend workshop. 

Here’s what you can expect:

🚀 Learn to use your masculine and sexual energy to increase confidence and passion with the girls you date. 

🚀  Transform your current physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual state to become the most authentic you.

🚀 Clearly see whatever blind spots have contributed to your dating problems.

🚀 Identify the root cause of your issues with the opposite sex so you can have the love and intimacy you desire.

It’s not just some therapy session where you come to me for advice.

Together, we’ll identify what’s holding you back to attract the woman of your dreams.

Whether you want to get over the low-self esteem, learn how to heal your sexual trauma, or tap into the alpha-male traits that make you irresistible to women… 

…I’ve got you. 

Get help meeting attractive women from someone who’s been in your shoes

Get help meeting attractive women from someone who's been in your shoes

There’s no shortage of dating coaches in NYC, so how do you find the right one?  

Many coaches indeed offer valuable advice. 

But here’s why working with me might be the best decision for you:

💪 The Masculine Experience

I’ve been where you’re currently at. 

I became a dating coach only after doing the wrong thing in the dating scene. 

Then I learned about tapping into my masculine energy and overcame my dating difficulties for good.

And I’m going to show you how to do the same.

🏆 Total Personal Transformation

I’m not just going to transform your love life.

I’m going to help you transform every level of your life so you become the man you really are.

My FLT method goes beyond the ordinary dating advices by taking a holistic approach to attracting love.

You’ll master your communication skills, build your self-confidence, learn how to flirt with beautiful women, boost your masculine energy, and get tips on how to improve your sex game.

Together, we’ll transform your life.

Rapid Results In A Busy City

Time is one of the most valuable things we have.

And it goes extremely fast.

Because traditional therapy might take years before you experience some results. I designed my program to help you experience rapid change.

It’s been working for eight years so far, where I’ve helped hundreds of men succeed in their love lives.

From shy guys who don’t know how to date women, to confident men who weren’t too proud to admit they needed help with love, I’ve helped all kinds of men find love.

And the community of men who have found success at Tantric Academy continues to grow. 

If you want a coach who understands the difficulties guys in New York deal with who can help you change your dating life weeks, I invite you to check out my free training.

Get over whatever’s holding you back from finding love in New York with a male dating coach

I’m a big fan of men getting support from other men. 

Especially when it comes to dating and has been through the process he offers. 

Sure, other coaches can help, but consider avoiding:

👧 A Woman Dating Coach For Men

Women are wonderful and a female dating coach can offer you a woman’s perspective.

But she can’t teach a man how to use to teach a man about how to use a 🍆 when she has a 🐱. 

It’s impossible for a woman to tell a man how to tap into his most powerful masculine energy.

She can tell you things from the viewpoint of a girlfriend, but doesn’t have a clue about what it’s like to be a man with testosterone and testicles.

I posted this question in my Facebook group:

Men over 30; what advice would you give men in their 20s?

Here are some of the answers: 🎤🫳

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😎 The Good-Looking, High-Status Male Coach

Those extremely handsome male dating coaches that focus on coaching other extremely handsome, high-status male clients might not be for the “regular” guy.

If you’re more of an introvert than an extroverted Alpha, you need a coach who knows what it’s like to be an regular shy guy in the dating world.

💪 Getting Support Is A Power Move

Asking for help in your dating life doesn’t make you weak, as society wants you to believe.

You deserve a dating coach in NYC that’s going to work with you as a team. 

I’m going to walk you step-by-step through the process I went through to help me switch my dating script and help countless other men do the same. 

Landing on this page could be a sign to finally do what it takes to go on great dates with amazing women and experience passionate connections with women you connect with. 


Dating Coach NYC FAQ

What is a dating coach for men?

A dating coach for men is like the perfect wingman for your date night.

Instead of giving you cheesy advice, he helps you dominate the dating scene. 🤝

A male dating coach doesn’t just know how to date, he knows what it’s like to have the mindset of a man.

And he’ll help you tap into your innate male confidence so you don’t dread dating. 

The best part is you don’t have to go at it alone. 🐺

The majority of men try to fix their dating lives by themselves, though. 

They don’t ask for help from a professional dating coach because they think it makes them somehow less than a man. 

Which is why most men wonder why they’re still single.

Instead, they suffer because they refuse to ask for help. 

I want to change the idea that you must fix your love life alone and be like a big brother to guys who feel hopeless dating. 

You can always contact me, and I’ll never judge you.  

I’m here to be your friend.

I don’t see reaching out for help as a sign of weakness.

I’ve been rejected by several women. 

So I know just how you feel. 

But I transformed my love life, and I want to know you can do the same.  

I’m going to give you all the skills you need to transform your relationships.

I’ve done it with hundreds of other clients.

Contact me to see how this male dating coach can help you heal whatever’s holding you back from having fun as an NYC single so you can land the girl of your dreams. 📞

What does a dating coach do?

Firstly, do you ever feel like dating in New York City is exhausting?

The city’s busy enough as it is. 🤪

Does it seem like your dating life is stuck in some pattern on repeat? 🔁

Has it been months (or years) since you’ve had sex?  

A dating coach is going to help you out with all this and then some. 

But they’re not all the same. 

I’m the NYC dating coach that will teach you to:

Unleash your inner confidence

No more feeling shy and tongue-tied on the first date anymore. 

I will guide you to ignite your masculine energy, live like a leader, and build rock-solid self-confidence.

Then, you’ll naturally attract amazing women like bees to honey. 🐝 🍯

Heal your trauma and old hurts.

I help you realize whatever self-limiting beliefs, old wounds, past traumas, and energy blocks that are getting in the way of you and your love life.

You deserve to thrive and find a woman you share a genuine connection with. 

You learn to let go of your baggage.

And I will help you do it for good.

Stop the same toxic experiences.

Time to release the same toxic experiences in dating.  

Prepare to experience satisfying, intimate connections with amazing New York women. 

You’re going to learn how to be the man you really are.

Dating coaches are the people who have made dating their career.

They’re the love experts who help you change your dating life for good. 

If you think it’s hard to:

❌ Connect with women in New York

❌ Stop experiencing the same awful dates

❌ Understand how to communicate with women and read their body language

❌ Feel confident around women

It’s time to talk to a dating coach. 💘

They can also help with your struggling (or non-existent sex life). 😉

No more nights spent alone. 💔

Just gorgeous women and great dates. 

If you’re ready to dominate New York City dating, it’s time we connect.

Is it worth hiring a dating coach?

Hiring a dating coach can absolutely be worth it.

They’re like professional pickup artists. 😍

Keep in mind that they’re not all the same and hiring the right dating coach depends on what you want. 🎯

When working with a dating coach who takes a holistic approach that will help you step into your full potential…

Dating coaching is worth it. 💯

If New York’s dating scene has made you feel like you’ll never find a good woman, then dating coaching is WELL worth it. 

Instead of asking yourself if hiring a dating coach is worth it, ask yourself: 

❌ How much more time can you spend playing small or being the nice guy?

❌ Isn’t it time to finally have fun dating instead of dread it?

❌ Have you redone your online dating profile too many times to count without getting anywhere? 

Are you ready to make serious changes to your struggling (or non-existent) love life?

Or do you want to keep reliving the same story?  

A happy, long-term relationship isn’t going to fall out of a New York city skyscraper.

But a dating coach can make a woman fall head over heels for you.

I’d  recommend talking to a dating coach immediately if any of this resonates with you.

Can a dating coach help me?

If you’re ready to find the love you deserve, a dating coach can definitely help you.

If only I’d met my mentors sooner. 

It would’ve saved me so much time succeeding at love.

I wouldn’t have gone through half the heartbreak or soul-crushing rejections. 

Well, sh*t happens. 💩

And I don’t believe in living with regret.  

But I would’ve looked for help sooner if I knew then what I do now. 

I worked hard to become the man I am today. 

I’ve taken over 1500 hours of certified training courses in India and Thailand learning Tantra, yoga, intimacy, holistic healing, and more. 

Therapy can be great, but it can also take years. 

The guys I work with tell me they experience a difference within days. 

Most successful men say it was the support of other great men that got where they are today.  

I’m here to support you on your dating journey as the brotherly dating coach who wants you to avoid years in therapy and see success in love and dating in just weeks. 

As someone who has now taken the role as an experienced mentor, I can help. 

I’d be honored 🙏

What questions should I ask a dating coach?

When you talk to a dating coach, ask questions like:

❓ How will you help me know what’s holding me back in love? 

❓ Why can’t I seem to attract lasting love?

❓ What’s keeping me from the relationship I truly desire?

❓ Why does it seem like I thrive in every area but love?

❓ Do you recognize anything in my personality that might be holding me back?

❓ What are my toxic patterns?

❓ Why do I always meet girls who say they’d rather just be friends?

❓ Why can’t I flirt with the confident masculinity I know is within me? 

Who is the best dating coach in NYC?

You just found him! 😉

If you want to find high-quality women in the Big Apple, we need to talk.

I’m not some regular old dating coach with the worn out tricks of sleazy pick-up artists.  

You’ll be working with a dating and tantra expert.  🤝

I’ve helped so many lonely, single men start attracting gorgeous women in just weeks.

I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. 🍵 

But I am the male dating coach for men who are serious about transformation and finding a meaningful connection with a like-minded woman.  

I’m also for the guys that want to discover lasting change.  

I’m like the big brother who is going to keep you accountable until you transform like other men I’ve mentored.

I won’t let you fail. 

I’m on this journey with you and will stay by your side until you become a man who easily attracts women who are girlfriend material.

How do I find the right dating coach?

To find the right dating coach in NYC, you must find someone who:

Understands what you need. 

Do you know what’s stopping you from experiencing the love you desire? 

Do you need to build your self-image or work on your self-worth? Do you think women you find attractive are out of your league?

Is it hard for you to talk to women?

Do you have fears of intimacy? 

Knowing what your dating downfalls are can help you find the best dating coach for your personal needs.

Has a great success rate.  

Skip the suave NYC dating coach with empty promises. 😎

Seek out a coach with a successful history of helping other men. 

Are their previous clients now dominating their love lives? 

This is the only kind of coach you want to work with. 

Takes an authentic approach. 

Some dating coaches are like used-car salesmen. 

They tell you what you want to hear, convincing you you’re making the best choice. 🚗

And there are a lot of them out there.

They might help you get through the first date, but they won’t help you find a long-term relationship.

You want someone that works with you as a team to help you become the man you are and attract the woman you deserve.  

My FLT method, for example, combines tantric practices with coaching. 

You’ll learn to unleash your inner confidence to easily attract who you want.

Has a great reviews. 

The best dating coaches have plenty of positive client reviews.

I encourage you to read them all.  

It will let you know if the coach has a good success rate.

You don’t need to know everything about them, but knowing how well they’ve helped others can tell you a lot.

It’s not hard to find the right coach when you know what to look for. 

You want someone who understands your needs and can help you change.

Do online dating coaches work?

I’ve made a career out of online coaching.

It works.

I wouldn’t be here if it didn’t.

When you find a coach you connect with, it makes a big difference in the results you see.

You’ve landed on this page for a reason. 

You’re ready for one of the best online coaching programs for single men. 

Well, you just found it. 🥇

I’ve helped hundreds of men transform their lives through my unique approach to coaching. 

I’m proud of what I do and would never put myself out there if I wasn’t confident I could help you.

How much does a dating coach cost on average?

The average cost of a dating coach can be anywhere from $100 up to $10,000. 💸

The cost of coaching is based on a lot of different things.

I offer different pricing options to support the financial needs of different men: 

💰 Free coaching. 

That’s right. FREE. I offer a zero-cost masterclass you can watch whenever you want, however many times you need.

💰 Affordable coaching. 

Next, I offer introductory courses from as low as $27. 🤯

If cash is tight, but you still want to invest in yourself, this is for you.

💰 Private coaching. 

I also offer private coaching sessions.

Working with me one on one in private sessions with a personalized plan starts at $1,000 per month. 💎

Whatever options works best for you, it’s still much more affordable than traditional therapy (which may end up costing you more since it takes a few years 🙄).

The best coaches don’t come cheap. 

Especially in New York City.

But when you work with an experienced coach who can help you transform your life, meet attractive women, and find love in only 9 weeks, your money is spent on one of the best investments you can make. 


You deserve to release whatever fear you hold around love.

Imagine a great relationship, passionate sex, and a solid connection with a woman you love. 

You can’t put a price on that.  

After all… 😉👇

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Are all dating coaches the same?

No, all dating coaches aren’t the same.

One of the best things about my program is that it’s available to men worldwide. 🌎

So many men I’ve mentored appreciate that my sessions offer a custom, personalized plan tailored to your unique needs and location, whether you’re in: 

No matter where you are in this big beautiful world, I’ll help you navigate your love life through natural, ancient practices that stand the test of time. 

Master the basic dating principles and you’ll never struggle with experiencing love again.