9 Badass Divine Masculine Books To Master Your Masculinity

Steffo Shambo

Updated on Aug 11, 2023
divine masculine books

The meaning of divine masculine – books that can help 

What does it mean to be a strong, confident man who exudes the mature, evolved qualities of masculinity?

How does it feel to be sexually empowered as a man?

Life is long. And thankfully so, because it can be a long and erroneous journey to discover the answers to those questions.

Turning to the art of Tantra can help.

Meditation will help you to go within. But discovering oneself sometimes requires help and inspiration from outside.

A push in the right direction.

Any mentor or sexual empowerment coach could teach you about sacred sex. A Tantric masculinity workshop or men’s circle could help you embody your true masculine essence.

Books too can also be very useful. A book is the best friend of the conscious renaissance man.

As an old Chinese proverb says: “A book is like a garden carried in your pocket.”

Inspiration and wise words are all great pointers, but they are merely that. You cannot attain spiritual growth and discover truth without real depth of understanding. The waters are simply too murky.

Call upon your spirit guides and God all you want. All of the modern day master teachers are well read people. And for good reason.

We men need to do our own work, study and problem solving to uncover our true masculine potential.

No one can do it for us.

We need to reclaim the original wild man, the lost masculine archetype, or, as the poet and author Robert Bly metaphorically describes, the “hairy man at the bottom of the lake.”

What are the best divine masculine books you need to read?

Here are my 9 top picks of the best divine masculine books:

the way of the superior man

1. The way of the superior man

Author: David Deida

Good for: Healing self-confidence, spirituality, and sexuality.

This is the first book I ever read on the subject and a total must-read for all men.

It’s considered a classic in Tantra and conscious sexuality. Confronting and challenging, it’s a book that you will either love or hate. It has helped me, along with thousands of other men (and women too) to learn how to merge two seemingly opposite worlds. The worlds of spirituality and sexuality. How to live as a strong, confident man, as well as healing and understanding your feminine side. Everyone has divine masculine energy and divine feminine energy within them. (Take this masculine and feminine energy quiz to determine your dominant energy). Even before I was done with the book, I saw changes in my life. It also benefited my relationship and the sexual intimacy I had with my partner.

iron john

2. Iron john

Author: Robert Bly

Good for: Understanding father/son relationships.

This well-studied poetic book is a pure masterpiece.

It directly addresses the issue of distorted masculinity. Doing so takes you on a journey of what it is to be a man. This is done through a metaphorical story of “Iron John.” It helped me understand the different male archetypes. Also, the book explains how we are mentally disempowered and have our emotional intelligence lowered by our distant fathers. The book explains how parental influences can embed certain ways of being deeply into our consciousness. In today’s modern society we lack a real initiation rite into manhood. I would claim that this is as close as it gets when it comes to rites of passage in book form.

king, warrior, magician, lover

3. King, warrior, magician, lover

Author: Robert Moore

Good for: Understanding masculine energies.

Moore wrote this book within a Jungian framework. His book helps men to understand their own psyches.

This is achieved through an understanding of the four archetypes of masculine energy. This has helped me incorporate and embody the sacred masculine in my daily life. It’s easy to oversee and be predominant in one of the aspects. All four are equally important for a conscious, sacred man. I particularly wish all young men would read this. If they did, maybe they could operate from a place of healthy masculine energy instead of the unhealthy masculine energy that is so commonly seen in younger men. There are many books on divine masculine energy out there. In my opinion, this is one of the best.

No more Mr. Nice guy

4. No more Mr. Nice guy

Author: Dr. Robert A. Glover

Good for: Understanding what women want.

If you are single because women choose jerks over you, this is the book for you.

Women often claim they want the “nice guy” but then end up with the “macho guy”. In fact, they want neither. Women just want a conscious man who will allow them to drop into their sacred feminine. The nice guy syndrome is something I have suffered from before. I have tried to please others while neglecting my own needs. This just causes resentment and lashing out in frustration at my loved ones. If you are dealing with your own mask of the nice guy, this book can transform your life. (Take this people pleaser quiz if you want to find out if you’re a Mr. Nice Guy or not.)


Boost your confidence, master your sexuality, and find your purpose.

So you can reignite the passion in your relationship or attract your perfect woman.

the multi-orgasmic man book

5. The multi-orgasmic man

Author: Mantak Chia

Good for: Enhancing your sexual pleasure.

Did you know that men can also experience multiple whole-body orgasms and energy orgasms?

That we cannot is simply a myth – but a commonly believed one. This book unites the secrets of Eastern Tantric Taoism with the Western scientific mindset. Read it if you want to enhance your work with sacred sexuality and your masculine vitality in the bedroom. This is one of the best books on masculine energy control that I have read. You will also get tips and tricks on how to separate orgasm from ejaculation. I learned a great deal about working with the sexual energy in my body.

Cultivating male sexual energy

6. Cultivating male sexual energy

Author: Mantak Chia

Good for: Using energies.

Mantak Chia reveals the secrets of Taoist sexuality to the general public for the first time.

We learn how to transform sexual energy through the “microcosmic orbit.” He also teaches us how to use that energy to rejuvenate our bodies, minds, and spirits. This propels us into transcendent states of consciousness. Mantak’s book is excellent for realizing and understanding that men have both masculine and feminine energy. Both of which are equally important. Whatsmore, they need to be in balance in order to experience a conscious masculinity.

Fire in the belly

7. Fire in the belly

Author: Sam Keen

Good for: Finding your purpose.

This author is a part-time poet and a full-time deep thinker.

It’s an early men’s book, but much of the content is still relevant today. The book is written to inspire men to go on a quest of self-discovery, to discover their internal fire for life and their purpose.

Keys to the kingdom

8. Keys to the kingdom

Author: Alison A. Armstrong

Good for: Improving relationships.

This 15-year study of men takes you on a journey of discovery into the workings of men, women, and relationships.

The simple-to-use insights can profoundly alter your relationships. Benefits are not limited only to your love life but also relationships with your friends and family. Though it’s been written by a woman, we can learn a whole lot about masculinity from Keys to the Kingdom .

The new manhood

9. The new manhood

Author: Steve Biddulph

Good for: Understanding manhood through hidden spirituality.

This book has a specific mission: to guide men through the “seven steps to manhood.”

Here are the 7 steps to conscious masculinity:

  1. “Fixing it” between you and your father.
  2. Discovering the sacredness of your sexuality.
  3. Meeting your partner on equal terms.
  4. Being a true dad to your kids.
  5. Learning to have real male friends.
  6. Finding the heart and joy in your work.
  7. Freeing your inner wild spirit.

There is a later edition. This has been revised and updated to meet the needs of younger men struggling with modern, 21st Century life.

Beginning to master conscious masculinity

If you really want to embody the divine masculine, books are really your best friend.

Don’t worry if a whole book in one day sounds daunting. Even 5 or 10 minutes a day can make a difference. 10 minutes of reading a day for the rest of your life… Is a lot of reading!

Which other books have helped you transform the way you define yourself as a man in this world? Have you found one book in particular to be key on your path of the evolving warrior?

If you feel like a book deserves to be on this list, please post your suggestion in the comments below.

Finally, if you’re ready to fully embody what it means to be a conscious man, watch my free training for conscious men here.


What are the divine masculine and the divine feminine?

The divine masculine and divine feminine are the highest possible expressions of sacred masculine and feminine energy. They are the opposite of shadow masculine and shadow feminine.

What are some good books for the divine masculine to heal?

‘The way of the superior man’, ‘Iron John’ and ‘King, Warrior, Magician, Lover’. These are my top 3 recommendations for divine masculine books that will help you to heal.

How does the divine masculine view the divine feminine?

The divine masculine views the divine feminine as soft, flowing and full of love. Filling in each other’s blanks perfectly, she is the yin to his yang. Through their sacred marriage, she injects consciousness into the parts of him that once lay sleeping.

Divine masculine energy, what is it, how does it work and why is this important?

Divine masculine energy is stable, supportive and giving. It is important to understand the qualities of the divine masculine.This allows you to operate from the position of your higher self.

What does it mean to be a strong, confident man who exudes the mature, evolved qualities of masculinity?

It means moving through life with assurance and quiet power. Being able to establish high levels of relationship trust, reliable and dominant are also qualities of a highly evolved man.

How do you know when the divine masculine is beginning to awaken?

You will no longer sink into wounded masculine feelings and emotions. Feelings and emotions of the wounded masculine are those such as jealousy, possession and aggression. You will approach life from the position of the sacred masculine instead. If you are trying to tune into the feeling of awakening masculine energy, books can help a lot.

What does it feel like to be sexually empowered as a man?

A sexually empowered man feels confident in his lovemaking and pleasure-giving abilities. He knows his way around a woman’s body and is able to control his sexual energy. This man approaches sexual scenarios from a position of giving rather than one of taking. In giving the utmost pleasure to his woman and bringing her to soul-shaking orgasms, he gets his own deep pleasure and enjoyment.

Can a divine masculine have 2 divine feminine partners?

He can have as many as he chooses. But I do not encourage open relationships or polyamory. I believe there is more to be learned and gained from monogamy and commitment.

What does it mean to be a conscious man?

These days the meaning of ‘conscious’ has become a little convoluted. In the context of this article on masculinity, a conscious man is emotionally intelligent. He has self awareness. Acts are made out of love and kindness.

Why is it said that the divine feminine has to help heal the divine masculine?

The divine feminine can shine a light into areas the divine masculine cannot reach on his own. Through the nurturing hand of the Goddess, the divine masculine can discover his own loving and nurturing side. Once he has done so, healing will take place. If you don’t understand the subject, I suggest you read some books on divine masculine energy. I’ve given you my top suggestions above.

What is the meaning of divine masculinity?

Divine masculinity is overriding any tendencies of greed, aggression, jealousy and control. It is operating from your higher self. Your inner feminine and inner masculine are married in perfect accordance with each other. Just like a twin flame, one cannot exist without the other. If you’re struggling with this concept, reading some books on masculine energy from the list above should help you.

What are the best masculine energy books you’d recommend?

In terms of masculine energy books, I’d suggest ‘King, Warrior, Magician, Lover’. When it comes to masculine energy books, they don’t get much more impactful than this.

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Steffo Shambo

Men's Tantric Relationship Coach

Steffo Shambo is the founder of The Tantric Man Experience. The #1 masculine mentorship program in the world, where he’s helping men master confidence, sexuality, & purpose to reignite the passion in their relationship or attract a meaningful relationship. He’s on a mission to spread a conscious sexual revolution for men worldwide so that they can show up as integrated partners, fathers, and leaders.

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